Ever feel life is passing you by?
Ever feel life is passing you by?
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yazza54

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20,343 posts

212 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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I'm 20, left college early as it wasn't for me and got a job in Building services engineering. A good job, full time however one day a week out of office at either uni or college. stloads of coursework and very busy in the office. I seem to never have any time for myself, and generally feel like everyone my age is out having more fun than me. At uni etc, out every week and meeting new people of a similar age.

I seem to spend all my time of late working, either office work or coursework. Due to the nature of my work in the office I don't meet many people of my own age and well, it's pretty hard to meet girls of a similar age too.

I'm not complaining, because I have a good job and I'm lucky to have it. But is anyone else in a similar situation?

I know when all my mates leave Uni they'll be stuck looking for jobs and be stuck with debts etc and the grass is probably not greener on the other side. But it don't 'alf get lonely on my half sometimes.

I'm also fully aware theres lots of people in much worse situations before anyone starts, just interested in other peoples situations..any other young'uns on here doing a similar kind of thing?

ewenm

28,506 posts

276 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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Sounds like you need to work out some way of reserving some time to yourself each week if you can.

Gixer86

1,541 posts

203 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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It's Friday night and your sat on PH whinging that you can't meet girls, go figure!!

GTIR

24,741 posts

297 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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Have you thought that you might have homosexual leanings?

Might be the reason you're lost.

Just a thought. smile





(gheyer)

PHmember

2,487 posts

202 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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Gixer86 said:
It's Friday night and your sat on PH whinging that you can't meet girls, go figure!!
He's got a point.

yazza54

Original Poster:

20,343 posts

212 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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Gixer86 said:
It's Friday night and your sat on PH whinging that you can't meet girls, go figure!!
Because I have no time to go out, I'm still doing fking work.

yazza54

Original Poster:

20,343 posts

212 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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GTIR said:
Have you thought that you might have homosexual leanings?

Might be the reason you're lost.

Just a thought. smile





(gheyer)
Very funny.

How foolish of me to come on here for a sensible chat!

TuxRacer

13,966 posts

222 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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You're only 20, FFS!

ewenm

28,506 posts

276 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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yazza54 said:
Gixer86 said:
It's Friday night and your sat on PH whinging that you can't meet girls, go figure!!
Because I have no time to go out, I'm still doing fking work.
Paid work or unpaid overtime or coursework? If coursework, do what every other student does and jack it in for a night, meet your mates and have a few beers. Doesn't have to be every night to recharge your social batteries but once a week helps.


Edited by ewenm on Friday 20th August 21:41

mybrainhurts

90,809 posts

286 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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It passed me by and disappeared over the bloody horizon years ago....hehe

yazza54

Original Poster:

20,343 posts

212 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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TuxRacer said:
You're only 20, FFS!
Yes, which seems too young to have this kind of lifestyle. My age is the whole point of the post.

Infact I don't think work should take over at any age.

I said I wasn't complaining...just interested in other peoples situations.

GTIR

24,741 posts

297 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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Go and chat to real people instead of chatting to middle aged past it miserable tossers staying in on a Friday night on an Internet forum. Don't be such a defeatist tit and grab some money and get down the pub. Now!

Now!

Go!




M-J-B

15,401 posts

281 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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Yep, you're 20 and should be out taking your pick of the local talent.

When you're 47, run your own business, have no free time and five kids then you can post how life seems to whizz by.

Gixer86

1,541 posts

203 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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yazza54 said:
Gixer86 said:
It's Friday night and your sat on PH whinging that you can't meet girls, go figure!!
Because I have no time to go out, I'm still doing fking work.
Work or fking work?

I wasn't having a dig but it's pretty obvious that's the problem.

fk work, it will wait (cos if your not there doing it it'll have too).

When i was 19/20 i'd be getting to the pub around now, by 12 i'd be pissed out my face and harrasing every bit of fluff with in reach.

Get out there!

ETA- Where in manchester are you from?

Edited by Gixer86 on Friday 20th August 21:50

ray_von

3,065 posts

283 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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Gixer86 said:
ETA- Where in manchester are you from?
From the part that thinks posting on an internet forum is working

yazza54

Original Poster:

20,343 posts

212 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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Gixer86 said:
yazza54 said:
Gixer86 said:
It's Friday night and your sat on PH whinging that you can't meet girls, go figure!!
Because I have no time to go out, I'm still doing fking work.
Work or fking work?

I wasn't having a dig but it's pretty obvious that's the problem.

fk work, it will wait (cos if your not there doing it it'll have too).

When i was 19/20 i'd be getting to the pub around now, by 12 i'd be pissed out my face and harrasing every bit of fluff with in reach.

Get out there!

ETA- Where in manchester are you from?

Edited by Gixer86 on Friday 20th August 21:50
Whitefield/Bury.. you?

Yeah I get you, just got that much work to do at the moment I can't afford to stop, it's in for next thurs so rest assured this time next week I'll be lying in a gutter somewhere!!

Risotto

3,934 posts

243 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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The other people your age who are at uni are probably having a great time, but they're paying top whack for it. You on the other hand don't have much free time but are at least getting financial reward for this inconvenience. These things tend to balance out over the years as the tables begin to turn.

There isn't one set way to live your life - some people go to uni, take gap years, do a masters, etc. Before they know it, they're 30 and have nothing to show for it but a big debt, some old photos and a nice collection of braided wristbands. Eventually they begin to realise that unless they want to spend their twilight years in a plastic nappy provided by the council, they need to spend the next few decades working as hard as you are now.

Others, like you perhaps, might forsake some of the early fun for paid work. No, you can't go round the world for months on end at the drop of a hat, but if you're smart, you might be able to set your life up so that you still have a laugh but by the time your mates have grown up; you've got money in the bank, a negligible mortgage and some free time. You can then get a bit of freedom yourself -start a family without going bankrupt, have a few hobbies, nice cars, holidays, etc.

Having said all that, it does sound like you've maybe not got the work/life balance quite right if your current state of affairs is normal and has no end in sight. So take the night off and go out wink


Edited by Risotto on Friday 20th August 22:25

oldbanger

4,328 posts

269 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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yazza54 said:
I'm 20
Meh! Just wait till you're 30, or 40, or ...

yes

yazza54

Original Poster:

20,343 posts

212 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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ray_von said:
Gixer86 said:
ETA- Where in manchester are you from?
From the part that thinks posting on an internet forum is working
Well I was before I posted this, then I figured it was enough for one night.

fido

18,922 posts

286 months

Friday 20th August 2010
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It's the friday night blue .. you know when you think you should be out 'enjoying yourself' in a crap pub ..
but instead stuck on some internet forum conversing with strangers just to fill that aching emptiness and avoid pondering the futility of our humdrum modern existence.