What Is This Country Coming To?

[gsfrontera]

Yesterday, my partner went to Manchester with her mother on th tram. My partner is due to give birth next Saturday, so is struggling to get around, but can manage it with frequent rests and a brew break here and there (and yes, before anyone asks, the baby is mine)

So they get on the tram, which is full, and go to see if they can find an empty seat. There are no seats available so my partner asks a man if he would mind giving up his seat as she is 9 months pregnant and needs a rest.

His answer... I get off in 2 stops, you can have my seat then!

Now im not being funny, but what the fk! You can clearly see the state she is in. If that was me id have offered my seat straight away, before she even had to ask.

Is this a selfish sign of the times, or was my partner wrong to ask for his seat? Either way, I think its a fking disgrace.

So, if you were that man, hope you had a good tram ride.

I believe in karma.

[evenflow]

Nothing wrong with her asking for a seat, although of course she shouldn't have had to.

[Cara Van Man]

Bloody northerners for you

[rich1231]

gsfrontera said:

Yesterday, my partner went to Manchester with her mother on th tram. My partner is due to give birth next Saturday, so is struggling to get around, but can manage it with frequent rests and a brew break here and there (and yes, before anyone asks, the baby is mine)

So they get on the tram, which is full, and go to see if they can find an empty seat. There are no seats available so my partner asks a man if he would mind giving up his seat as she is 9 months pregnant and needs a rest.

His answer... I get off in 2 stops, you can have my seat then!

Now im not being funny, but what the fk! You can clearly see the state she is in. If that was me id have offered my seat straight away, before she even had to ask.

Is this a selfish sign of the times, or was my partner wrong to ask for his seat? Either way, I think its a fking disgrace.

So, if you were that man, hope you had a good tram ride.

I believe in karma.

Being asked would feck me off too.

How didnt you know the bloke didnt have problems himself that required him to sit?

[E31Shrew]

inconsiderate tosser. I offered my seat to a preggers lady a couple of months back on the tube, and she proceeded to tell me in a raised voice " I'm not a fking invalid you know"

You cant win

[gsfrontera]

rich1231 said:

gsfrontera said:

Yesterday, my partner went to Manchester with her mother on th tram. My partner is due to give birth next Saturday, so is struggling to get around, but can manage it with frequent rests and a brew break here and there (and yes, before anyone asks, the baby is mine)

So they get on the tram, which is full, and go to see if they can find an empty seat. There are no seats available so my partner asks a man if he would mind giving up his seat as she is 9 months pregnant and needs a rest.

His answer... I get off in 2 stops, you can have my seat then!

Now im not being funny, but what the fk! You can clearly see the state she is in. If that was me id have offered my seat straight away, before she even had to ask.

Is this a selfish sign of the times, or was my partner wrong to ask for his seat? Either way, I think its a fking disgrace.

So, if you were that man, hope you had a good tram ride.

I believe in karma.

Being asked would feck me off too.

How didnt you know the bloke didnt have problems himself that required him to sit?

I dont, but surely he would have said "sorry love, I have a bad leg and cant stand" or something similar.

As for your personal view, if your happy to watch a pregnant woman struggle to stand on a moving tram then thats up to you.

[standfree93]

He should have got up straight away, I would have.

When I'm on the bus I always get up for the older generation. And I'm just 17 (you know what like the youth of today is )

Edited by standfree93 on Monday 8th March 16:52

[gsfrontera]

standfree93 said:

He should have got up straight away, I would have.

When I'm on the bus I always get up for the older generation. And I'm just 17 (you know what like the youth of today is;))

Fair play to you. People are quick to jump on teenagers but this guy was is his 30s

[CrashTD]

She should count herself lucky.

In the Big Smoke we would have elbowed her in the ribs as we barged passed her to get on the train then thrust our armpit into her face for the entire journey, probably stepping on her toes or stumbling into her as the train stopped as we were too busy reading the Metro to hold on.

Then obviously we would gently nudge her out as we tried to get off the tube. Its at this point where a fellow Londoner would begin to elbow her in the ribs as they get on. And such is the cycle.

[soad]

Cara Van Man said:

Bloody northerners for you

To balance this out, I hear those soft southerners are just as bad.

[ascayman]

i see this every week on the tube the amount of people that bury thier heads in a paper the second a pregnant lady gets on the train is shocking.

[ScottishSamurai]

standfree93 said:

He should have got up straight away, I would have.

When I'm on the bus I always get up for the older generation. And I'm just 17 (you know what like the youth of today is )

Edited by standfree93 on Monday 8th March 16:52

Ditto, nobody else seems to
17 too here, kids these days eh

[Jgtv]

I get up to offer my seat, hold doors, ask if they need a hand getting up stairs with a pram ( not just because they are huge) and generally try to be as helpful as is reasonable. Now I am no old timer but I am amazed by the amount of people who dont even think about it.

I have offered to help a women once with her pram up some stairs and with the look i got you would have thought I suggested a 3some with her and her dad, snapped at me and then the not so young mum (mid 30's) would rather struggle rather than take a little help very strange.

In all fairness some people are just rude, I was killing some time in HMV the other day and 2 paramedics were walking up the aisle with a girl of about 16-17, she had her arm in a sling and had obviously been crying and probably in a lot of pain, I moved to one side to let them through only to be almost barged out he way by a women of about 50 while she tried to force past the 3 of them, I was gob smacked someone could be that inconsiderate.

[standfree93]

Then you see all the other folk my age sitting on the 4 seater part, when there's only 2 of orange faced minks, and putting there feet up.
It really annoys, they should be respecting other users on the bus, well everywhere to be honest, holding doors open, etc.

[Cock Womble]

Ah, but you do run the risk of offering your seat to a "pregnant" lady that isn't.

[monthefish]

Jimmy Carr said:

I'd rather see a pregnant lady standing, that a fat lass sitting crying

[OnTheOverrun]

Take Jimmy Carr's advice and never ask: "Better a pregnant woman standing up than a fat bird sitting down crying. . . ."

[strudel]

IMO it's your fault for making someone who is 9 months pregnant use public transport instead of driving her about!

[soad]

standfree93 said:

Then you see all the other folk my age sitting on the 4 seater part, when there's only 2 of orange faced minks, and putting there feet up.
It really annoys, they should be respecting other users on the bus, well everywhere to be honest, holding doors open, etc.

That's nothing - occurs on a daily basis.
You also get tossers smoking upstairs, getting lippy & violently aggresive if someone says something about it. Seen a few people beaten up over it. Others too scared to intervene/look.

Public transport sucks on all counts.

[Balmoral Green]

And if someone had gotten up and offered her a seat right away without needing to be asked, where would the OP's rant and the state of the Nation be then?