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Not sure if this is the right place for the topic of funerals but its turned out to be rather amusing to me and the missus.
Neither of us want a funeral, we want what I believe is called a "direct cremation". Ones body is taken away by the undertaker, slipped into the cremation timetable at a convenient point, then post cremation, delivered to the family.
At this point we thought a small gathering of friends and family, if they are still with us, along the lines of drinks and something to eat.
Then comes the disposal or otherwise of the ashes. This has turned out to be a surprisingly joyful subject. It stared off with being left on the mantlepiece in a suitable container. That container has morphed into some very odd ideas, one involving a piston!
The scattering of ashes has been considered, places we have visited, this has brought back very pleasant memories of some wonderful times.
For me, the current favourite is being sprinkled into the air intake of a (running) Spitfire engine.
So, over to you lot, where would you like to end up?
Neither of us want a funeral, we want what I believe is called a "direct cremation". Ones body is taken away by the undertaker, slipped into the cremation timetable at a convenient point, then post cremation, delivered to the family.
At this point we thought a small gathering of friends and family, if they are still with us, along the lines of drinks and something to eat.
Then comes the disposal or otherwise of the ashes. This has turned out to be a surprisingly joyful subject. It stared off with being left on the mantlepiece in a suitable container. That container has morphed into some very odd ideas, one involving a piston!
The scattering of ashes has been considered, places we have visited, this has brought back very pleasant memories of some wonderful times.
For me, the current favourite is being sprinkled into the air intake of a (running) Spitfire engine.
So, over to you lot, where would you like to end up?
djcube said:
Not sure if this is the right place for the topic of funerals but its turned out to be rather amusing to me and the missus.
Neither of us want a funeral, we want what I believe is called a "direct cremation". Ones body is taken away by the undertaker, slipped into the cremation timetable at a convenient point, then post cremation, delivered to the family.
At this point we thought a small gathering of friends and family, if they are still with us, along the lines of drinks and something to eat.
Then comes the disposal or otherwise of the ashes. This has turned out to be a surprisingly joyful subject. It stared off with being left on the mantlepiece in a suitable container. That container has morphed into some very odd ideas, one involving a piston!
The scattering of ashes has been considered, places we have visited, this has brought back very pleasant memories of some wonderful times.
For me, the current favourite is being sprinkled into the air intake of a (running) Spitfire engine.
So, over to you lot, where would you like to end up?
You’re aware you won’t be aware of all these plans? Funerals are for those left behind, not the deceased. Neither of us want a funeral, we want what I believe is called a "direct cremation". Ones body is taken away by the undertaker, slipped into the cremation timetable at a convenient point, then post cremation, delivered to the family.
At this point we thought a small gathering of friends and family, if they are still with us, along the lines of drinks and something to eat.
Then comes the disposal or otherwise of the ashes. This has turned out to be a surprisingly joyful subject. It stared off with being left on the mantlepiece in a suitable container. That container has morphed into some very odd ideas, one involving a piston!
The scattering of ashes has been considered, places we have visited, this has brought back very pleasant memories of some wonderful times.
For me, the current favourite is being sprinkled into the air intake of a (running) Spitfire engine.
So, over to you lot, where would you like to end up?
Have spoken to my parents about this, they brought it up I hasten to add!
My dad wants a simple cremation I think it’s called which is as the OP describes. I think my mum will want the same because she hated having to put on an after service reception on for her mother, in her words “I don’t see why I should have to cater for everyone at my mothers funeral” but she says it’s up to me and my sister.
Whilst I’m fortunate enough to still have both parents I have friends who have lost theirs and they have all said that waiting for the funeral is like a cloud hanging over them so I can see the benefit of not having one but it’s a personal thing, some people need it as an end and to say goodbye.
My dad wants a simple cremation I think it’s called which is as the OP describes. I think my mum will want the same because she hated having to put on an after service reception on for her mother, in her words “I don’t see why I should have to cater for everyone at my mothers funeral” but she says it’s up to me and my sister.
Whilst I’m fortunate enough to still have both parents I have friends who have lost theirs and they have all said that waiting for the funeral is like a cloud hanging over them so I can see the benefit of not having one but it’s a personal thing, some people need it as an end and to say goodbye.
I have written instructions to be left with my will saying I want a direct cremation, no service or mourners, just straight from the morgue to the oven, in the cheapest box available.
I have no desire for my ashes to be spread anywhere.
If anyone wishes to have a drink afterwards to celebrate my passing they are welcome to do so as long as they leave me out of it
I have no desire for my ashes to be spread anywhere.
If anyone wishes to have a drink afterwards to celebrate my passing they are welcome to do so as long as they leave me out of it
Be aware if you wish to scatter ashes within the law you will need the landowners permission. Some councils and organisations are not very obliging when it comes to this. Not that anyone has ever asked for permission.
