how much to charge an 18yr old living at home
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The title says it all really but Mrs Wulluff and I have 5 boys between 12 and 20. Stepson No1 has gone to uni but No2 wants a gap year and has found himself a job paying £14k.
She has lost the pitifully small manintenance from her ex (aka The t
t) and while not wanting to profit from said son we all have bills to pay.
So how much is fair?
She has lost the pitifully small manintenance from her ex (aka The t
t) and while not wanting to profit from said son we all have bills to pay.So how much is fair?
Someone on here once said the following (I paraphrase)
Charge him a reasonable amount that covers the basics... and then add a little more.... Use the basic money to buy the basic stuff... and save the rest of the money in a bank account... dont tell him you are doing this...
After the year is up you should have a bit of money held in the bank account....
Save it and use it for a deposit on his own place or something when he needs it.... Dont spend it on yourself!
Charge him a reasonable amount that covers the basics... and then add a little more.... Use the basic money to buy the basic stuff... and save the rest of the money in a bank account... dont tell him you are doing this...
After the year is up you should have a bit of money held in the bank account....
Save it and use it for a deposit on his own place or something when he needs it.... Dont spend it on yourself!
al1991 said:
£100-£150 a month. Much more and he may as well find student accommodation
I'd agree with this, £100 a month is probably fair, ...or maybe charge £200 a month but keep £100/month for him secretly as savings for when he goes to uni next year - then when he leaves for uni he'll love ya for giving him £1.2k to start with
Edited by Kitch88 on Saturday 22 August 21:01
Nothing. For a year. The aim is to give him a chance to save up a bit to enable him to move out. Tell him that this is his oportunity to do this. The last thing you want to do is charge him so much that he can never save enough to leave or have real freedom while hating you for it every day.
After a year put all the earnings, including any benefits, of the whole household into a household pot, spend what has to be spent and save what needs to be saved. Then share out equally what is left. Talk to him about the expenses. The aim is charging him but treating him as an equal, i.e. as an adult holding down a job and contributing to the household, just like you. Whatever is left is shared out between the earning adults. So if he does stay he gets treated with respect in a totally straight forward and open manner.
Sorted.
After a year put all the earnings, including any benefits, of the whole household into a household pot, spend what has to be spent and save what needs to be saved. Then share out equally what is left. Talk to him about the expenses. The aim is charging him but treating him as an equal, i.e. as an adult holding down a job and contributing to the household, just like you. Whatever is left is shared out between the earning adults. So if he does stay he gets treated with respect in a totally straight forward and open manner.
Sorted.
I was paying my mum £50 a week. In the time I lived with my parents I was earning about £14k.
I felt that was a very fair amount as it did contribute to the household bills etc and I did have a stint at living on my own in "the real world" (admittedly it didn't quite work out, hence moving back with ma & pa) so appreciated how much stuff actually costs
I felt that was a very fair amount as it did contribute to the household bills etc and I did have a stint at living on my own in "the real world" (admittedly it didn't quite work out, hence moving back with ma & pa) so appreciated how much stuff actually costs
Bugger some of these replies....I am now 35, and when I left school at 18 I was paying £25 a week to my mum, and only working part time. I also had to pay my own poll tax (yes it was that long ago) and then half the council tax when that was introduced.
What 18 year old is going to save for a house...nope charge a decent amount, and show them what it's actually like in the real world!
What 18 year old is going to save for a house...nope charge a decent amount, and show them what it's actually like in the real world!
Penny-lope said:
Bugger some of these replies....I am now 35, and when I left school at 18 I was paying £25 a week to my mum, and only working part time. I also had to pay my own poll tax (yes it was that long ago) and then half the council tax when that was introduced.
What 18 year old is going to save for a house...nope charge a decent amount, and show them what it's actually like in the real world!
And, look, it hasn't made you resentful in the slightest...What 18 year old is going to save for a house...nope charge a decent amount, and show them what it's actually like in the real world!
al1991 said:
Penny-lope said:
Bugger some of these replies....I am now 35, and when I left school at 18 I was paying £25 a week to my mum, and only working part time. I also had to pay my own poll tax (yes it was that long ago) and then half the council tax when that was introduced.
What 18 year old is going to save for a house...nope charge a decent amount, and show them what it's actually like in the real world!
And, look, it hasn't made you resentful in the slightest...What 18 year old is going to save for a house...nope charge a decent amount, and show them what it's actually like in the real world!
But do I have any debts....well apart from a mortgage, not a penny
AndrewTait said:
When I moved back to my parents after splitting up with the wife, I paid them £150, plus paid for the internet subscription, and a weeks shopping each month. Mind you I was earning £33k at the time.
I recently moved in with my best buddy for 6 wks.....bought all my own food, plus extras for the house...bog roll, cat food, milk, bread, etc....and left them £300 in a piggy bank in their daughters room. Plus I cleaned their house several times top to bottom...I earn less than 8K a year Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff