Just found out I have 2 sisters and a brother....

[Sway]

I've been applying for a new job recently, and so thought I'd Google myself to make sure there's nothing untoward out there....

Found a mention of me on an American's family tree, looked into it, and found the names of two sisters and a brother my dad (who I haven't seen since I was 2) had after he and my mum split up.

Looked up the names on Facebook, and I've found my two sisters (brother doesn't seem to be on there).

Little bit weirded out at the moment, and am wondering whether to message them, or just forget about it.

It's strange, I've never really wondered about my dad, although I am interested in my paternal Grandfather who was the only contact with that side of the family until we lost contact about ten years ago. Siblings however, I am kind of intrigued about, and suppose would be interested in meeting/making contact with.

Really not sure about what to write, whether or not to write, basically, I'm confused!!

PH massive, any tips?

(No, no pics, yes, fairly cute, but I guess that's just genetics for ya! )

[chim]

Congratulations, if they are rich get in there, if not probably not worth having more family to give you grief.

[rudecherub]

Sway said:

I've been applying for a new job recently, and so thought I'd Google myself to make sure there's nothing untoward out there....

Found a mention of me on an American's family tree, looked into it, and found the names of two sisters and a brother my dad (who I haven't seen since I was 2) had after he and my mum split up.

Looked up the names on Facebook, and I've found my two sisters (brother doesn't seem to be on there).

Little bit weirded out at the moment, and am wondering whether to message them, or just forget about it.

It's strange, I've never really wondered about my dad, although I am interested in my paternal Grandfather who was the only contact with that side of the family until we lost contact about ten years ago. Siblings however, I am kind of intrigued about, and suppose would be interested in meeting/making contact with.

Really not sure about what to write, whether or not to write, basically, I'm confused!!

PH massive, any tips?

(No, no pics, yes, fairly cute, but I guess that's just genetics for ya! )

Go for it - the worse that can happen is they don't PM you back, and you'll be no worse off than you are now...

Although it does depend if they know Dad had another family before them...

But I think you should.

[working class]

Congratulations, free accommodation when you next go to America!

[Penny-lope]

I have two younger half sisters, one of which I emailed through Facebook. But I got no reply

Then again if some strange woman emailed me, saying 'hi' I am not sure if I would either.

Good luck if you do message them

[GTIR]

Wait till Jan 11 and while your at it make sure there's no birthdays coming up.

It'll save you a fortune.

[Sway]

working class said:

Congratulations, free accommodation when you next go to America!

Should have been clearer, my surname is fairly rare, and there are far more Americans than British in my family, but none closely related to me - these new found siblings are in England....

[TotalControl]

To be honest, they're not at fault over anything are they? And they are still related to you. Message them and see what happens. They may even be intrigued by you and may quite like the 'bigger brother' image that they never had coming into their life.

[Stevenj214]

I found out I had 2 brothers and a sister a long time ago. I've never been bothered about finding or making contact.

[Sway]

Penny-lope said:

I have two younger half sisters, one of which I emailed through Facebook. But I got no reply

Then again if some strange woman emailed me, saying 'hi' I am not sure if I would either.

This.

Is there any way of messaging them with any decent chance of a reply (and I'm not talking the sort of reply that is served by an official police-y type!!)?

[TotalControl]

Sway said:

Penny-lope said:

I have two younger half sisters, one of which I emailed through Facebook. But I got no reply

Then again if some strange woman emailed me, saying 'hi' I am not sure if I would either.

This.

Is there any way of messaging them with any decent chance of a reply (and I'm not talking the sort of reply that is served by an official police-y type!!)?

Well, explaining that their father is yours also may be a start.

[Jonny671]

That is SO cool. I'd love to be in your position.. We can already tell you want to message them, I would.

[Sway]

TotalControl said:

Sway said:

Penny-lope said:

I have two younger half sisters, one of which I emailed through Facebook. But I got no reply

Then again if some strange woman emailed me, saying 'hi' I am not sure if I would either.

This.

Is there any way of messaging them with any decent chance of a reply (and I'm not talking the sort of reply that is served by an official police-y type!!)?

Well, explaining that their father is yours also may be a start.

OK, hows this:

Hey,

Your dad is my dad.

So, I'm your brother from a different mother.

Yours,

S

Any good?

[Jonny671]

Perfect! Get that messaged over and let us know the reply!

Something along the lines of,

Hi.. I'm so and so, and live in so and so. My mother is bla bla and I have found your names on the internet at so and so web address (So they can see you're not a random.. Kind of) then see what they say.

[4Lmike]

Sway said:

OK, hows this:

Hey,

Your dad is my dad.

So, I'm your brother from a different mother.

Yours,

S

Any good?

Haha, do it! Although I would change 'different mother' to 'another mother'.

Edited by 4Lmike on Tuesday 24th August 20:48

[TuxRacer]

Presumably they could well have no idea you could exist. Ouch?

Good luck.

[Sway]

4Lmike said:

Sway said:

OK, hows this:

Hey,

Your dad is my dad.

So, I'm your brother from a different mother.

Yours,

S

Any good?

Haha, do it! Although I would change 'different mother' to 'another mother'.

D'oh!! Yeah, that's what I meant but didn't type...

[chim]

Sway said:

TotalControl said:

Sway said:

Penny-lope said:

I have two younger half sisters, one of which I emailed through Facebook. But I got no reply

Then again if some strange woman emailed me, saying 'hi' I am not sure if I would either.

This.

Is there any way of messaging them with any decent chance of a reply (and I'm not talking the sort of reply that is served by an official police-y type!!)?

Well, explaining that their father is yours also may be a start.

OK, hows this:

Hey,

Your dad is my dad.

So, I'm your brother from a different mother.

Yours,

S

Any good?

Or what about this.

Hi There, I have just found out that I am terminally ill. Up until last week I had thought that my considerable fortune would be going to the government but have just found out that I am not the only child of my late deceased mother. It would seem that my father(insert name) is also your father and as such I have in fact got brothers and sisters. I am absolutely delighted about this and would love to meet up you all before I go.

See how fast they reply then

[Sway]

TuxRacer said:

Presumably they could well have no idea you could exist. Ouch?

Good luck.

Indeed, I have no idea if they know that Dad had a kid in a previous marriage.

In fact, thinking about it, when they asked him how him and their mum got together, I can almost guarantee he didn't say

'well, it wasn't planned really, but my ex wife found your mum giving me a nosh when my son was 9 months old, so she kicked me out and I had nowhere to go....'

Oh, and thanks for the well wishes.

Edited by Sway on Tuesday 24th August 20:56

[Mexic0]

Just found out I have 2 sisters and a brother

Wtf did you do as a child are you blind ?

I have one brother and one sister i noticed them growing up