Do you have relatives you despise, if so, why?
Do you have relatives you despise, if so, why?
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singlecoil

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35,834 posts

276 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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With me it would be my sister. My best friend when we were growing up, in her teens she started to go a bit off, then she had the good fortune to marry a rich bloke. After that is was "why's everybody after my money?" and she kept well away from anyone, even in her own family, who she knew was a bit 'short'.

I don't mind her being rich, I know it hasn't brought her any happiness, but it's a shame that, in her case, money has turned her into a complete ahole.

Funnily enough, my father's sister was just the same, married a rich bloke, thought it was all her own doing, became very detached from the rest of the family, was involved in some amazing acts of selfishness. As a child I didn't know why one of my aunts was referred to as AuntieFreeze but realised later.

Anyway, enough of my family, anyone else have any relatives they would like to tell us about?

Republik

4,525 posts

220 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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Not relative as such but my other half's sister. Cannot stand to be in the same room as her at times. She is a disgusting person.

bazking69

8,620 posts

220 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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Marrying into money turns alot of women into pricks sadly. Considerably better than yaou and all that, even when yaou is the hand that once fed them. Sad.

The only relative I bear bad feeling towards is one of my uncles after a passing comment he made about me carrying a little bit of weight when I was a kid, purely because he is a waster prick with a big mouth and a drink problem. I've always bit my tongue but my mum is perfectly aware of the fact that I would probably throw him through a brick wall if I ever saw him again. I believe he has also been advised of this. Luckily he resides on the other side of the country. I don't despise him at all, I just pity him.

Penny-lope

13,645 posts

223 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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My step mother....enough said

13th

3,169 posts

243 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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All of mine.

Poledriver

29,597 posts

224 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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My Uncle!
Had a good job working in Africa, Middle East and Far East earning a mint.
Pissed it all up the wall and ended up retiring to Oz. Through his life he earned and spent a great deal of money, then ended up sending begging letters to my father, even during his last couple of months of life.

Selfish twunt!

anonymous-user

84 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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My brother

Earns really good money at Walkers crisps as a manager, then pleads poverty to our folks and needs a helping hand. They are to blind to see that he goes out on the piss three nights a week, goes to the gym 3 nights a week, goes away in b&b's every other weekend and can afford to run a shogun, and still my folks claim he hasnt got much money.

I dont mind the fact that he is doing it, or that they believe him, but i do get annoyed when they make out that mrs slopes and i earn more together than he does. Hello mum, he earns 40k a year, when mrs slopes and i had a joint income it was 26k, how the fk is that more.


Okay i lied, it does annoy me that he gets away with it, just as much as it annoys me they believe him

kelk

955 posts

243 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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My father.

When I was young we were supposed to emigrate to the US. My older sister and I had said goodbye to all our friends and extended family awaiting the flights after the house had been sold and all our possesions were in packing cases to go America.

A day or so before our departure we are at our gran's house saying our goodbyes and having lunch when a call from my mother (who had deposited us there earlier) comes through saying that my father has gone.

To cut a long story short he had:

Left us with no home to live in
Taken all the money from the hiouse (which was now paying for the house in the US
Taken all the family savings - not a huge amonut but my mom was not a working mom and had no money as her role was to bring up the family
Basically left us with nothing

My folks (my mother, aunt and grandmother) have done a fantastic job of bringing my sister and I up and on the few occasions I have met my father since (5 times in nearly 20 years) I make sure he realises he had no part to play in the sucesses that we have become.

Steameh

3,155 posts

240 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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Cousin of mine who is under no illusions that if he appears here begging for money (fleeced my nan out of thousands telling her he was in trouble, death threats etc) that he will be removed from the property swiftly and with appropriate force.

bazking69

8,620 posts

220 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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kelk said:
My father.

When I was young we were supposed to emigrate to the US. My older sister and I had said goodbye to all our friends and extended family awaiting the flights after the house had been sold and all our possesions were in packing cases to go America.

A day or so before our departure we are at our gran's house saying our goodbyes and having lunch when a call from my mother (who had deposited us there earlier) comes through saying that my father has gone.

To cut a long story short he had:

Left us with no home to live in
Taken all the money from the hiouse (which was now paying for the house in the US
Taken all the family savings - not a huge amonut but my mom was not a working mom and had no money as her role was to bring up the family
Basically left us with nothing

My folks (my mother, aunt and grandmother) have done a fantastic job of bringing my sister and I up and on the few occasions I have met my father since (5 times in nearly 20 years) I make sure he realises he had no part to play in the sucesses that we have become.
You still dignify your dad with acknowledgement that he exists after that?

13th

3,169 posts

243 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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kelk said:
My father.