Also if you do want a direct cremation talk to your local independant undertaker before committing to one of those often advertised schemes with a free pen or gift card.
Also if you do want a direct cremation talk to your local independant undertaker before committing to one of those often advertised schemes with a free pen or gift card.
Monkeylegend said:
If anyone wishes to have a drink afterwards to celebrate my passing they are welcome to do so as long as they leave me out of it
Presumably you will be well out of it by then whichever way it’s done 
. We should probably all have our funerals while we are still alive so we can enjoy them properly 
.But it’s worth remembering that funerals are not for the benefit of the person in the box. I understand the bah-humbug feeling that leads to saying you don’t want it but a funeral is part of the process for many people and a it does help to draw a line that they can move forward from.
My dad died 2 weeks ago and he didn’t want a funeral.
We had an unattended cremation for him yesterday and are having a party with all his friends and family in 2 weeks to celebrate his life. He had a great 91 years so it’s a perfect send off for him.
I’ll be having exactly the same unless being thrown on a bonfire is legal when I go.
We had an unattended cremation for him yesterday and are having a party with all his friends and family in 2 weeks to celebrate his life. He had a great 91 years so it’s a perfect send off for him.
I’ll be having exactly the same unless being thrown on a bonfire is legal when I go.
Badda said:
djcube said:
Not sure if this is the right place for the topic of funerals but its turned out to be rather amusing to me and the missus.
Neither of us want a funeral, we want what I believe is called a "direct cremation". Ones body is taken away by the undertaker, slipped into the cremation timetable at a convenient point, then post cremation, delivered to the family.
At this point we thought a small gathering of friends and family, if they are still with us, along the lines of drinks and something to eat.
Then comes the disposal or otherwise of the ashes. This has turned out to be a surprisingly joyful subject. It stared off with being left on the mantlepiece in a suitable container. That container has morphed into some very odd ideas, one involving a piston!
The scattering of ashes has been considered, places we have visited, this has brought back very pleasant memories of some wonderful times.
For me, the current favourite is being sprinkled into the air intake of a (running) Spitfire engine.
So, over to you lot, where would you like to end up?
You re aware you won t be aware of all these plans? Funerals are for those left behind, not the deceased. Neither of us want a funeral, we want what I believe is called a "direct cremation". Ones body is taken away by the undertaker, slipped into the cremation timetable at a convenient point, then post cremation, delivered to the family.
At this point we thought a small gathering of friends and family, if they are still with us, along the lines of drinks and something to eat.
Then comes the disposal or otherwise of the ashes. This has turned out to be a surprisingly joyful subject. It stared off with being left on the mantlepiece in a suitable container. That container has morphed into some very odd ideas, one involving a piston!
The scattering of ashes has been considered, places we have visited, this has brought back very pleasant memories of some wonderful times.
For me, the current favourite is being sprinkled into the air intake of a (running) Spitfire engine.
So, over to you lot, where would you like to end up?
Halmyre said:
Badda said:
djcube said:
Not sure if this is the right place for the topic of funerals but its turned out to be rather amusing to me and the missus.
Neither of us want a funeral, we want what I believe is called a "direct cremation". Ones body is taken away by the undertaker, slipped into the cremation timetable at a convenient point, then post cremation, delivered to the family.
At this point we thought a small gathering of friends and family, if they are still with us, along the lines of drinks and something to eat.
Then comes the disposal or otherwise of the ashes. This has turned out to be a surprisingly joyful subject. It stared off with being left on the mantlepiece in a suitable container. That container has morphed into some very odd ideas, one involving a piston!
The scattering of ashes has been considered, places we have visited, this has brought back very pleasant memories of some wonderful times.
For me, the current favourite is being sprinkled into the air intake of a (running) Spitfire engine.
So, over to you lot, where would you like to end up?
You re aware you won t be aware of all these plans? Funerals are for those left behind, not the deceased. Neither of us want a funeral, we want what I believe is called a "direct cremation". Ones body is taken away by the undertaker, slipped into the cremation timetable at a convenient point, then post cremation, delivered to the family.
At this point we thought a small gathering of friends and family, if they are still with us, along the lines of drinks and something to eat.
Then comes the disposal or otherwise of the ashes. This has turned out to be a surprisingly joyful subject. It stared off with being left on the mantlepiece in a suitable container. That container has morphed into some very odd ideas, one involving a piston!
The scattering of ashes has been considered, places we have visited, this has brought back very pleasant memories of some wonderful times.
For me, the current favourite is being sprinkled into the air intake of a (running) Spitfire engine.
So, over to you lot, where would you like to end up?
