How long were you in a relationship before you got engaged?
Poll: How long were you in a relationship before you got engaged?
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I'm just curious.
I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and she's talking about wanting to get engaged. Personally I think we're both still to young (22 y.o.) but she's got her heart set on it. I would much rather get a place together first and get settled down. We pretty much live together now, I'm round hers 5 to 6 days a week, but I don't think we should take such a serious step until we are positive we can live together.
I think maybe I'm reluctant as my folks got divorced when I was young, it was very unpleasant and I don't want to repeat the same mistake by rushing into anything.
So how old when you got engaged or married?
I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and she's talking about wanting to get engaged. Personally I think we're both still to young (22 y.o.) but she's got her heart set on it. I would much rather get a place together first and get settled down. We pretty much live together now, I'm round hers 5 to 6 days a week, but I don't think we should take such a serious step until we are positive we can live together.
I think maybe I'm reluctant as my folks got divorced when I was young, it was very unpleasant and I don't want to repeat the same mistake by rushing into anything.
So how old when you got engaged or married?
Interesting topic tol follow.
In Holland people are usually together for like 5 - 6 years before they engage, but over here i've seen friends and collegue's get engaged with 6 months to 18 months and people keep asking me when i'm gonna "pop the question" and i'm like take it easy, we're only together for just over 1,5 year.
I've known my OH for 13 years and we've been together for 4 years. I proposed last month, getting hitched next year.
Everyone's different but I would wait until you're in your late twenties at the earliest before getting married (I'm 30)
Move in together and see how that goes but if you've been together since you were 16, chances are one of you might want to try other things/people in the near future.
If not, great. If so, it's easier to move out than get a divorce....
Everyone's different but I would wait until you're in your late twenties at the earliest before getting married (I'm 30)
Move in together and see how that goes but if you've been together since you were 16, chances are one of you might want to try other things/people in the near future.
If not, great. If so, it's easier to move out than get a divorce....
Medic-one said:
Interesting topic tol follow.
In Holland people are usually together for like 5 - 6 years before they engage, but over here i've seen friends and collegue's get engaged with 6 months to 18 months and people keep asking me when i'm gonna "pop the question" and i'm like take it easy, we're only together for just over 1,5 year.
Dutch people also tend to marry people they have known since school and also I bet if you ask any of your Dutch friends if their group of friends are all from the same home town the will say yes, apart from you!In Holland people are usually together for like 5 - 6 years before they engage, but over here i've seen friends and collegue's get engaged with 6 months to 18 months and people keep asking me when i'm gonna "pop the question" and i'm like take it easy, we're only together for just over 1,5 year.
Bloody crazzzyy Dutch
i agree with others, move in together first. I was with my girlfriend 2 months before we moved 200 miles away from our respective homes to live together, now been together 8 years, and still very much in love, BUT i think things would be VERY different if we'd gotten married first, moving in together was a HUGE learning curve.
My other point is this 6 years is less than 10% of your life, so its crazy to decide that the experience of that 10% is enough to want to spend the next 70% of your life with that person.
Good luck mate, stay strong and tell her NO.
My other point is this 6 years is less than 10% of your life, so its crazy to decide that the experience of that 10% is enough to want to spend the next 70% of your life with that person.
Good luck mate, stay strong and tell her NO.
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