When I was young we were supposed to emigrate to the US. My older sister and I had said goodbye to all our friends and extended family awaiting the flights after the house had been sold and all our possesions were in packing cases to go America.

A day or so before our departure we are at our gran's house saying our goodbyes and having lunch when a call from my mother (who had deposited us there earlier) comes through saying that my father has gone.

To cut a long story short he had:

Left us with no home to live in
Taken all the money from the hiouse (which was now paying for the house in the US
Taken all the family savings - not a huge amonut but my mom was not a working mom and had no money as her role was to bring up the family
Basically left us with nothing

My folks (my mother, aunt and grandmother) have done a fantastic job of bringing my sister and I up and on the few occasions I have met my father since (5 times in nearly 20 years) I make sure he realises he had no part to play in the sucesses that we have become.
There are some bad stories on here but that one takes the biscuit. Well done you, your sister and esp your Mum for pullinh through :-)

oobster

7,695 posts

241 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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My brother-in-law. My wife can't stand him either.

Puggit

49,817 posts

278 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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My uncle who tried to burn the house down with my cousins asleep in it - oh, no. He fell down the stairs when drunk and had a heart attack. Nevermind smile

Oh, on the other side of the family, my dad's sister's ex-husband for being a kiddy fiddler mad

Edited by Puggit on Friday 26th March 12:28

kelk

955 posts

243 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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bazking69 said:
kelk said:
My father.

When I was young we were supposed to emigrate to the US. My older sister and I had said goodbye to all our friends and extended family awaiting the flights after the house had been sold and all our possesions were in packing cases to go America.

A day or so before our departure we are at our gran's house saying our goodbyes and having lunch when a call from my mother (who had deposited us there earlier) comes through saying that my father has gone.

To cut a long story short he had:

Left us with no home to live in
Taken all the money from the hiouse (which was now paying for the house in the US
Taken all the family savings - not a huge amonut but my mom was not a working mom and had no money as her role was to bring up the family
Basically left us with nothing

My folks (my mother, aunt and grandmother) have done a fantastic job of bringing my sister and I up and on the few occasions I have met my father since (5 times in nearly 20 years) I make sure he realises he had no part to play in the sucesses that we have become.
You still dignify your dad with acknowledgement that he exists after that?
I know he gets very upset after the few occasions we have met knowing that I want nothing to do with him - that is my payback. Making he realise the loss.

My sister, over the years, has grown closer. Not close, but closer. I treat him like an outsider and yet he speaks to my folks on a weekly basis whihc I find odd.

Recently he had the audacity ot say that the kids (my sis and I) would have been better if he'd taken us with him - when I heard this my immediate reaction was "Mom, <sis name> was the most successful person at her university, she's gone on to do X, Y and Z. I am very good at my career, regarded in some companies as the best there is at what I do in the world. I am highly regarding uin my sporting field. We help and look after you guys when and however we can. We are who we are because of the people you moulded us to be. What could he have done better than you?"

BTW my folks have never bad mouthed my father in front of me - they wanted me to form my own opinion. Likewise I am requested by my sis to not bad mouth him infront of my niece and nephew.

She cried at that point.

tegwin

1,682 posts

236 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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My Uncle who drinks too much, behaves like a nobber... Over christmas he was gobbing off about how he wants his mother (my grandmother) to die so he can carve up her estate, build on it and get rich...Amongst other things... Im not a violent type... but.... sooo tempting!!!!


TedMaul

2,092 posts

243 months

Friday 26th March 2010
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kelk said:
My father.

When I was young we were supposed to emigrate to the US. My older sister and I had said goodbye to all our friends and extended family awaiting the flights after the house had been sold and all our possesions were in packing cases to go America.

A day or so before our departure we are at our gran's house saying our goodbyes and having lunch when a call from my mother (who had deposited us there earlier) comes through saying that my father has gone.

To cut a long story short he had:

Left us with no home to live in
Taken all the money from the hiouse (which was now paying for the house in the US
Taken all the family savings - not a huge amonut but my mom was not a working mom and had no money as her role was to bring up the family
Basically left us with nothing

My folks (my mother, aunt and grandmother) have done a fantastic job of bringing my sister and I up and on the few occasions I have met my father since (5 times in nearly 20 years) I make sure he realises he had no part to play in the sucesses that we have become.
Jeez and I thought my old man was a twunt. Well, he is, but yours is worse. I think you are right, missing out is the best punishment, I can't say he missed out on much with me perhaps but my kids are great and he doesn't even know they are born. Literally. Fred Burroughs, where ever you are (and you may be dead for all I know) it was all your loss mate. Apart from when I was going through the 80s glam metal Motley Crue phase and probably best you missed that tbh, i wish I'd missed that. Dear God I had a lot of hair, dear god its all gone frown