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I don't usually post stuff like this but i'm really torn on this one.
Where i work i'm very good friends with the FD, infact i'd say he's my best mate. I've known him for over 2 years now, went to the F1 together and Cornwall etc.
He's told me some very sensitive information relating to the company i work for as it directly affects me. However i feel obliged to tell the guy i work with as it also affects him.
I don't know if i should though as i don't want him telling anyone else which could in turn drop my mate in the s
t, but if i don't tell my colleague i'll be racked with guilt knowing i could have helped him as i knew in advance.
I'm not sure if i can trust him not to tell anyone but thats not a good enough reason to shrug the guilt i'm carrying off.
what would you do in this situation? other than look for a new job
Where i work i'm very good friends with the FD, infact i'd say he's my best mate. I've known him for over 2 years now, went to the F1 together and Cornwall etc.
He's told me some very sensitive information relating to the company i work for as it directly affects me. However i feel obliged to tell the guy i work with as it also affects him.
I don't know if i should though as i don't want him telling anyone else which could in turn drop my mate in the s
t, but if i don't tell my colleague i'll be racked with guilt knowing i could have helped him as i knew in advance.I'm not sure if i can trust him not to tell anyone but thats not a good enough reason to shrug the guilt i'm carrying off.
what would you do in this situation? other than look for a new job
Don't tell him yourself, but maybe ask your FD/mate if he can share the information with this other guy? Your FD has put you in an awkward position really, so he should help out, but he shouldn't be telling you sensitive information like this anyway, friend or not.
Edited by Arese on Wednesday 24th February 09:06
It's kind of what i expected tbh, I'm just plagued with guilt. However the last thing i want todo is put my friend in an awkward position.
I'm glad he did tell me, it means i can plan for the coming weeks/months rather than being dropped in the st at the last minute.
I guess i'll have to keep quiet until i can get out.
I'm glad he did tell me, it means i can plan for the coming weeks/months rather than being dropped in the s
t at the last minute.I guess i'll have to keep quiet until i can get out.
The reason your mate told you the info is he tusted you not to tell that to anyone.
I.e. he weighed up the pros and cons just like you have and must have decided that despite the potential risk to himslef, you needed to know and you could be trusted not to relay that info.
It's just not your call to make, by telling someone else you are betraying the original trust and that should outweight any guilt you feel right now.
I.e. he weighed up the pros and cons just like you have and must have decided that despite the potential risk to himslef, you needed to know and you could be trusted not to relay that info.
It's just not your call to make, by telling someone else you are betraying the original trust and that should outweight any guilt you feel right now.
neil_bolton said:
Obviously you're hoping your mate and best mate don't read PH or check your interwebnet logs right?
My opinion, keep schtum. The FD shouldn't have told you, if he wanted to be a good manager, he'd have told you together.
He told me as a friend, which tbh i am grateful for.My opinion, keep schtum. The FD shouldn't have told you, if he wanted to be a good manager, he'd have told you together.
But you are right, I think i knew that to start with i just needed to be told as i was feeling guilty.
I planned on leaving anyway so it makes little difference to me in the long run.
Eric Mc said:
Keep quiet. You were told in confidence.
Unfortunately, this is the answer. The only thing I would do is hint to the FD that your colleague is unaware etc.. and see if he takes the hint and either says for you to let him know or will do it himself.
However, most likely it is something he would get into deep s**t over and I suspect he has told you so that you can take whatever action you need to protect yourself i.e. he's taken a big risk to help you...
Mc lovin said:
neil_bolton said:
Obviously you're hoping your mate and best mate don't read PH or check your interwebnet logs right?
My opinion, keep schtum. The FD shouldn't have told you, if he wanted to be a good manager, he'd have told you together.
He told me as a friend, which tbh i am grateful for.My opinion, keep schtum. The FD shouldn't have told you, if he wanted to be a good manager, he'd have told you together.
But you are right, I think i knew that to start with i just needed to be told as i was feeling guilty.
I planned on leaving anyway so it makes little difference to me in the long run.
What did he tell you?
You are all going to be made redundant/jobs at risk/restructure/downsizing?
Dupont666 said:
Ok.. Ok... Since none of you lot are asking I will.
What did he tell you?
You are all going to be made redundant/jobs at risk/restructure/downsizing?
I think that makes a difference. What did he tell you?
You are all going to be made redundant/jobs at risk/restructure/downsizing?
If it was 'The directors have emptied the bank accounts and f
ked off to the carribean, we'll be going into administration on monday' then I'd say it was open season.If it's an upcoming merger or round of redundancies, then different story.
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