Doing someone a favour...
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Or rather the reverse...
I'm staying with a friend at the moment. He's doing me a big favour by letting me stay until I get my own place < think about 8 weeks.
His place is a complete s
t hole, almost getting to the point of being a health hazard.
I have tried to clean up the place but seem to be getting nowhere. I spent an hour cleaning the bathroom and lounge(tip of the iceberg) but got no thanks. My room is fine its just the bathroom(s), kitchen, lounge and hall that are worth of Kim and Aggy coming round. Its almost as if noone has cleaned up in about 2 years...
He drinks a lot of red wine which makes him incontinent. < think runny st on the carpet.
He is allergic to a lot of washing powders so I have to use a certain brand in the washing machine to prevent a reaction.
He accused me of stealing his washing detergent earlier and got in a right mood even though he said to use his, I was unsure what to buy encase I bought the wrong thing and gave hime an allergic reaction.
He has a green household in which he expects me to combine my nice new shirts and crisp white t-strs with his st ridden underpants/bed wear to make a full load in the washing machine and run it at 40 degrees which surely isn't high enough to kill all the germs.
I realise this is a short term thing but cannot be fked to help any more. I don't go near the kitchen and would rather spend extra money on eating out than get food poisoning tbh.
He almost revels in living in a st hole just to piss people off.
I have the following plan
1. Eat food outside the flat/get a takeaways
2. Do all my washing at the laundrette
3. Leave him to fester in his own st and mess
Am I being a or should I persevere in helping him to sort his st out? He has a lot of pride but to be fair its just rank.
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I'm staying with a friend at the moment. He's doing me a big favour by letting me stay until I get my own place < think about 8 weeks.
His place is a complete s
t hole, almost getting to the point of being a health hazard. I have tried to clean up the place but seem to be getting nowhere. I spent an hour cleaning the bathroom and lounge(tip of the iceberg) but got no thanks. My room is fine its just the bathroom(s), kitchen, lounge and hall that are worth of Kim and Aggy coming round. Its almost as if noone has cleaned up in about 2 years...
He drinks a lot of red wine which makes him incontinent. < think runny s
t on the carpet.He is allergic to a lot of washing powders so I have to use a certain brand in the washing machine to prevent a reaction.
He accused me of stealing his washing detergent earlier and got in a right mood even though he said to use his, I was unsure what to buy encase I bought the wrong thing and gave hime an allergic reaction.
He has a green household in which he expects me to combine my nice new shirts and crisp white t-s
trs with his st ridden underpants/bed wear to make a full load in the washing machine and run it at 40 degrees which surely isn't high enough to kill all the germs.I realise this is a short term thing but cannot be f
ked to help any more. I don't go near the kitchen and would rather spend extra money on eating out than get food poisoning tbh.He almost revels in living in a s
t hole just to piss people off.I have the following plan
1. Eat food outside the flat/get a takeaways
2. Do all my washing at the laundrette
3. Leave him to fester in his own s
t and messAm I being a
or should I persevere in helping him to sort his st out? He has a lot of pride but to be fair its just rank......
ok, a huge sombrero with a dozen magic trees hanging off the brow
TNN - TBH, I'd let him wallow in their st - if they want to drink so much that they st the carpet and don't clean up after themselves then there's your answer
personally I wouldn't have been able to set foot in there without throwing up - there's no need to live like an animal
TNN - TBH, I'd let him wallow in their s
t - if they want to drink so much that they st the carpet and don't clean up after themselves then there's your answerpersonally I wouldn't have been able to set foot in there without throwing up - there's no need to live like an animal
Your plan sounds fair to me, but Mr X L has accussed me of having a touch of OCD! 
I assume you didn't check the place out before you moved in? I would definately go for the laundrette option for clothes and an evening in your tidy room with a takeaway on your own clean plate and the tv remote.
I assume you didn't check the place out before you moved in? I would definately go for the laundrette option for clothes and an evening in your tidy room with a takeaway on your own clean plate and the tv remote.
40degsC is fine for washing your clothes, don't know what the problem is. I was in a similar situation years ago, stayed with two friends whose kitchen was a st heap. Every plate, saucepan or piece of cutlery was dirty, often with mould in it. I tidied it all up as I was living there for free, it got just as messy again within a week or two. I did it once more, but thankfully didn't have to stay too much longer. I did manage to shame one of them into improving his iving habits, rented a place with him since and he kept the place clen.
Burn down his house.
t heap. Every plate, saucepan or piece of cutlery was dirty, often with mould in it. I tidied it all up as I was living there for free, it got just as messy again within a week or two. I did it once more, but thankfully didn't have to stay too much longer. I did manage to shame one of them into improving his iving habits, rented a place with him since and he kept the place clen.Burn down his house.
Eurgh, poor you.
Do the laundrette thing. If you can afford it, a lot of places will collect/deliver to reduce the inconvenience.
get a tabletop fridge, small toaster and microwave. Living off takeaway will be unhealthy and expensive and - trust me - the novelty wears out quickly.
Tell him you're worried about him, try and get him to go and talk to a GP. Being drunk to level of bowel incontinence on a regular basis is a) revolting and b) not exactly a sign of good health.
Oh and get him some Tena slips or similar - people that cack themselves ought to wear some sort of incontinence pad, it's only hygienic.
Do the laundrette thing. If you can afford it, a lot of places will collect/deliver to reduce the inconvenience.
get a tabletop fridge, small toaster and microwave. Living off takeaway will be unhealthy and expensive and - trust me - the novelty wears out quickly.
Tell him you're worried about him, try and get him to go and talk to a GP. Being drunk to level of bowel incontinence on a regular basis is a) revolting and b) not exactly a sign of good health.
Oh and get him some Tena slips or similar - people that cack themselves ought to wear some sort of incontinence pad, it's only hygienic.
So, he's letting you stay and doing you a favour.
He appears to like living in a sthole yet you expect thanks for clearing up? 
If YOU want to clear up because YOU don't like the mess then fair enough. Don't expect thanks for it though. His place let him live how he wants.
I'm afraid some people are just dirty fkers and aren't bothered.
He appears to like living in a s
thole yet you expect thanks for clearing up? If YOU want to clear up because YOU don't like the mess then fair enough. Don't expect thanks for it though. His place let him live how he wants.
I'm afraid some people are just dirty f
kers and aren't bothered.
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