How do I go about this?
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I'm looking for a new housemate at the minute, and I've put it up in the usual places, gumtree, work intranet, facebook etc.
Obviously the only thing at the minute that has turned a result is gumtree. However its hard to judge the person via their name.
now for the tricky bit, I want to try and get an english person in, I don't fancy living with another culture, be it european, asian or other, but how do I go about this correctly without wasting peoples time or offeding them?
I'm sure many of you will think that its a racist view, which I guess it is, but I'm sure there are others who can understand my view, I'm there a lot, and I would prefer someone from a similar background to me.
Any views apreciated.
Obviously the only thing at the minute that has turned a result is gumtree. However its hard to judge the person via their name.
now for the tricky bit, I want to try and get an english person in, I don't fancy living with another culture, be it european, asian or other, but how do I go about this correctly without wasting peoples time or offeding them?
I'm sure many of you will think that its a racist view, which I guess it is, but I'm sure there are others who can understand my view, I'm there a lot, and I would prefer someone from a similar background to me.
Any views apreciated.
Plotloss said:
Loot wouldn't let us put 'No scum' when I lived in Fulham.
Picky, picky, picky... OP, the only thing I would say is that you interview them and see how you get on. You may find a person from "another culture" may be a lot nicer and have more in common with you than an "English". However, if not, you still meet them and then can exclude people that way I guess.
It's a difficult one. Presumably you meet them first to judge suitability?
I encountered the other side of this problem as a brown person looking for somewhere to live years back. I would just ask the person outright if they were OK with me living in their house. I would also give them an obvious opportunity to phone and call it off. It avoided any difficult moments and wasting time.
It's difficult for you to state your intentions in this PC age without being accused of racism or falling foul of the law.
I suggest just interview them and judge them as individuals. As somebody else said you may be surprised to find you have more in common with an ethnic or foreigner.
pp
I encountered the other side of this problem as a brown person looking for somewhere to live years back. I would just ask the person outright if they were OK with me living in their house. I would also give them an obvious opportunity to phone and call it off. It avoided any difficult moments and wasting time.
It's difficult for you to state your intentions in this PC age without being accused of racism or falling foul of the law.
I suggest just interview them and judge them as individuals. As somebody else said you may be surprised to find you have more in common with an ethnic or foreigner.
pp
I know, it is difficult, I apreciate your input, especially coming from the opposite point of view.
I'm not a racist guy, but I think I'd just feel more comfortable with someone more similar to myself, and my housemate
However we will see, I do have freinds from different backgrounds.
I'm not a racist guy, but I think I'd just feel more comfortable with someone more similar to myself, and my housemate
However we will see, I do have freinds from different backgrounds.
Having lived in international halls at uni and then house shared - I found the non-british housemates far more interesting to share a space with - better read, better traveled and I learned a lot about their culture as well.
Do it all by interview, don't close your mind, and pick the nicest person.
Do it all by interview, don't close your mind, and pick the nicest person.
plg said:
Having lived in international halls at uni and then house shared - I found the non-british housemates far more interesting to share a space with - better read, better traveled and I learned a lot about their culture as well.
Do it all by interview, don't close your mind, and pick the nicest person.
Thats about the size of it. Living with someone from another culture will give you a far richer experience than some Joe from down the road. Do it all by interview, don't close your mind, and pick the nicest person.
In any event, just make sure she is fit and up for a threeball.
Justayellowbadge said:
Tell you what ruins that, and I speak as something of an auteur, are the continual face shots of the interviewer asking questions, that must have been added after the event. Either he's extremely vain or it was a set up.
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