What's the point?
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Silenoz

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962 posts

182 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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I've been struggling with this now for a while, but everything is getting a bit overwhelming and i am getting to the point of wondering what the point of fighting how I feel is?

What are the basic steps I need to make sure things have been taken care of so that I can just deal with what the underlying problem is?

Mike335i

6,034 posts

131 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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Sorry to hear you feel that way, life can be pretty overwhelming at times, but things do change.

What's the issue?

greygoose

9,661 posts

224 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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If you are feeling overwhelmed then best to go to your doctor and see if they have any counselling or other help on offer or ring the Samaritans, as you have seen from a couple of posters already on here there are a fair number of bell ends on PH who will not help you at all.

Chicken Chaser

9,054 posts

253 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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Silenoz said:
I've been struggling with this now for a while, but everything is getting a bit overwhelming and i am getting to the point of wondering what the point of fighting how I feel is?

What are the basic steps I need to make sure things have been taken care of so that I can just deal with what the underlying problem is?
Op check out the depression thread in Health Matters. Plenty struggling on there and using it as a bit of therapy. I hope you get sorted with your problems, speaking to people including your doctor can really help.

otolith

68,688 posts

233 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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No need for that. It doesn't reflect well on you.

OP - do you have people you can talk to? Friends, family? Speak to your GP. Don't be fobbed off. Go back if what they offer you isn't working.

NiceCupOfTea

25,586 posts

280 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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This thread is not reflecting well on Pistonheads.

O/P, may I suggest you step away from the computer and maybe give the Samaritans a call?

paul789

4,248 posts

133 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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And let's see if the mods agree too.

foggy

1,215 posts

311 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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I sometimes get the overwhelmed feeling recently when trying to attend to all that family life with the other half and two littl'uns, work, a house and garden that needs some TLC etc. throws at you.

Two things I find that help: breaking things down to smaller and smaller bite size chunks as necessary until you get to something useful that you can finish fairly easily. That breeds a little positivity and sense of achievement which might begin to help you turn a corner and see the wood for the trees. Then take on the next little bite, crack that too, repeat and before you know it you'll be back on track again.

The second is rest. When you're shattered you won't be good for much and it becomes all too easy to wallow in a negative spiral.

Actually, thinking about it there's a third too - a bit of exercise to. Go for a walk, run, ride or whatever works for you. Helps clear the old grey matter a bit and tire you out ready to rest if that's part of the problem.

Hope that helps a bit!


NiceCupOfTea

25,586 posts

280 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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Good post, foggy.

AlasdairMc

555 posts

156 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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I had a chat with someone recently who uses the charity I work with, and it crushes me to think about how he thinks. Paranoia around everything other do and thinking it's aimed at him - truly a defining moment in my understanding of the condition he suffers from. He feels that everyone is out to get him and they're not.

Back to the OP, my one thing I can recommend considering is that nobody wakes up in the morning thinking they're going to be a wker today, so hopefully you can find some positives somewhere.

Forget the smug tt complaining about forum choice - you could be sitting on the grid at Silverstone blocking an F1 start and someone (lots of us) on here would take the time to listen. Unload if you need to, PM any of us as we're all willing to listen. I don't know you at all, hence I can't judge or even attempt to understand where you are, but I'll listen

coopedup

3,742 posts

168 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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BTW OP good luck with whatever you are dealing with, we are not all bad on here.

w1bbles

1,355 posts

165 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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OP

There are loads of people on here who want to help you and make you see the positives in life. There are also some success stories on PH regarding very unhappy/unwell people who have turned things around. Take inspiration and be positive.

thebraketester

15,764 posts

167 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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To the OP

Look, don't fight it. If you want that Volvo 240 GLT go and get it. Grab it with both hands and don't let go.

AlasdairMc

555 posts

156 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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SystemParanoia said:

AlasdairMc said:
Forget the smug tt complaining about forum choice
More needless insults.
Can people not express themselves without feeling the need to call other people names while doing so?

Edited by SystemParanoia on Sunday 27th August 02:21
Yeah, perhaps. My point still stands though - I’m here to listen. I’d rather focus on the OP than get into an argument around the choice of words used previously in this thread.

If you’re offended by my choice of words here, then I apologise, but I’d much rather be there for a random stranger not feeling the best at the moment.

B17NNS

18,506 posts

276 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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AlasdairMc said:
Yeah, perhaps. My point still stands though - I’m here to listen. I’d rather focus on the OP than get into an argument around the choice of words used previously in this thread.

If you’re offended by my choice of words here, then I apologise, but I’d much rather be there for a random stranger not feeling the best at the moment.
Amen to that. Mental health issues and depression is punishing enough. There's no need for an additional dose of supposed tough love.

Alucidnation

16,810 posts

199 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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Once again, the usual 'special people' of PH deliver.

What sad lives they must lead.

rolleyes

SystemParanoia

14,343 posts

227 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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AlasdairMc said:
SystemParanoia said:

AlasdairMc said:
Forget the smug tt complaining about forum choice
More needless insults.
Can people not express themselves without feeling the need to call other people names while doing so?

Edited by SystemParanoia on Sunday 27th August 02:21
Yeah, perhaps. My point still stands though - I’m here to listen. I’d rather focus on the OP than get into an argument around the choice of words used previously in this thread.

If you’re offended by my choice of words here, then I apologise, but I’d much rather be there for a random stranger not feeling the best at the moment.
You made a very nice post, and if that's the type of assistance that can help the OP.. great stuff
Im just in general getting really annoyed at the endless cheap insults thrown back and forth for no real reason by forum members, that more often than not add's no real content to their posts.

Petrol Only

1,611 posts

204 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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SystemParanoia said:
You made a very nice post, and if that's the type of assistance that can help the OP.. great stuff
Im just in general getting really annoyed at the endless cheap insults thrown back and forth for no real reason by forum members, that more often than not add's no real content to their posts.
Oh the irony, I thought now you'd sobered up a little, might have seen your errors.

You were pissed right?

If not you probably need help too.

This place really is the pits at times.

w00tman

609 posts

174 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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SystemParanoia said:
You made a very nice post, and if that's the type of assistance that can help the OP.. great stuff
Im just in general getting really annoyed at the endless cheap insults thrown back and forth for no real reason by forum members, that more often than not add's no real content to their posts.
Yes, but to be fair, the chap pointing out he'd posted in the wrong forum was being a tt - he wasn't being helpful, and I think everyone can see it. You've been here a while like me, and you know he was being a tt - it's about number 3 on the "Pistonhead Cliche Thread Replies", right up with sausage in lawns and bumming dogs.

Your post on the other was absolutely disgusting. One of my friends non-mutual friends (so I didn't know him) killed himself through depression about 2 weeks ago, so sometimes people cant just "build a bridge and get over it" - sadly, people's words can have consequences.

CoolHands

23,399 posts

224 months

Sunday 27th August 2017
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Blimey, it (my right forum comment) was a bit of a piss-take but I didn't read it as that serious. I won't comment further but that makes it all a bit 'don't say anything for fear or of offending somebody' which is a bit silly IMO.