Divorce Advice
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bigTee

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5,546 posts

245 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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Right, I need a divorce..

We have a house that we can’t get out of so looking to rent it out until we are out of our fixed term. (we will get a legal agreement to cover both our interests)

She has a bit of cash, I don’t.

She left me and is with another fella but insisting she only copped off with said cock head after she moved out. I know this is bullst, but can’t prove it.

Do I take it on the chin, be the bigger man and get one of these quicky divorces leaving her with a nice nest egg and me with fk all or tell her I want some of her cash to help in starting over.

Any anybody used these quicky divorce things?

C8PPO

20,523 posts

227 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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BigTee said:
I've only been on three dates with the new bird but I'm already planning to propose
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bigTee

Original Poster:

5,546 posts

245 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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C8PPO said:
BigTee said:
I've only been on three dates with the new bird but I'm already planning to propose
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rofl Get Stuffed!!!!!

Mobile Chicane

21,825 posts

236 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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What would the answer be if it were you with the money and your ex wanted part of it? SWT...

RB26DETT

2,519 posts

199 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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She fked you around so go fk her sister if she has one.

And also dont let her have the house take her for what shes worth. You worked hard for what you have, dont let her take it all from you.

bigTee

Original Poster:

5,546 posts

245 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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Mobile Chicane said:
What would the answer be if it were you with the money and your ex wanted part of it? SWT...
I know, i know. Just feel a bit stty taking cash off her.......

I know i shouldn't, but part of me is saying just move on and leave her be.

bigTee

Original Poster:

5,546 posts

245 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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RB26DETT said:
go fk her sister if she has one.
Thats a thread for a different day !!! hehe

Mobile Chicane

21,825 posts

236 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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bigTee said:
Mobile Chicane said:
What would the answer be if it were you with the money and your ex wanted part of it? SWT...
I know, i know. Just feel a bit stty taking cash off her.......

I know i shouldn't, but part of me is saying just move on and leave her be.
Assuming she's going to hand it over without a fight that will wipe out most of it in legal bills.

Justayellowbadge

37,057 posts

266 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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If you file, costs go to you.

Worth about £1500.

I'm just saying.

JRM

2,065 posts

256 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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A mate of mine went through a similar scenario and just lumped it, bought her out of the house so she had the cash to play with and they both got on with their lives.

Terribly sad, but both remarried now and happy and still see each other occassionaly with any issues, so I'd take the path of least resistance

Cock Womble

29,908 posts

254 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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bigTee said:
Any anybody used these quicky divorce things?
Yes, twice.

Cite "unreasonable behaviour" if you really trust each other and know it won't be used against you and both want a quick and painless "out". Either party can "admit" to unreasonable behaviour.

I believe this can provide the route to a quick and (relatively) inexpensive divorce.

From what you say, I'd just get the hell out of there as quickly as possible, let her have her nest-egg and start a new life for yourself.


Soovy

35,829 posts

295 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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She has fked you.

Give her nothing unless you have to.


Get a solicitor. NOW.

bigTee

Original Poster:

5,546 posts

245 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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Justayellowbadge said:
If you file, costs go to you.

Worth about £1500.

I'm just saying.
Hence the quicky no contest couple of hundred quid divorce if she gifts me cash before hand......


What to do, what to do!!!

B17NNS

18,506 posts

271 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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No kids I presume.

Although she may have liquid cash you may have contibuted more to the marriage in other areas.

50/50 split seems perfectly fair.

Just a laymans point of view. I'd obviously recomend seeking professional advice.

However don't get too bogged down thinking about it. You have a whole new life to look forward to.

Good luck!

Dick_Phallus

1,155 posts

208 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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Soovy said:
She has fked you.

Give her nothing unless you have to.


Get a solicitor. NOW.
This. Or be a mug, it's up to you.

Justayellowbadge

37,057 posts

266 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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Soovy said:
Get a solicitor. NOW.
My wife insisted on solicitors. I self repped.

Capital settlement she received was approx 10% of what she paid her sol.

Not always the best move.

Except for for the solicitors, obviously.


Edited by Justayellowbadge on Tuesday 23 February 17:00

Mobile Chicane

21,825 posts

236 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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bigTee said:
Justayellowbadge said:
If you file, costs go to you.

Worth about £1500.

I'm just saying.
Hence the quicky no contest couple of hundred quid divorce if she gifts me cash before hand......


What to do, what to do!!!
Got a big pension? Expecting an inheritance? She could claim against all of that, as could you if the situation were reversed.

Matt Evans

1,530 posts

198 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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bigTee said:
I know, i know. Just feel a bit stty taking cash off her.......

I know i shouldn't, but part of me is saying just move on and leave her be.
Did she stop and think "I feel a bit stty cheating on my husband"?

Sod her.

bigTee

Original Poster:

5,546 posts

245 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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B17NNS said:
No kids I presume.

Although she may have liquid cash you may have contibuted more to the marriage in other areas.

50/50 split seems perfectly fair.

Just a laymans point of view. I'd obviously recomend seeking professional advice.

However don't get too bogged down thinking about it. You have a whole new life to look forward to.

Good luck!
No kids thank god.


She is coming around tonight to help me box things from the house up.


I think i'll ask her for some cash to help me set up a new place to live....


It is only fair seeing as i knew the other bloke and drank with him and i've been quite calm about the whole thing....


I don't want 50 50.

Just help with setting me up will do me.

bigTee

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5,546 posts

245 months

Tuesday 23rd February 2010
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coyft said:
bigTee said:
Justayellowbadge said:
If you file, costs go to you.

Worth about £1500.

I'm just saying.
Hence the quicky no contest couple of hundred quid divorce if she gifts me cash before hand......


What to do, what to do!!!
Getting a legal divorce has nothing to do with the financial settlement. They are treated as seperate matters.
Isn't there something like a clean break agreement you can attach to the divorce agreeing no one will pursue further claims after the divorce?