Would you let your children have a 'free house' party?

[Rufus]

My son of sixteen has decided he is having a house party in half term, my wife and I will be away and I have given the go ahead, she has said no. What would PH do?

[Marf]

Rufus said:

What would PH do?

Crash the party?

[SystemParanoia]

hell no.

shutters on all doors and windows, and kick the kids out to an aunts or grandparents for the duration.

or they can have their party at one of their so-called friends house.

[strudel]

Only if you knew the kids I guess, not all and sundry. Although you would have to trust his word, which brings you back to square one.

[okgo]

no.

Kids have zero respect for other peoples stuff (i.e. yours) and your son won't know half the people there.

And chances are his mates will be fking in your bed.

[Babu 01]

I remember those parties.

The devastation was always tremendous.

I'd get his nan to come and house sit while you're away.

[wiffmaster]

Depends how much you like your house? Even if nothing gets broken (and that's a big if) then somebody will be sick on your carpet, people will piss all over your bathroom floor and people will fk in your bed. It will be a sodding great mess by the end. Question is, will your lad have tidied up and made good by the time you come back?

Make him guarantee to pay for all breakages/cleaning and then if he's still keen, you might want to give him a the go ahead?

Edited by wiffmaster on Thursday 28th January 22:46

[Caruso]

I think it's absolutely fine as long as it's his house and not yours.

[littlegreenfairy]

Dear god no. It's a recipe for disaster.

[SystemParanoia]

dont advertise it on facebook!

[E31Shrew]

We did the same but employed two local 'large' blokes to take care of any unwashed feral types in case they tried to gatecrash. All went well with no issues whatsoever. Worth their weight in gold!

ETA All spirits were banned and taken at the door if they tried to bring them in

Edited by E31Shrew on Thursday 28th January 22:52

[Rufus]

I know that he wouldn't invite people who he doesn't know, and the house is pretty unaccessible unless you are trying to get there, it's dive is nearly a mile alone. My wife has come up with the same arguments as PH so far.

[SJobson]

My stepson did this aged 17, despite promising not to. The only thing he managed to prevent was anyone using our bed. Sticky alcoholic sweet liquid spilt over the carpet, sofas, rugs. My music server re-programmed somehow (had to factory reset it to get it to work again). Lots of other stuff fiddled with, such as my wife's underwear drawer.

No matter how much you trust your own child, you can't account for who might turn up.

[elster]

Never be the parents who hold the house party unless you are there.

[HundredthIdiot]

Are you completely nuts? Listen to your wife.

[Disco_Dale]

wiffmaster said:

Depends how much you like your house? Even if nothing gets broken (and that's a big if) then somebody will be sick on your carpet, people will piss all over your bathroom floor and people will fk in your bed. It will be a sodding great mess by the end. Question is, will your lad have tidied up and made good by the time you come back?

Make him guarantee to pay for all breakages/cleaning and then if he's still keen, you might want to give him a the go ahead?

Spot on.

And if your lad is made of the right stuff (tm) he will tidy it up.
It's a big risk and not one I'm looking forward to (my eldest is 9)

Good luck fella...

[silverthorn2151]

Been there, happened once, never again.

Oh no!

[wiffmaster]

Rufus said:

I know that he wouldn't invite people who he doesn't know

I bet his friends will all bring one or two of their friends. Boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. Word will get around and your son won't be guarding the door the entire night. No 'free house' party which starts as "just some friends from my school" ever ends with that being the reality. Even if he does know the people there, they will be pissed and he can't be everywhere at once. Stuff will get broken/stolen/pissed on/vomited on.

[RobFerrari]

No. And I am a student saying this!

Trust me, I have been to house parties with and without parents anywhere near the scene. They are bad when parents have a chance of coming home, let alone when they are on holiday!

If you let him do it then wave bye bye to anything you value in your home, your carpets, sofa's and bathrooms.

As a parent though you won't be flavour of the month for a while!

I don't know your child, and whether he's a good lad and all and random people won't just turn up and cause trouble - but nine times out of ten these things get out of hand.

[VX Foxy]

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