Man-broody!?!?
Discussion
Hi all,
Over the last few years my thoughts have been turning towards fathering a progeny, I find myself less irritated by kids and more amused by their antics!
However I find myself in a quandry, I am 31 so not exactly old and I'm single. So when wandering around Tesco spoptting kids doing kids' things I smile and think "hopefully I'll have one of my own someday" before I catch sight of the parent and invariably they are scowling at me! I know, I know you can't so much look at someone elses child without them calling you a pedo and such.
Recently I was dating a young lady with a daughter, we didn't last long which wasn't a surprise, what was a surprise was that I missed her daughter more than her! Looking back, I was conspiring to do fun things that her kid would enjoy as dates with the mum and as much as we had fun, it was more about fun between child and adult than adult and adult.
So my question/discussion is this. Is it strange for a single bloke to be broody? I know women are allowed to be broody all the time, single or not. What about men? Is it acceptable to want children with no possibility of having one? Also, am I going to be judged "pedo" by 85% of the women I see? Why is it ok for an 85 yr old woman to engage a strange child in conversation but so much as smile at one when you're my age and they get the pepper spray out!
Over the last few years my thoughts have been turning towards fathering a progeny, I find myself less irritated by kids and more amused by their antics!
However I find myself in a quandry, I am 31 so not exactly old and I'm single. So when wandering around Tesco spoptting kids doing kids' things I smile and think "hopefully I'll have one of my own someday" before I catch sight of the parent and invariably they are scowling at me! I know, I know you can't so much look at someone elses child without them calling you a pedo and such.
Recently I was dating a young lady with a daughter, we didn't last long which wasn't a surprise, what was a surprise was that I missed her daughter more than her! Looking back, I was conspiring to do fun things that her kid would enjoy as dates with the mum and as much as we had fun, it was more about fun between child and adult than adult and adult.
So my question/discussion is this. Is it strange for a single bloke to be broody? I know women are allowed to be broody all the time, single or not. What about men? Is it acceptable to want children with no possibility of having one? Also, am I going to be judged "pedo" by 85% of the women I see? Why is it ok for an 85 yr old woman to engage a strange child in conversation but so much as smile at one when you're my age and they get the pepper spray out!
32 here, last girlfriend had an 8 yr old daughter - I miss her more than the mum and completely changed my mind about having kids as a result of going out with her mother. Never wanted kids, now I do. At least I took something out of the relationship 
The above said I don't cluck for them or go around with puppies or sweets (very often!!)
The above said I don't cluck for them or go around with puppies or sweets (very often!!)
Find friends with kids. Mind you, that advice could probably be given to paedos, too.
Anyway, yes, I also like the idea of having a couple of mini ninjas running around (38 and also single). I got thinking the other day, single women are allowed to have kids. Why can't a single man? That's sexist that is. It's my human right to be able to father kids.
Ok, serious hat on, I'll just have to face facts that unless I meet the right person, kids ain't gonna happen. Tough s
t to me. Or should I claim disability allowance in the form of mental anguish caused by not being able to have kids? Or indeed should I be allowed to have £15k in cold hard cash since that is what I'd get via IVF if I were a couple who couldn't have kids. *clink* (Sound of can of worms being opened.) But is being single and thus morally not being able to have kids any better than a couple who can't have kids and need IVF treatment? Really? I might want kids just as much as the husband of said couple.
Oh, I do have pangs of regret about not being able to have kids especially when I see someone of my age with a couple of kids running around his legs. But as Chopper Reid says, harden the fk up.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EY7lYRneHc
I wonder. If I threaten to propagate like that chav with 10 kids from 10 women, would they give me £15k and/or child benefit for 2 to discourage me?
Anyway, yes, I also like the idea of having a couple of mini ninjas running around (38 and also single). I got thinking the other day, single women are allowed to have kids. Why can't a single man? That's sexist that is. It's my human right to be able to father kids.
Ok, serious hat on, I'll just have to face facts that unless I meet the right person, kids ain't gonna happen. Tough s
t to me. Or should I claim disability allowance in the form of mental anguish caused by not being able to have kids? Or indeed should I be allowed to have £15k in cold hard cash since that is what I'd get via IVF if I were a couple who couldn't have kids. *clink* (Sound of can of worms being opened.) But is being single and thus morally not being able to have kids any better than a couple who can't have kids and need IVF treatment? Really? I might want kids just as much as the husband of said couple.Oh, I do have pangs of regret about not being able to have kids especially when I see someone of my age with a couple of kids running around his legs. But as Chopper Reid says, harden the f
k up.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EY7lYRneHc
I wonder. If I threaten to propagate like that chav with 10 kids from 10 women, would they give me £15k and/or child benefit for 2 to discourage me?
Edited by ShadownINja on Monday 4th October 15:28
gilla said:
32 here, last girlfriend had an 8 yr old daughter - I miss her more than the mum and completely changed my mind about having kids as a result of going out with her mother. Never wanted kids, now I do. At least I took something out of the relationship
The above said I don't cluck for them or go around with puppies or sweets (very often!!)
Isn't that kidnap or something.The above said I don't cluck for them or go around with puppies or sweets (very often!!)
rhinochopig said:
gilla said:
32 here, last girlfriend had an 8 yr old daughter - I miss her more than the mum and completely changed my mind about having kids as a result of going out with her mother. Never wanted kids, now I do. At least I took something out of the relationship
The above said I don't cluck for them or go around with puppies or sweets (very often!!)