I want a week of mourning amongst my tiny number of friends, with family taking part in a 7-day silence, where the only noise made is the sobbing and reluctant weeping. During this time, all daylight will be shut out, with blinds drawn, candles lit.
On the day of my ceremony, I will be carried through in high-grade, wooden box, with gold plated edging. The top though will be entirely see through, and I will be placed in a way that my eyes are physically pulled open, and my face is in a frown.
I will be driven slowly through the local streets, for a period of exactly 90 minutes, with all attendees walking with their heads down next to the procession.
5 priests will be present, with hymns, prayers, choir boys, and at the end white doves will be launched as I am lowered into a very large hold in the ground. My headstone will be very large, visible from 2 miles away if the weather is clear and every Sunday, mourners will attend to lay flowers and candles.
Other than this, I don't want much of a fuss though
On the day of my ceremony, I will be carried through in high-grade, wooden box, with gold plated edging. The top though will be entirely see through, and I will be placed in a way that my eyes are physically pulled open, and my face is in a frown.
I will be driven slowly through the local streets, for a period of exactly 90 minutes, with all attendees walking with their heads down next to the procession.
5 priests will be present, with hymns, prayers, choir boys, and at the end white doves will be launched as I am lowered into a very large hold in the ground. My headstone will be very large, visible from 2 miles away if the weather is clear and every Sunday, mourners will attend to lay flowers and candles.
Other than this, I don't want much of a fuss though
redrabbit29 said:
I want a week of mourning amongst my tiny number of friends, with family taking part in a 7-day silence, where the only noise made is the sobbing and reluctant weeping. During this time, all daylight will be shut out, with blinds drawn, candles lit.
On the day of my ceremony, I will be carried through in high-grade, wooden box, with gold plated edging. The top though will be entirely see through, and I will be placed in a way that my eyes are physically pulled open, and my face is in a frown.
I will be driven slowly through the local streets, for a period of exactly 90 minutes, with all attendees walking with their heads down next to the procession.
5 priests will be present, with hymns, prayers, choir boys, and at the end white doves will be launched as I am lowered into a very large hold in the ground. My headstone will be very large, visible from 2 miles away if the weather is clear and every Sunday, mourners will attend to lay flowers and candles.
Other than this, I don't want much of a fuss though
White or black horses?On the day of my ceremony, I will be carried through in high-grade, wooden box, with gold plated edging. The top though will be entirely see through, and I will be placed in a way that my eyes are physically pulled open, and my face is in a frown.
I will be driven slowly through the local streets, for a period of exactly 90 minutes, with all attendees walking with their heads down next to the procession.
5 priests will be present, with hymns, prayers, choir boys, and at the end white doves will be launched as I am lowered into a very large hold in the ground. My headstone will be very large, visible from 2 miles away if the weather is clear and every Sunday, mourners will attend to lay flowers and candles.
Other than this, I don't want much of a fuss though
My Dad is a big steam train guy.
He's said he wants his ashes to go into one and out the smoke stack. Probably the Bluebell Railway in Sussex
My Mum hasn't specified. Her Mother kept her Dads ashes in the cupboard for a decade-ish. We were convinced that she would talk to the urn. When she died they were scattered in the Crematorium garden together. Not out of any spoken desire, but to finally do it! no point in keeping them!
I've always said I want to mine to be put into the stuff they put down at Silverstone when a F1 engine blows up. Make some use of me right at the end.
I did consider Richmond Park in London, since I love that place. But they dont allow ash scattering as it messes up the local soil/environment. (Ashes are toxic) Someone said "just do it quietly" But my thoughts was, I adore the place, so dont want to f
k it up in any way! Just like I wouldn't just chuck litter in a bush cause no one saw it!
He's said he wants his ashes to go into one and out the smoke stack. Probably the Bluebell Railway in Sussex
My Mum hasn't specified. Her Mother kept her Dads ashes in the cupboard for a decade-ish. We were convinced that she would talk to the urn. When she died they were scattered in the Crematorium garden together. Not out of any spoken desire, but to finally do it! no point in keeping them!
I've always said I want to mine to be put into the stuff they put down at Silverstone when a F1 engine blows up. Make some use of me right at the end.
I did consider Richmond Park in London, since I love that place. But they dont allow ash scattering as it messes up the local soil/environment. (Ashes are toxic) Someone said "just do it quietly" But my thoughts was, I adore the place, so dont want to f
k it up in any way! Just like I wouldn't just chuck litter in a bush cause no one saw it!BunkMoreland said:
I've always said I want to mine to be put into the stuff they put down at Silverstone when a F1 engine blows up. Make some use of me right at the end.
There's a shout! Albeit the dust is probably a very specific grade/mix it's a great untapped angle for your favourite racetrack to make a buck.
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