Fook buddies - harmless fun or potential **** storm?
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Minefield of complete head f
k proportions.
I know a few people who have tried this in the past. Works for a bit and then it gets complicated. All down to communication I suppose, but always seems to end in tears as one side expects / wants more than the other (either in commitment or freedom). The reason why we have developed with monogamous relationships is because it works - it rarely doesn't and billions of people worldwide cannot be wrong.
k proportions.I know a few people who have tried this in the past. Works for a bit and then it gets complicated. All down to communication I suppose, but always seems to end in tears as one side expects / wants more than the other (either in commitment or freedom). The reason why we have developed with monogamous relationships is because it works - it rarely doesn't and billions of people worldwide cannot be wrong.
AndyAudi said:
"Just a bit of harmless fun between one consenting adult and another one with a different agenda."
I think finding someone wanting exactly the same thing (despite what they say) is very rare.
gotta admit I'm new to the whole fI think finding someone wanting exactly the same thing (despite what they say) is very rare.
k buddy thing and having had a little dabble, I dont mind the idea.Neither of us seems to want anything more and there's no commitment at all and despite the fact that I thought it would be complicated when we meet up at parties and such, it hasn't seemed to affect our friendship at all
I am now settled down with a lovely missus, but before I met her I used to get around a bit. At one point I was shagging this bird twice a week who obviously was more into it than I was.
She called me up when I was on the way home from a drunken night out so I went round for a bit of fun. When it was all over I think she could tell I wasn't really that bothered about being there as I was teeing off with my dad at 8.45 that morning and wanted a good nights kip. "You can go if you don't want to stay" says she. So I jump up and go to get dressed.
Cue absolute hysterics from her and, without going into to much further detail, a severely bruised arm with 1/2 inch deep bite mark.
Moral of the story, don't have a fk buddy. Or, if you do, make sure you at least stay the night with them 
She called me up when I was on the way home from a drunken night out so I went round for a bit of fun. When it was all over I think she could tell I wasn't really that bothered about being there as I was teeing off with my dad at 8.45 that morning and wanted a good nights kip. "You can go if you don't want to stay" says she. So I jump up and go to get dressed.
Cue absolute hysterics from her and, without going into to much further detail, a severely bruised arm with 1/2 inch deep bite mark.
Moral of the story, don't have a f
k buddy. Or, if you do, make sure you at least stay the night with them Dick Fromage said:
My opinion is that it's a ludicrous idea. Why wouldn't you want more if she's a nice girl? I wouldn't go anywhere near a girl who just wanted a shag. They're called slags, aren't they?
If you're narrow or closed minded...yeahBut sometimes you meet someone who ends up a friend, but maybe JUST MAYBE she's afraid of commitment due to being hurt, but craves intimacey with someone she can trust?
Maybe the male is the one afraid to commit?
We're not talking random night club humps, but two friends enjoying each other
Jag-D said:
Dick Fromage said:
My opinion is that it's a ludicrous idea. Why wouldn't you want more if she's a nice girl? I wouldn't go anywhere near a girl who just wanted a shag. They're called slags, aren't they?
If you're narrow or closed minded...yeahBut sometimes you meet someone who ends up a friend, but maybe JUST MAYBE she's afraid of commitment due to being hurt, but craves intimacey with someone she can trust?
Maybe the male is the one afraid to commit?
We're not talking random night club humps, but two friends enjoying each other
Eddh said:
Jag-D said:
Eddh said:
It will turn into a st storm. Trust me I have been there.
Care to expand on that fella? t storm. Trust me I have been there.
Am I right in understanding your f
k buddy was your ex?????????? 
Dick Fromage said:
Jag-D said:
Dick Fromage said:
My opinion is that it's a ludicrous idea. Why wouldn't you want more if she's a nice girl? I wouldn't go anywhere near a girl who just wanted a shag. They're called slags, aren't they?
If you're narrow or closed minded...yeahBut sometimes you meet someone who ends up a friend, but maybe JUST MAYBE she's afraid of commitment due to being hurt, but craves intimacey with someone she can trust?
Maybe the male is the one afraid to commit?
We're not talking random night club humps, but two friends enjoying each other
I've just come out of an 8 year relationship which is seemingly ending a bit badly at the moment. I'm one who likes and craves commitment, but I know I'm not emotionally ready to commit to anyone at this moment in time.
The lady in question is a good friend of mine, we share many interests and we both enjoy each others company, but neither of us wants a relationship for pretty much the same reasons.
I find the idea quite liberating given my past history of being a commitment-a-holic
I'm not one to sleep around either, it's not like I have a string of them or anything
TonyHetherington said:
If you do it right, and are clear from the outset - it can be great.
That's pretty much what we agreed we would do. We were straight down the line from the first moment Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff