Courting? Does it even still happen?

[ironictwist]

As per the title boys & girls...

The other threads as of late have provoked the idea in my head that the act of courting doesn't even exist nowadays...It's very much a case of get bladdered when you both meet, then have a drunken fumble later on. Or for the sober amongst you, take her up the Oxo tower on the 2nd date as by having a 2nd date is "officially" classed as the green light to head straight for her knickers?

I suddenly seem to feel as though I myself am stuck in the 1920/1930's! For me personally the idea of "courting" as it were seems natural, maybe that's the cultural influence coming into play. All the girls that I have met up with wouldn't dream of the idea of going to bed with a guy so soon! It didn't fit in with there morals/beliefs/way of thinking in any way shape or form & to be honest, that's what I want for me personally...

But maybe I guess it just highlights the vast change of attitudes within society that the ultimate gain for a guy when dating is to get his leg over ASAP where as for the girl (The more insecure amongst the population) to be appreciated even just a little, which in turns leads to compromising on both sides when they do get together & then causing the eventual break-up? Non?

Enough of the rambling...My point is, is courting officially dead nowadays? Do you still court? Or is it more "Alright Luv, fancy nibblin on my wotsit?!" (Not that I've ever heard anyone say that, but you get my point )

Yours faithfully,
Mr Twist

[Timmy35]

So in your world after how many dates would you feel it's acceptable to perhaps, with parental permission, touch a lady on the knee?

[Mobile Chicane]

ironictwist said:

As per the title boys & girls...

The other threads as of late have provoked the idea in my head that the act of courting doesn't even exist nowadays...It's very much a case of get bladdered when you both meet, then have a drunken fumble later on. Or for the sober amongst you, take her up the Oxo tower on the 2nd date as by having a 2nd date is "officially" classed as the green light to head straight for her knickers?

I suddenly seem to feel as though I myself am stuck in the 1920/1930's! For me personally the idea of "courting" as it were seems natural, maybe that's the cultural influence coming into play. All the girls that I have met up with wouldn't dream of the idea of going to bed with a guy so soon! It didn't fit in with there morals/beliefs/way of thinking in any way shape or form & to be honest, that's what I want for me personally...

But maybe I guess it just highlights the vast change of attitudes within society that the ultimate gain for a guy when dating is to get his leg over ASAP where as for the girl (The more insecure amongst the population) to be appreciated even just a little, which in turns leads to compromising on both sides when they do get together & then causing the eventual break-up? Non?

Enough of the rambling...My point is, is courting officially dead nowadays? Do you still court? Or is it more "Alright Luv, fancy nibblin on my wotsit?!" (Not that I've ever heard anyone say that, but you get my point )

Yours faithfully,
Mr Twist

They don't fancy you.

HTH

[anonymous-user]

That must be some sort of record, even for the lounge, the oxo tower mentioned in the first post

[elster]

Mobile Chicane said:

They don't fancy you.

If someone doesn't want to shag you senseless from the off, then they probably aren't for you.

It is all a matter of how long a woman tries to control a man and hold him off.

[ironictwist]

Timmy35 said:

So in your world after how many dates would you feel it's acceptable to perhaps, with parental permission, touch a lady on the knee?

Much sooner than you think

Mobile Chicane said:

They don't fancy you.

HTH

On the contrary, I can confirm that some of them do...Still. But again, it could be a cultural aspect to a degree. I know plenty of muslim's that don't abide by that idea...Matter of choice I guess

snowy slopes said:

That must be some sort of record, even for the lounge, the oxo tower mentioned in the first post

I've been around here long enough to know the score & the obligatory Oxo reference! Admittedly I've also put myself in the firing lane but C'est la vie!

[BoRED S2upid]

Isn't it called stalking nowadays?

[ironictwist]

BoRED S2upid said:

Isn't it called stalking nowadays?

A fine line between the two, I agree

[marsred]

There isn't a

"Mercedes / Tyrone is courting"

option on Facebook. Therefore it doesn't happen.

If you can't tell people you're doing it via Facebook, it no longer exists in modern society.

[Timmy35]

In all fairness the thread that gave you the idea for this one did involve two 27 y/o. And I do think by your mid twenties the rules have changed somewhat from your teens.

By the age of 27 most women are looking at you and trying to decide whether you're the one they want to get pregnant by in about 2 years time so that they can have there first at 30.

