Mothers in law
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Sunglasses Ron

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540 posts

196 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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My mother in law is French, lives in France and hardly speaks English. So as a result I don't have much to do with her, although she is a nice lady and we get on well.

My ex-MIL is a (as is her daughter), she thinks she knows it all but in reality is as thick as a swimming pool filled with st. If you said to her you'd been to Tenerife, she'd been to elevenerife, you know the sort of person. I used to love proving the dried up old witch wrong.

What's your mother in law like and how do you get on with her?

Edited by Sunglasses Ron on Monday 9th August 03:49

TotalControl

8,307 posts

229 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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Previous MIL passed away. Got on okayish with her. New MIL to be is a really nice woman though.

Mobile Chicane

22,026 posts

243 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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Mine's lovely. Like the mother I never had.

hidetheelephants

36,323 posts

224 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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Mobile Chicane said:
Mine's lovely. Like the mother I never had.
Do you not exist then, or did the stork bring you? Spooky!wobble

TotalControl

8,307 posts

229 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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hidetheelephants said:
Mobile Chicane said:
Mine's lovely. Like the mother I never had.
Do you not exist then, or did the stork bring you? Spooky!wobble
Oh gosh, please don't. I'm guessing you didn't read one of the threads on parents quite a while ago?

PhillT

2,489 posts

256 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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Current (potential) MIL is really nice, I get on great with her. Same is true of previous (then-potential) MIL - hugely generous and fun, great cook but a rampant alcoholic. Her daughter's a though.

speedchick

5,290 posts

253 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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Ex-MIL is ok, we have grown closer since her son (my ex) died, don't see her that often, which could be why we get on.

Current MIL is lovely, she's everything that my own mother isn't. She's been there for a shoulder to cry on, takes more of an interest in my life, actually talks to me, things that a mother should do.

Four Cofffee

11,838 posts

266 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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My MiL is a sweetie. Just after I met my current wife I was getting divorced from my ex. which had meant me moving from London back to the Welsh borders with just £37 in my pocket and a suitcase of clothes. I had met the future MiL twice over the previous year since meeting her daughter. She is not a rich woman but withiout hesitation she lent me most of the money she did have (£8K) to put a 10% deposit on a cottage. I have paid her back since but won't forget that trust and generosity in a hurry. I liked her so much I maried her daughter!

tenohfive

6,276 posts

213 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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My MIL is mildly annoying (and is a terrible cook) but not a bad old girl really.

Interesting fact: Mother in law is an anagram of Woman Hitler. Read into that what you will.

ZesPak

26,156 posts

227 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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Mobile Chicane said:
Mine's lovely. Like the mother I never had.
+100

She IS a "greeny" though, but other than that, I'm very lucky with my inlaws.

Asterix

24,438 posts

259 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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My MiL is a lovely lady. Mainly just sits there and smiles a lot. She's Indian and while she speaks fluent English, I think she's a bit shy to speak as it is my mother tongue and I wonder if she is worried that she'd make a mistake and I'd think less of her for it - bit daft! One huge benefit of her being Indian that the food is exceptional whenever we go over to visit smile

It's interesting that she's from South India, her husband is North Indian and they can't speak each other's local language so they've always communicated in English. My wife's first language is English with Hindi second

WildCards

4,061 posts

248 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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My MiL is alright, the FiL however is an 'elevenerife' type as mentioned in the OP, although we seem to have reached an unspoken understanding in recent years, he doesn't spout shyte in front of me and I don't make him look a twunt in public. We get on quite well now.

TonyHetherington

32,091 posts

281 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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My mother-in-law is Miss Right. I just wish I knew her middle name was "always".

No hang on, that's not right.

It tells the story though. Don't bother arguing, just nod and agree until the next time you have to go round.

crmcatee

5,808 posts

258 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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Mines is about 600 miles away.


It's sometimes not far enough.

Superhoop

4,919 posts

224 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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Asterix said:
My MiL is a lovely lady. Mainly just sits there and smiles a lot. She's Indian and while she speaks fluent English, I think she's a bit shy to speak as it is my mother tongue and I wonder if she is worried that she'd make a mistake and I'd think less of her for it - bit daft! One huge benefit of her being Indian that the food is exceptional whenever we go over to visit smile

It's interesting that she's from South India, her husband is North Indian and they can't speak each other's local language so they've always communicated in English. My wife's first language is English with Hindi second
I know what you mean. My MIL is Malaysian, and a really lovely lady - She also tends to be a bit shy when it comes to speaking English, I think in case she says something wrong.

Just like you, I get to sample the best Malaysian food ever, and normally whenever we are going for dinner, I always get to choose what she cooks (which pisses my OH off, as she never gets a choice)

JungleJim

2,430 posts

243 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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She's well intentioned in general, but quite the most irritating human being I have ever met. The knowledge that she is coming to stay the night can send me into a terrible fog.

littlegreenfairy

10,134 posts

252 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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Mine doesn't think I've got a proper job and generally doesn't approve full stop. I feel like a nuisance and an extra part.

Not sure if she intends it, but that's how it comes across and its ¨uncomfortable¨

crmcatee

5,808 posts

258 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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JungleJim said:
. The knowledge that she is coming to stay the night can send me into a terrible fog.
smile

Mine came to stay for a week once. I had to find something to do so went to the model shop and bought a remote controlled helicopter and spend the rest of the week building it smile

Four Cofffee

11,838 posts

266 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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Superhoop said:
Asterix said:
My MiL is a lovely lady. Mainly just sits there and smiles a lot. She's Indian and while she speaks fluent English, I think she's a bit shy to speak as it is my mother tongue and I wonder if she is worried that she'd make a mistake and I'd think less of her for it - bit daft! One huge benefit of her being Indian that the food is exceptional whenever we go over to visit smile

It's interesting that she's from South India, her husband is North Indian and they can't speak each other's local language so they've always communicated in English. My wife's first language is English with Hindi second
I know what you mean. My MIL is Malaysian, and a really lovely lady - She also tends to be a bit shy when it comes to speaking English, I think in case she says something wrong.

Just like you, I get to sample the best Malaysian food ever, and normally whenever we are going for dinner, I always get to choose what she cooks (which pisses my OH off, as she never gets a choice)
I am looking for the overseas MiL who is a ste cook! How come we get all the poor home grown cooks? There must be someone living in the East whose family lives out of a microwave and the equivilent of Asda Smart Meals. I insist that we only employ overseas mums in school and hospital kitchens, as food technology teachers and in restaurants. We might then get some decent food!

Justayellowbadge

37,057 posts

273 months

Monday 9th August 2010
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We never got on, but when she was diagnosed with cancer I felt an enormous and surprising amount of sympathy. For the tumour.