Isn't that kidnap or something.The above said I don't cluck for them or go around with puppies or sweets (very often!!)
Edited by gilla on Monday 4th October 15:25
I'm glad I'm not the only one who actually wants kids, I get the feeling from the few friends I have that the ones who have had kids didn't really want them until they were there. It seems the manly thing to do is to not want them until the melt your giant steel heart!
They (and most here) view single mums as broken and thus somehow soiled and not worthy of a relationship. And getting a girl pregnant has always been viewed as the ulitmate fk up! No wonder I feel unusual!
They (and most here) view single mums as broken and thus somehow soiled and not worthy of a relationship. And getting a girl pregnant has always been viewed as the ulitmate f
k up! No wonder I feel unusual!ewenm said:
Head to the Match.com thread - there must be loads of single early-mid-30s women out there keen to have kids! I'm a new dad (she's 2 weeks old now) at 34. 
Congrats fella! Sadly I doubt I'll be heading anywhere soon. I spent the last 15 months or so caring for my mother who was dying of cancer. She died about 5 weeks ago, Dad was diagnosed with prostate the day after her funeral so I may be caring for him for quite a while to come! I'm nursing him through a mutated E-Coli bug at the moment! I did wonder if this is why I am feeling the way I do, only longing for something I know I can't have right now?
Cock Womble 7 said:
ShadownINja said:
It's my human right to be able to father kids.
"I'm not oppressing you Stan, you haven't got a womb! Where's the foetus gonna gestate? You gonna keep it in a box?"Someone told me I could adopt. Isn't that a tad... odd?
Edited by ShadownINja on Monday 4th October 15:48
ShadownINja said:
Cock Womble 7 said:
ShadownINja said:
It's my human right to be able to father kids.
"I'm not oppressing you Stan, you haven't got a womb! Where's the foetus gonna gestate? You gonna keep it in a box?"freecar said:
Sadly I doubt I'll be heading anywhere soon. I spent the last 15 months or so caring for my mother who was dying of cancer. She died about 5 weeks ago, Dad was diagnosed with prostate the day after her funeral so I may be caring for him for quite a while to come! I'm nursing him through a mutated E-Coli bug at the moment! I did wonder if this is why I am feeling the way I do, only longing for something I know I can't have right now?
Sorry to hear about your parents.BTW so you just want kids for free nursing in your old age?
I started seeing my fiancee just over 4 years ago. At the time, she had an eight month old boy. I never intended to get serious with her in the first instance, so the idea of he having someone else's child didn't really bother me (I love kids anyway).
However, after a few months, I realised that things were made much more complicated by her having said child, and we eventually split up:- I told her I couldn't bring up someone else's son. In my opinion it takes a special kind of person to do so properly.
Anyway, four months later, we end up back together and I decide to put everything into being there for her and being all but a father to the child.
Fast forward to today:- We're getting married in May next year, couldn't be any more happy, and I have brought up Bradley (5 in November) completely as my own son. I love him more than anything in the world and it's an absolute pleasure to watch him grow up. We're both absolutely dying to have another baby, but will have to wait until after the wedding. Every time I see one I think how fantastic it will be when we have another of our own.
So yes, it is OK for a man to be broody. In fact in my opinion it's very healthy. I'm 26 by the way.
However, after a few months, I realised that things were made much more complicated by her having said child, and we eventually split up:- I told her I couldn't bring up someone else's son. In my opinion it takes a special kind of person to do so properly.
Anyway, four months later, we end up back together and I decide to put everything into being there for her and being all but a father to the child.
Fast forward to today:- We're getting married in May next year, couldn't be any more happy, and I have brought up Bradley (5 in November) completely as my own son. I love him more than anything in the world and it's an absolute pleasure to watch him grow up. We're both absolutely dying to have another baby, but will have to wait until after the wedding. Every time I see one I think how fantastic it will be when we have another of our own.
So yes, it is OK for a man to be broody. In fact in my opinion it's very healthy. I'm 26 by the way.
you'll notice that most people who are gooey about kids are referring to children between the ages of 4 and 9, when they're old enough to reason with/control, but not babies or approaching or into teenage years.
And yes, I have a fourteen year old.
It isn't all like the adverts you know...
And yes, I have a fourteen year old.
It isn't all like the adverts you know...
Ari said:
you'll notice that most people who are gooey about kids are referring to children between the ages of 4 and 9, when they're old enough to reason with/control, but not babies or approaching or into teenage years.
And yes, I have a fourteen year old.
It isn't all like the adverts you know...
Tell me about it, my son turns 8 next month and currently hates me. I can do nothing right, and I am the worse mum ever And yes, I have a fourteen year old.
It isn't all like the adverts you know...
Hey ho only another 8 years or so to go
ShadownINja said:
freecar said:
Sadly I doubt I'll be heading anywhere soon. I spent the last 15 months or so caring for my mother who was dying of cancer. She died about 5 weeks ago, Dad was diagnosed with prostate the day after her funeral so I may be caring for him for quite a while to come! I'm nursing him through a mutated E-Coli bug at the moment! I did wonder if this is why I am feeling the way I do, only longing for something I know I can't have right now?
Sorry to hear about your parents.BTW so you just want kids for free nursing in your old age?
Well, there is the fact that since I've been about 8 I've made more cups of tea than both of them combined! You've got to get something out of it!
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