Socialising with colleagues
Socialising with colleagues
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paoloh

Original Poster:

8,617 posts

234 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Been invited out for beer and curry.

Do you guys socialise with colleagues?


Rocksteadyeddie

7,971 posts

257 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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yes Often.

But I have no friends.


Pothole

34,367 posts

312 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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always have, always will.

Harry Flashman

21,871 posts

272 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Yes - job is very social, and networking orientated.

Only socialise with colleagues/work peers during the week though, and there is no crossover between "work friends" and "home friends", except in a couple of very special circumstances (usually involving some sort of indiscretion of other).

Jonny671

29,904 posts

219 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Depends what their like I guess.

I would go out with any of my staff from the club I worked at, but we were all young and all got on.

Here at work, I'd go out with a few people, but most of them I wouldn't.

tegwin

1,682 posts

236 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Are you 16, with no life experience atall?


Do you like the guys you work with enough to want to have a pint? Simple choice really..

Penny-lope

13,645 posts

223 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Yep sure do...I have worked with two of my closest friends. One I knew before I worked with her, and the other I met through work.


gilla

19,746 posts

220 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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all the time - sometimes for serious sessions, sometimes for a quick pint, regularly have people from the office stay at mine for convenience if they live out of town... if you like them why not?

podwin

652 posts

232 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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I used to a lot, until it went horribly wrong.

Since leaving that place I make a point not to socialise with work colleagues.

Odie

4,187 posts

212 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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I avoid it at all costs.

st_files

5,443 posts

211 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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podwin said:
I used to a lot, until it went horribly wrong.

Since leaving that place I make a point not to socialise with work colleagues.
care to elaborate?

louiebaby

10,979 posts

221 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Bookmarked for Flashman stories.

I do occasionally, but keep it to a low level. I spend more hours a week with them than I do anyone else. Why take up more of my free time?

The Curn

917 posts

242 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Yes, because its all paid for.

Thursday night for example;

Drinks in a bar, dinner in a well known restaurant, room in a 5 star hotel. My bill would have come to well over £400 and I didn't pay a penny.

Plus it avoids going home.

Ganglandboss

8,553 posts

233 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Most people make friends through school, college and university so there's no reason you shouldn't through work.


Steamer

14,185 posts

243 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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st_files said:
podwin said:
I used to a lot, until it went horribly wrong.

Since leaving that place I make a point not to socialise with work colleagues.
care to elaborate?


if you are asking a whole world of strangers if its a 'good idea'... but last time 'it went horribly wrong'.. then you have to tell what 'went horribly wrong' before we could possibly help you.

ewenm

28,506 posts

275 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Steamer said:
st_files said:
podwin said:
I used to a lot, until it went horribly wrong.

Since leaving that place I make a point not to socialise with work colleagues.
care to elaborate?


if you are asking a whole world of strangers if its a 'good idea'... but last time 'it went horribly wrong'.. then you have to tell what 'went horribly wrong' before we could possibly help you.
Different person...

My take on it - if you like them and/or it is important to your job (networking?) then go, but there is no obligation to socialise with colleagues.

fivesixseven8

6,146 posts

257 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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I tend not to. Working a fair distance from home means it isn't at all practical. The only real exception I make is for someone's leaving drinks (if I like them.)

AndyAudi

4,004 posts

252 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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ewenm said:
.. there is no obligation to socialise with colleagues.
Although it can sometimes feel like there is, if you don't go on company nights out you get called a miserable bd.

I've moved around quite a lot & usually only socialise as I feel it is required on some occasions. I have rarely had, what I'd call, a good night in the company of colleagues (although I've had plenty of regrets when I have been out).

I try to never mix personal / work life. (except for an odd occasion)

I've been working for 14years and do not currently have anyone in my social circle with whom I've worked with.

Edited by AndyAudi on Wednesday 24th March 14:46

robodonkey2005

311 posts

236 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Informal connections in a formal environment are more important than you may think (for getting things done AND your career)....I used to think "keep them separate" but now I'm older and wiser I know better!

PS This does not mean you need to sh*g everything that moves in the office.

PPS But that could be fun, depends on your office really

Edited by robodonkey2005 on Wednesday 24th March 14:46

trooperiziz

9,457 posts

282 months

Wednesday 24th March 2010
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Sure.

In fact, when working on a project away from home with a team, there is nothing else to do of an evening than "socialise" beer