Cut Off Time for Phone Calls/Texts etc?
Cut Off Time for Phone Calls/Texts etc?
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Andy M

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3,755 posts

282 months

Tuesday 4th August 2009
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At what time of the night does it pass from being ok to call a friend, to it being too late and bordering on the inappropriate?

We have a 7 month old baby who doesn't believe in sleep - a fact well known amongst our friends and family due to the black bags under our eyes - yet still I have friends calling or texting me at 10:30pm. As soon as the baby hears this she wakes up and thinks it's the start of another 5 hour play time. Again.

Before I give them a smash tomorrow, am I correct in thinking that there's an accepted 9pm barrier?

Puggit

49,441 posts

271 months

Tuesday 4th August 2009
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With a baby? Very bad form to communicate after 8 or so I'd say.

Otherwise in a normal house 10pm is cut off!

parakitaMol.

11,876 posts

274 months

Tuesday 4th August 2009
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I would say around 9pm.... as a general rule.

However.... speaking from personal experience, the more you try and keep things quiet the more sensitive to noise the baby becomes... and the more stressed you become about noises.

So phonecalls aside, I'd recommend putting the diswasher/washing machine/tv on as normal - they soon get used to it. And you'll be less stressed smile

tr7v8

7,547 posts

251 months

Tuesday 4th August 2009
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Yup we generally reckon 21:00-21:30 as a cut off. When we first met we had people phoning all hours as we have family all over the world. Our latest phones have a timer that cuts off the ringer at certain times. Ours is set 22:00-06:00

spunky-mon

898 posts

232 months

Tuesday 4th August 2009
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Phone calls to house 9pm - 10pm

Phone calls to mobile and txts - anytime is ok, they have a silent feature for a reason.

Mr Will

13,719 posts

229 months

Tuesday 4th August 2009
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I have a 9 month old so feel your pain, but I found a simple solution. Hidden in one of the menus on my phone was an option which make it turned off the ring. Now when someone rings and my daughter is asleep I can feel it vibrating in my pocket but it doesn't make a noise and wake her up. smile

Tiggsy

10,261 posts

275 months

Tuesday 4th August 2009
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house phone 10pm, text or mobile 11pm

astroarcadia

1,723 posts

223 months

Tuesday 4th August 2009
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spunky-mon said:
Phone calls to house 9pm - 10pm

Phone calls to mobile and txts - anytime is ok, they have a silent feature for a reason.
+1

comedy genius.....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ujovwq_qxRU

Andy M

Original Poster:

3,755 posts

282 months

Tuesday 4th August 2009
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spunky-mon said:
Phone calls to mobile and txts - anytime is ok, they have a silent feature for a reason.
I can't put my phone to silent as I need to be contactable 24 hours in case of emergency.

A text saying "I see Xabi Alonso is leaving" isn't an emergency in my book, hence somebody will have a sore ear tomorrow. They'll probably have a sore head too when I return the text at 5:30am when I wake up wink

Nolar Dog

8,786 posts

218 months

Tuesday 4th August 2009
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I wouldn't ring someone after about 10pm but people obviously don't subscribe to that with me.

Last night I got a text of a friend at half past midnight asking how I was. Not impressed.

I answered: "Asleep". smile

Yoshiwaan

322 posts

213 months

Wednesday 5th August 2009
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Andy M said:
spunky-mon said:
Phone calls to mobile and txts - anytime is ok, they have a silent feature for a reason.
I can't put my phone to silent as I need to be contactable 24 hours in case of emergency.

A text saying "I see Xabi Alonso is leaving" isn't an emergency in my book, hence somebody will have a sore ear tomorrow. They'll probably have a sore head too when I return the text at 5:30am when I wake up wink
Surely you can put it on silent and keep it in your pocket?

I'd say it depends on how well you know the person as to how late is okay.

AyBee

11,186 posts

225 months

Wednesday 5th August 2009
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I usually use a 10pm barrier for house phones depending on how long the 'chat' is going to be and who it's with. If I knew they had a small child then that time would go down obviously.

Mobiles, I accept texts/phonecalls at all times of the day, my phone has a silent/vibrate feature, doesn't wake me up and means I can feel it in my pocket, easy biggrin

Andy M

Original Poster:

3,755 posts

282 months

Wednesday 5th August 2009
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Yoshiwaan said:
Andy M said:
spunky-mon said:
Phone calls to mobile and txts - anytime is ok, they have a silent feature for a reason.
I can't put my phone to silent as I need to be contactable 24 hours in case of emergency.
Surely you can put it on silent and keep it in your pocket?
When I'm asleep? I need to be able to hear the phone.

Loque

458 posts

202 months

Wednesday 5th August 2009
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Hahah. About 9AM-6PM. I work nights frown

thinfourth2

32,414 posts

227 months

Wednesday 5th August 2009
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tr7v8 said:
Yup we generally reckon 21:00-21:30 as a cut off. When we first met we had people phoning all hours as we have family all over the world. Our latest phones have a timer that cuts off the ringer at certain times. Ours is set 22:00-06:00
Now that sounds like a piece of gadgetry that i do want a phone that automatically switches off

Brilliant

Vipers

33,426 posts

251 months

Wednesday 5th August 2009
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Andy M said:
At what time of the night does it pass from being ok to call a friend, to it being too late and bordering on the inappropriate?

We have a 7 month old baby who doesn't believe in sleep - a fact well known amongst our friends and family due to the black bags under our eyes - yet still I have friends calling or texting me at 10:30pm. As soon as the baby hears this she wakes up and thinks it's the start of another 5 hour play time. Again.

Before I give them a smash tomorrow, am I correct in thinking that there's an accepted 9pm barrier?
TURN THE PHONE OFF, END OF.

smile

Vipers

33,426 posts

251 months

Wednesday 5th August 2009
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Andy M said:
I can't put my phone to silent as I need to be contactable 24 hours in case of emergency.
For 24/7, same same, get either a pager, or another phone for emergencies, pager isn't that expensive.

smile

Edited by Vipers on Wednesday 5th August 07:19

Neil_H

15,407 posts

274 months

Wednesday 5th August 2009
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9-10pm for calls, depending who it is.

I don't see texts as a problem really. If it's loud enough to wake babies in other rooms you must have the text alert too loud...

My phone is almost always on silent, I just keep it nearby so I can hear it vibrate.

Stevenj214

4,941 posts

251 months

Wednesday 5th August 2009
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Andy M said:
Yoshiwaan said:
Andy M said:
spunky-mon said:
Phone calls to mobile and txts - anytime is ok, they have a silent feature for a reason.
I can't put my phone to silent as I need to be contactable 24 hours in case of emergency.
Surely you can put it on silent and keep it in your pocket?
When I'm asleep? I need to be able to hear the phone.
The vibrate function on my phone is more than enough to wake me if it's beside my bed.

Merlot

4,121 posts

231 months

Wednesday 5th August 2009
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Generally, I won't call people after about 9pm unless it is either close friends/family (10pm) or an emergency.

I text and receive texts at any time of the day or night unless specifically requested not to. Phones have a silent function for this reason, or if you do need to keep it on ring, you could lower the volume/set it to vibrate.