Overly competitive OH? Your thoughts...
Discussion
Guys,
I am seeing a great woman: educated, smart, and beautiful. Her only fault, if one can call it that, is her level of competitiveness: she ABSOLUTELY hates to lose and shows it in brilliant colors! I am, of course, referring to games and fun, such as bowling, billiards, golf, running, sports, video games, etc. When she wins, she's on top of the world, smiles and joy! But when she loses, especially to me, WOW, RUN FAR AWAY! She can't have a good time with friends if she's losing, it seems, and will physically and emotionally show it.
Today we went out with a few other friends and I beat them all at a particular game, we all had a good time, but she was FUMING.
What's the deal here? Have any of you experienced anything as odd as this?
I am seeing a great woman: educated, smart, and beautiful. Her only fault, if one can call it that, is her level of competitiveness: she ABSOLUTELY hates to lose and shows it in brilliant colors! I am, of course, referring to games and fun, such as bowling, billiards, golf, running, sports, video games, etc. When she wins, she's on top of the world, smiles and joy! But when she loses, especially to me, WOW, RUN FAR AWAY! She can't have a good time with friends if she's losing, it seems, and will physically and emotionally show it.
Today we went out with a few other friends and I beat them all at a particular game, we all had a good time, but she was FUMING.
What's the deal here? Have any of you experienced anything as odd as this?
mattdaniels said:
Yes, SWMBO is ultra competitive and hates to lose. As do I.
It's fantastic. [+] :-)
No one wants to lose: no one goes to a game and says, "Gee, I wish I had the lowest score of the bunch!" But guess what, people will lose, and you can either take it in stride or go insane. Some people choose the latter hahaIt's fantastic. [+] :-)
While not quite as bad as that, I find while my girlfiend isn't a particularly good looser (ie she'll have abit of a silk), she's a really bad winner (will go on about it for ages). Her whole family are are all a bit that way. Playing board games over Christmas with them was interesting, but the family have banned her parents from playing pictionary as it causes too many arguments 
Skywalker said:
Does this spirited competetive behaviour mask a need to....
Win every argument?
Never be wrong?
Always get her own way?
If you answer yes, then you will never achieve equality in your relationship and you will always be playing second fiddle to what she wants.
Don't accept it.
You have made an interesting point here...Win every argument?
Never be wrong?
Always get her own way?
If you answer yes, then you will never achieve equality in your relationship and you will always be playing second fiddle to what she wants.
Don't accept it.
AUDIHenry said:
Guys,
I am seeing a great woman: educated, smart, and beautiful. Her only fault, if one can call it that, is her level of competitiveness: she ABSOLUTELY hates to lose and shows it in brilliant colors! I am, of course, referring to games and fun, such as bowling, billiards, golf, running, sports, video games, etc. When she wins, she's on top of the world, smiles and joy! But when she loses, especially to me, WOW, RUN FAR AWAY! She can't have a good time with friends if she's losing, it seems, and will physically and emotionally show it.
Today we went out with a few other friends and I beat them all at a particular game, we all had a good time, but she was FUMING.
What's the deal here? Have any of you experienced anything as odd as this?
Tell her your ex gave better BJs and she's going to have to practice more. Enjoy I am seeing a great woman: educated, smart, and beautiful. Her only fault, if one can call it that, is her level of competitiveness: she ABSOLUTELY hates to lose and shows it in brilliant colors! I am, of course, referring to games and fun, such as bowling, billiards, golf, running, sports, video games, etc. When she wins, she's on top of the world, smiles and joy! But when she loses, especially to me, WOW, RUN FAR AWAY! She can't have a good time with friends if she's losing, it seems, and will physically and emotionally show it.
Today we went out with a few other friends and I beat them all at a particular game, we all had a good time, but she was FUMING.
What's the deal here? Have any of you experienced anything as odd as this?
Mental.
Sounds like she hasnt developmentally progressed past the spoilt brat stage of a 9 year old.
This may well manifest itself in further things she will go mental at losing, discussions/ arrangements where her own perceptions and arrangements would have to change to accomodate others.
Generally I would keep it in the f
k it until you are bored of it then move on.
Sounds like she hasnt developmentally progressed past the spoilt brat stage of a 9 year old.
This may well manifest itself in further things she will go mental at losing, discussions/ arrangements where her own perceptions and arrangements would have to change to accomodate others.
Generally I would keep it in the f
k it until you are bored of it then move on.I quite like competitive women actually.
It only becomes a problem when they try to out-compete me infront of friends / family. The worst one used to just talk louder or talk over me... even though everyone would roll their eyes at her, she still had to be top dog....
...there are plenty of ways to get your own back though, just be creative
It only becomes a problem when they try to out-compete me infront of friends / family. The worst one used to just talk louder or talk over me... even though everyone would roll their eyes at her, she still had to be top dog....
...there are plenty of ways to get your own back though, just be creative
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