Defeatist Mentality.
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WHY are so many people employing a defeatist / failure mentality these days? I don't think I have one friend who believes in them self enough to actually go and try something new / different...
Needless to say these people regularly end up being "depressed". One might think that if they gave themselves a chance they might be surprised with what they can do / achieve.
Non?
Needless to say these people regularly end up being "depressed". One might think that if they gave themselves a chance they might be surprised with what they can do / achieve.
Non?
whitevanman88 said:
WHY are so many people employing a defeatist / failure mentality these days? I don't think I have one friend who believes in them self enough to actually go and try something new / different...
Needless to say these people regularly end up being "depressed". One might think that if they gave themselves a chance they might be surprised with what they can do / achieve.
Non?
Wow. That's quite "bad". I think 30% of my friends/acquaintances have the relevant drive and enthusiasm and are currently trying something new/different or completely changing their lives, another 30% on the cusp and the remaining 40%... well, the less said about those losers the better... Needless to say these people regularly end up being "depressed". One might think that if they gave themselves a chance they might be surprised with what they can do / achieve.
Non?
Is it not possible many of your friends don't want to say anything in case the negative gits around them bring them down to their level so they keep quiet and plot away secretly? The problem today is that if you tell your friends/family you're going to quit your job (assuming you're employed) and start a new business, most of them will have a negative attitude towards the idea ("You? What do you know about running a business?" "What? It's safer to work for someone and have a regular salary." "Don't you know 80% of small businesses fail in their first year?" etc). So you keep quiet and just get on with it.
If I'm wrong, then perhaps it's time to find new friends as decent friends would encourage you not hold you back. If you do want to break out of the mould, then you don't need the negative energy of others holding you back; you need the positive support that encourages you to keep going especially when things don't go as smoothly as you hoped. At the first sign of a problem, you don't want some git saying, "See, I told you so." You want others to inspire you to keep pushing through the difficulty.
Edited by ShadownINja on Saturday 15th August 17:23
ShadownINja said:
whitevanman88 said:
WHY are so many people employing a defeatist / failure mentality these days? I don't think I have one friend who believes in them self enough to actually go and try something new / different...
Needless to say these people regularly end up being "depressed". One might think that if they gave themselves a chance they might be surprised with what they can do / achieve.
Non?
Wow. That's quite "bad". I think 30% of my friends/acquaintances have the relevant drive and enthusiasm and are currently trying something new/different or completely changing their lives, another 30% on the cusp and the remaining 40%... well, the less said about those losers the better... Needless to say these people regularly end up being "depressed". One might think that if they gave themselves a chance they might be surprised with what they can do / achieve.
Non?
Is it not possible many of your friends don't want to say anything in case the negative gits around them bring them down to their level so they keep quiet and plot away secretly? The problem today is that if you tell your friends/family you're going to quit your job (assuming you're employed) and start a new business, most of them will have a negative attitude towards the idea ("You? What do you know about running a business?" "What? It's safer to work for someone and have a regular salary." "Don't you know 80% of small businesses fail in their first year?" etc). So you keep quiet and just get on with it.
If I'm wrong, then perhaps it's time to find new friends as decent friends would encourage you not hold you back. If you do want to break out of the mould, then you don't need the negative energy of others holding you back; you need the positive support that encourages you to keep going especially when things don't go as smoothly as you hoped. At the first sign of a problem, you don't want some git saying, "See, I told you so." You want others to inspire you to keep pushing through the difficulty.
Edited by ShadownINja on Saturday 15th August 17:23
It isn't just my friends, I was more thinking of in general. People just don't seem to give a f
k anymore.It's simply the way the world is that any measure of good you can get out of it requires enduring ten measures of st as its price. There's no point trying to make anything better because that inevitably entails ten times the value of "better" being exacted in "worse" so you always end up at minus ninety percent no matter what you do. It's like the second law of thermodynamics - you can't win, and you can't even break even. Only with thermodynamics you can at least shuffle the entropy off somewhere where you can ignore it, whereas with life the st stays with you. The optimum situation is not to be conceived in the first place.
t as its price. There's no point trying to make anything better because that inevitably entails ten times the value of "better" being exacted in "worse" so you always end up at minus ninety percent no matter what you do. It's like the second law of thermodynamics - you can't win, and you can't even break even. Only with thermodynamics you can at least shuffle the entropy off somewhere where you can ignore it, whereas with life the st stays with you. The optimum situation is not to be conceived in the first place.Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff