Still in love with the ex
Discussion
So, the ex and I split up around 4 or 5 years ago, due to my high infidelity.
After a respectable period of mourning (a few weeks, TBH), the ex popped round for the evening. She missed "the closeness" - cuddles and stuff. Inevitably, this lead to spending the night together, which in turn lead to regular visits and regular nights together.
This has gone on, off and on, ever since. When she meets another chap, it stops for the duration of their relationship. When I meet another lady, it tends to carry on, to my shame. I have ruined relationships with perfect, lovely, gorgeous women because I was still obsessed with her.
It's weird. She will only come round one night a week (usually Saturday) and, when she's here it's just as if we are together again; a few drinks in front of the TV, holding hands, cuddling on the sofa, slipping into the childish talk that we did when we were together, chatting about what sort of week we've had. That sort of stuff.
Then there's the sex. Bearing in mind that I cheated on her because she wasn't that into sex, she has now turned into some kind of nympho monster who can't get enough of it, or me. Which is great. It is the best sex ever - for both of us.
But, come Sunday morning, she's off. And that's it for another week. If I text her any earlier than Thursday, or with anything unrelated to our next meeting and what I intend to do to her, I get no reply.
Usually, I would see this as the perfect relationship - great sex once a week without all the associated stuff that you usually get.
Thing is, I still love her to bits and would like nothing more than us to get together again, but I really don't see that happening. I've messed up once too often with her.
I've hardened myself to that fact and try not to get too involved, but it's inevitable that I'm going to want more, while she clearly doesn't.
So, do I give it up (no matter how hard it would be) and move on - or live in hope that she'll relent and somehow welcome a move to something more permanent?
After a respectable period of mourning (a few weeks, TBH), the ex popped round for the evening. She missed "the closeness" - cuddles and stuff. Inevitably, this lead to spending the night together, which in turn lead to regular visits and regular nights together.
This has gone on, off and on, ever since. When she meets another chap, it stops for the duration of their relationship. When I meet another lady, it tends to carry on, to my shame. I have ruined relationships with perfect, lovely, gorgeous women because I was still obsessed with her.
It's weird. She will only come round one night a week (usually Saturday) and, when she's here it's just as if we are together again; a few drinks in front of the TV, holding hands, cuddling on the sofa, slipping into the childish talk that we did when we were together, chatting about what sort of week we've had. That sort of stuff.
Then there's the sex. Bearing in mind that I cheated on her because she wasn't that into sex, she has now turned into some kind of nympho monster who can't get enough of it, or me. Which is great. It is the best sex ever - for both of us.
But, come Sunday morning, she's off. And that's it for another week. If I text her any earlier than Thursday, or with anything unrelated to our next meeting and what I intend to do to her, I get no reply.
Usually, I would see this as the perfect relationship - great sex once a week without all the associated stuff that you usually get.
Thing is, I still love her to bits and would like nothing more than us to get together again, but I really don't see that happening. I've messed up once too often with her.
I've hardened myself to that fact and try not to get too involved, but it's inevitable that I'm going to want more, while she clearly doesn't.
So, do I give it up (no matter how hard it would be) and move on - or live in hope that she'll relent and somehow welcome a move to something more permanent?
Sir Vicks said:
MrsNemo said:
She is getting what she wants out of you. You treated her badly, if I was you I would give up any hope, sounds like you don't deserve her anyway!
I probably don't, but you can't blame me for hanging on in there.I got back with an ex thinking I was obsessed with her and she was perfect, it was probably because I couldn't have her.
However I did actually get her back and realise now that she was a little spiteful cow who would put anyone even her mates before me, she had no personality, the IQ of a fish and her even speaking to me made me cringe.
Trust me, walk away.
Keep the memory of perfection.
However I did actually get her back and realise now that she was a little spiteful cow who would put anyone even her mates before me, she had no personality, the IQ of a fish and her even speaking to me made me cringe.
Trust me, walk away.
Keep the memory of perfection.
Sir Vicks said:
MrsNemo said:
She is getting what she wants out of you. You treated her badly, if I was you I would give up any hope, sounds like you don't deserve her anyway!
I probably don't, but you can't blame me for hanging out the back of her like a jockey in a rodeo.
Cheers,
The Moose.
I've been through much the same - for the last 3 years. When I met someone I didn't want to cheat on (what?), she went ballistic - we don't speak anymore, and although she appears in my mind now and then, I couldn't be happier.
Until you cut all ties, it will keep f
king with your head
Until you cut all ties, it will keep f
king with your headAnyone who says "walk away" is gay and doesn't like sex except the sort you pay to a woman dressed in leather and sporting an erect immitation genital.
THat said. you are the one crying about wanting more than sex with a woman therefore my advice is to embrace your new sexuality and pay such a woman to throw cream buns at your chap and see if that cures it.
THat said. you are the one crying about wanting more than sex with a woman therefore my advice is to embrace your new sexuality and pay such a woman to throw cream buns at your chap and see if that cures it.
MrsNemo said:
Of course not, you have realised now that what you did was pretty damn stupid. Unfortuntely for you, it's probably too late.
Very true.Arese said:
Tough one 
Chances are though, if you did get back together you'd probably get bored and start messing around again?
At my age? No, I've learned my lesson. Given the chance, I'd be dead good and that. Chances are though, if you did get back together you'd probably get bored and start messing around again?Sheets Tabuer said:
However I did actually get her back and realise now that she was a little spiteful cow who would put anyone even her mates before me, she had no personality, the IQ of a fish and her even speaking to me made me cringe.
Trust me, walk away.
Keep the memory of perfection.
But she is perfection. There's no malice there at all. She just knows what she wants.Trust me, walk away.
Keep the memory of perfection.
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