So things do tend to get a move on. It's different when you're younger.

Edited by Timmy35 on Thursday 18th February 12:10

[WorAl]

ironictwist said:

I've also put myself in the firing lane!

Whats with the bowling fascination?

[TheBear]

This is the worst attempt at trying to be an internet knight in shining armour i've seen in a long time!! There must be a recent thread where some girl has been mercilessly cast aside and you're trying your best to get in there.

Where is it? Come on, own up? who's your target?

[tegwin]

I hate to admit it... but I agree with the OP..

Just because you lot have no respect for woman and want to get the "leg over" ASAP...


Whats the point in a meaningless shag... would much rather wait, get to know the person so it means something...


To the OP.. dont loose heart.. im sure there are woman out there who still have the same morals as you!

[carmadgaz]

Yes it does.

Was seeing my last girlfriend nearly two months (most days) before we were 'intimate'.

[daveco]

Timmy35 said:

In all fairness the thread that gave you the idea for this one did involve two 27 y/o. And I do think by your mid twenties the rules have changed somewhat from your teens.

By the age of 27 most women are looking at you and trying to decide whether you're the one they want to get pregnant by in about 2 years time so that they can have there first at 30.

So things do tend to get a move on. It's different when you're younger.

Edited by Timmy35 on Thursday 18th February 12:10

I agree with this and most do put out by the 2nd meeting though

[ironictwist]

TheBear said:

This is the worst attempt at trying to be an internet knight in shining armour i've seen in a long time!! There must be a recent thread where some girl has been mercilessly cast aside and you're trying your best to get in there.

Where is it? Come on, own up? who's your target?

Actually it's "Funk" I'm after. Ever since our liaisons last year in the peak of summer I've become some what smitten with him He even had me all to himself in the passenger seat of his departed Focus ST at the time! Memories

Timmy35 said:

In all fairness the thread that gave you the idea for this one did involve two 27 y/o. And I do think by your mid twenties the rules have changed somewhat from your teens.

By the age of 27 most women are looking at you and trying to decide whether you're the one they want to get pregnant by in about 2 years time so that they can have there first at 30.

So things do tend to get a move on. It's different when you're younger.

Edited by Timmy35 on Thursday 18th February 12:10

Too true, that makes sense

tegwin said:

I hate to admit it... but I agree with the OP..

Just because you lot have no respect for woman and want to get the "leg over" ASAP...

Whats the point in a meaningless shag... would much rather wait, get to know the person so it means something...

To the OP.. dont loose heart.. im sure there are woman out there who still have the same morals as you!

Not to worry I haven't, believe me there are quite a few out there...But they're becoming few & far between. It's essentially a case that women have become so used to being used just for sex any expectations of having anything serious with guy just fade away, inevitable really.

Expectations which they once held about the opposite sex are very much olbiterated by the "hitting it like the fist of an angry god" mentality Which although I don't mind personally...& if I ever lived another life, I'd gladly have that attitude but seeing as I've only got the one life I'm picking & choosing

Edited by ironictwist on Thursday 18th February 12:31

[Harry Flashman]

Of course courting happens. It's just that the sex part is often dealt with early.

I am "courting" the current potential Lady Flashman (who doesn't drink, by the way - so no drunken fumbling). We have slept together, and did so on our second date. It was fantastic. And we are still getting to know each other, making an effort, and enjoying life.

Just because we are already intimate, it doesn't mean that we;ve reached the pinnacle of all we could be, and that it's all downhill from here.

It will be downhill from here when I finally get too drunk and do something moronic, of course...

[Harry Flashman]

elster said:

Mobile Chicane said:

They don't fancy you.

If someone doesn't want to shag you senseless from the off, then they probably aren't for you.

It is all a matter of how long a woman tries to control a man and hold him off.

Spot on. See my post in the other thread, about outdated views that a woman who sleeps with you early is not "wife material". Yes, she is.

What is not wife material is someone who holds out, hoards and treats sex as some precious gift to be saved and treasured, bestowed only on special occasions or if earned. This is the sort of woman you will curse the gods for marrying, trust me.

Edited by Harry Flashman on Thursday 18th February 12:33

[anonymous-user]

So harry, have you not fked this one up yet then???

[joe_90]

carmadgaz said:

Yes it does.

Was seeing my last girlfriend nearly two months (most days) before we were 'intimate'.

fail.