Pathological Liar
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Popepaul

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80 posts

209 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Ok I need some advice, i have a very good friend who I have known for about 10 years, about 2 years ago he went off to a music college and we didn't see him again until feb this year, he didn't seem any different but a friend of him and me, told me that he told his mum that he had sold a computer programme for £13,000,000, he then told me this same story about 1 week later and everything sounded genuine. but we never saw any proof, nobody did, he fooled everybody even his parents. but he left his bag at my house the other day and i had a look in it and i found two cash machine recipients one for £-750 and £-850, so my theory is he is lying so nobody knows he is in debt, but i don't know how to go about confronting him. he has upset a lot of people and i don't think he know he is doing it.
cheers in advance.

Biker's Nemesis

41,110 posts

232 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Tell him he's full of crap and you know it.

Austin.J

888 posts

216 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Staple the recipts to him. Or have them put on to A1 size poster paper.

Murray993

1,515 posts

257 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Popepaul said:
i found two cash machine recipients one for £-750 and £-850
you mean he was over drawn by 850 or he took out 850?

10 Pence Short

32,880 posts

241 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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The chances of him developing and selling a 'computer program' in that time for £13m are between 0% and zero%.

ShadownINja

79,412 posts

306 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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£13m would change your lifestyle. Is he driving around in his dream car?

Popepaul

Original Poster:

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209 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Murray993 said:
Popepaul said:
i found two cash machine recipients one for £-750 and £-850
you mean he was over drawn by 850 or he took out 850?
over drawn

Defcon

1,211 posts

214 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Well done for poking through your friend's bag. clap

Popepaul

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Monday 24th August 2009
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ShadownINja said:
£13m would change your lifestyle. Is he driving around in his dream car?
no he is still driving a 55 plate peugeot

Popepaul

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Monday 24th August 2009
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Defcon said:
Well done for poking through your friend's bag. clap
it makes me sound really bad i know but it has gone to far and effected to many people

Murray993

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257 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Chaps got issues, in my experience best to just let things run their course. Nothing you say will change his attitude to life, there is only downside to pointing out someone's weakness.

However you might want to ask for a little loan....

fathomfive

11,076 posts

214 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Just man up and tell him you were rifling through his bag one day as you thought he was a lying tosspot, you found these receipts and can he explain why he was overdrawn.

That should do the trick.


ETA: of course, admitting you went looking in his bag will inevitably cause problems itself...



Edited by fathomfive on Monday 24th August 19:24

B Oeuf

39,731 posts

308 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Biker's Nemesis said:
Tell him he's full of crap and you know it.
tell him he's full of crap and we know it

V8mate

45,899 posts

213 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Unless he owes you money, I'm really not sure WTF it has to do with you.

Apart from his indiscretion, you said he hasn't changed. If you don't want to be mates with him, don't call him anymore.

Popepaul

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Monday 24th August 2009
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fathomfive said:
Just man up and tell him you were rifling through his bag one day as you thought he was a lying tosspot, you found these receipts and can he explain why he was overdrawn.

That should do the trick.
i think the problem with the situation is he is caught up in his own lie, i think he will be defensive even if i have mountains of evidence

jamoor

14,506 posts

239 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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I have an acquaintance who is a liar.

I used to get on with him OK, but I just got sick of his lies and never speak to him anymore.

It's difficult to get along with anyone who doesn't tell the truth.

Do you know how if he has any sibings?

ShadownINja

79,412 posts

306 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Murray993 said:
Chaps got issues, in my experience best to just let things run their course. Nothing you say will change his attitude to life, there is only downside to pointing out someone's weakness.

However you might want to ask for a little loan....
Brilliant. I like it. biggrin

fathomfive

11,076 posts

214 months

Monday 24th August 2009
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Popepaul said:
fathomfive said:
Just man up and tell him you were rifling through his bag one day as you thought he was a lying tosspot, you found these receipts and can he explain why he was overdrawn.

That should do the trick.
i think the problem with the situation is he is caught up in his own lie, i think he will be defensive even if i have mountains of evidence
My post was slightly in jest - missing a smilie unfortunately.


If you give him reason to be defensive then that's the way he will go. Try taking him out by yourself for a drink or three (or four) and get him talking and ask him how everything is. Maybe you'll strike gold and it'll all come out, maybe it won't, but at least you'll have tried.

Edited by fathomfive on Monday 24th August 19:33

Popepaul

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V8mate said:
Unless he owes you money, I'm really not sure WTF it has to do with you.

Apart from his indiscretion, you said he hasn't changed. If you don't want to be mates with him, don't call him anymore.
we actually he does owe me £200, he told me the cash machine had eaten his card, and he was going to transfer some money into my account which he Hasn't

Popepaul

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jamoor said:
I have an acquaintance who is a liar.

I used to get on with him OK, but I just got sick of his lies and never speak to him anymore.

It's difficult to get along with anyone who doesn't tell the truth.

Do you know how if he has any sibings?
hes got two brothers and a sister. he gave his older brother a check for 500k which bounced. it makes us all sound really gullible, but i cant understand why anybody would start a lie this big.