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sleep envy said:
on the rocks already?
lol no (well at least I don't think so 
), it's just something that I find a bit weird, having been together for many years and then getting married last year - I just can't understand the mentality of marrying after so long and then parting so soon after. Why on earth would you even consider marriage if your relationship was on the rocks? Just can't comprehend it.ukwill said:
sleep envy said:
on the rocks already?
lol no (well at least I don't think so ), it's just something that I find a bit weird, having been together for many years and then getting married last year - I just can't understand the mentality of marrying after so long and then parting so soon after. Why on earth would you even consider marriage if your relationship was on the rocks? Just can't comprehend it.One couple together for 14 years happy as larry, got married split 2 years later
Maybe it's a psychological thing, once that bit of paper is signed and the ring goes on it is very final?
ukwill said:
sleep envy said:
on the rocks already?
lol no (well at least I don't think so ), it's just something that I find a bit weird, having been together for many years and then getting married last year - I just can't understand the mentality of marrying after so long and then parting so soon after. Why on earth would you even consider marriage if your relationship was on the rocks? Just can't comprehend it.I think marriage can put unnecessary strain on a relationship. An example, my cousin and his girlfriend of about 12 years, met at 16, lived together since they were 18, moved to Australia together, lived there for 5 years, all well and good, never fell out, very happy together, they got married 2 years ago and then divorced a year later, as over that year they began to hate each other.
anonymous said:
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This. What I find hard to understand is if you've been with someone for a long time then you both know each other very, very well. I don't understand how things can change so dramatically so suddently after marriage - I could see it happening with a couple who haven't been together that long or who haven't experienced both good and bad times in their relationship, but not with a couple who have a lot of years under their belt.Same as some couples have kids thinking it will cement their failed relationship when all it does is complicate matters further.
Let's face it. It's mostly women who want to get married (unless you're Poledriver), it's their day and they organise it.
Most men look a bit lost and useless at weddings, including the male guests!
Also to some it's almost like they are making sure they have that person for life, usually if there isn't equal parity in the relationship, as if a piece of paper will make the difference.
Saying the above is partly due to my negative views on the subject having gotten married in Oz for a green card.
Let's face it. It's mostly women who want to get married (unless you're Poledriver), it's their day and they organise it.
Most men look a bit lost and useless at weddings, including the male guests!
Also to some it's almost like they are making sure they have that person for life, usually if there isn't equal parity in the relationship, as if a piece of paper will make the difference.
Saying the above is partly due to my negative views on the subject having gotten married in Oz for a green card.
Robatr0n said:
ukwill said:
do some people get married after being together for many years, only to divorce soon after?
One of life's mysteries.Much like people who put a single word for a thread title so as you have no clue what a thread is about until you click on it.
Why?
AJS- said:
Or because divorce settlements are so much better than a simple split, for one party at least...
But if you were the other party you probably wouldn't want to agree to it, if you thought that was the intention? (And if you were thinking like that, the relationship was most likely almost through, regardless).Gassing Station | The Lounge | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff