Baby won't sleep
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Well, seven months in and it's a *******g nightmare.
We put her down at seven, she sleeps for fourty minutes or so, wakes up screaming, calm her down, fifteen minutes, sleeps etc etc.
She's just had her first tooth so not sure it's that but it's really, really starting to impact our lives!
I'm sure you're going to say just grind it out but would be good to hear some other parents say yep we're going through the same thing. Not really wanting to go down the road of let her cry.
We put her down at seven, she sleeps for fourty minutes or so, wakes up screaming, calm her down, fifteen minutes, sleeps etc etc.
She's just had her first tooth so not sure it's that but it's really, really starting to impact our lives!
I'm sure you're going to say just grind it out but would be good to hear some other parents say yep we're going through the same thing. Not really wanting to go down the road of let her cry.
Yeah tough one mate, we've had two that seem to love waking up at night over the years.
A lot of the problem (apart from the teeth), is that they need to learn to put themsleves to sleep. If you are running in there every 40 minutes then that is what they start to expect. Unfortunately some level of controlled crying is normally the quickest way through it.
Do you pick your baby up by the way? We used to do this and were told we were making matters much worse, so did a week of letting him cry for a bit and then going in, but keeping him in the cot - a terrible week, but it got through in the end and now he stirs, but is much better at going back down without us going in.
i think there are some free telephone support groups that you can call 24 hours, when you are at the end of your tether, who will talk you through it and give you encouragement. my wife rang them once or twice and they were great
A lot of the problem (apart from the teeth), is that they need to learn to put themsleves to sleep. If you are running in there every 40 minutes then that is what they start to expect. Unfortunately some level of controlled crying is normally the quickest way through it.
Do you pick your baby up by the way? We used to do this and were told we were making matters much worse, so did a week of letting him cry for a bit and then going in, but keeping him in the cot - a terrible week, but it got through in the end and now he stirs, but is much better at going back down without us going in.
i think there are some free telephone support groups that you can call 24 hours, when you are at the end of your tether, who will talk you through it and give you encouragement. my wife rang them once or twice and they were great
Child 1 - We (or grandparents - we were living with inlaws at the time) would pick her up EVERY time she woke. Didnt get a sleepless night until she was 4/5 years old. LITERALLY, not one night!
Child 2/3 - Made an effort to not fuss over them so much, slept much better.
Child 4 - Too busy to ever sort him out when he cried (unless it was an obvious...hungry/pain/wet cry) After a few weeks he realised there was no pavlovian response to him wailing so he didnt bother. Slept like a baby from that moment on. Even today (age 5) he doesnt cry for the sake of it like some kids. Had his MMR thing on Friday, laughed with the nurse while she stuck him!
Child 2/3 - Made an effort to not fuss over them so much, slept much better.
Child 4 - Too busy to ever sort him out when he cried (unless it was an obvious...hungry/pain/wet cry) After a few weeks he realised there was no pavlovian response to him wailing so he didnt bother. Slept like a baby from that moment on. Even today (age 5) he doesnt cry for the sake of it like some kids. Had his MMR thing on Friday, laughed with the nurse while she stuck him!
Tiggsy said:
Child 1 - We (or grandparents - we were living with inlaws at the time) would pick her up EVERY time she woke. Didnt get a sleepless night until she was 4/5 years old. LITERALLY, not one night!
Child 2/3 - Made an effort to not fuss over them so much, slept much better.
Child 4 - Too busy to ever sort him out when he cried (unless it was an obvious...hungry/pain/wet cry) After a few weeks he realised there was no pavlovian response to him wailing so he didnt bother. Slept like a baby from that moment on. Even today (age 5) he doesnt cry for the sake of it like some kids. Had his MMR thing on Friday, laughed with the nurse while she stuck him!
^^^^^^^ This. Did the sameChild 2/3 - Made an effort to not fuss over them so much, slept much better.
Child 4 - Too busy to ever sort him out when he cried (unless it was an obvious...hungry/pain/wet cry) After a few weeks he realised there was no pavlovian response to him wailing so he didnt bother. Slept like a baby from that moment on. Even today (age 5) he doesnt cry for the sake of it like some kids. Had his MMR thing on Friday, laughed with the nurse while she stuck him!
No1 We weren't really 100% sure what the protocol was so went up every 30 mins or so to comfort her
No2 Less often and perhaps water instead of milk
No3 Controlled crying. Left her for 30 mins, then an hour then bingo...Never heard a peep again.
It is tough and you'll both be sitting downstairs wondering how you can put your loved one through such hell.
s1962a said:
We have the baby monitor on and it's tough not to respond after about 10 mins of crying. When you mean you let them cry for an hour - does that include hysterical cries when they know they aren't getting attention?
Can you tell we're in the same boat!
You will BOTH need to be resolute with this one. You'll both sit downstairs, listening to a child shrieking, but after some time it WILL stop...hopefully!Can you tell we're in the same boat!
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