Bed wetting 10 year old
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My girlfriend’s youngest boy is almost 11 and still wets the bed, it happens so frequently (5 out of 7 nights) that she’s really starting to run out of patience with him (obviously she doesn’t want to as it’s largely out of his control).
She’s been to see the doctor about it and he has prescribed desmopressin as well as previously having him sleep in alarmed nappies. He’s not given any fluids after 18:00 (bedtime is 20:00) and on some occasions we take him to the toilet at midnight although he is never fully awake at that time and doesn’t remember it in the morning.
None of the above seem to have an impact (he pulls the cord off the alarmed nappies in his sleep) as he’s still wetting the bed so often.
We’ve been as discreet and supportive as possible but another issue is that he will quite often not bother to strip the bed unless prompted or will dump his wet sheets and underwear on the bedroom or utility room floor for us to wash them and also mop wet floor.
Can anyone offer any advice or methods that haven’t been suggested?
My girlfriend’s youngest boy is almost 11 and still wets the bed, it happens so frequently (5 out of 7 nights) that she’s really starting to run out of patience with him (obviously she doesn’t want to as it’s largely out of his control).
She’s been to see the doctor about it and he has prescribed desmopressin as well as previously having him sleep in alarmed nappies. He’s not given any fluids after 18:00 (bedtime is 20:00) and on some occasions we take him to the toilet at midnight although he is never fully awake at that time and doesn’t remember it in the morning.
None of the above seem to have an impact (he pulls the cord off the alarmed nappies in his sleep) as he’s still wetting the bed so often.
We’ve been as discreet and supportive as possible but another issue is that he will quite often not bother to strip the bed unless prompted or will dump his wet sheets and underwear on the bedroom or utility room floor for us to wash them and also mop wet floor.
Can anyone offer any advice or methods that haven’t been suggested?
I've read around this area a little as my eldest is 7 and still wets the bed most nights though stays in pull ups so the bed stays dry most of the time.
I was concerned but it seems it's not that uncommon even in kids of age 10 and over. There is stuff the doctors can do though it seems like their help has been sought, stick with it though. The one thing I read is make sure they drink plenty during the day as this helps to develop and expand the bladder to better help them go through the night. Not sure my boy really does despite being reminded to do so. He sometimes comes home from school with his water bottle still full and when asked if it has been refilled or he simply hasn't drank it he shrugs.
I was concerned but it seems it's not that uncommon even in kids of age 10 and over. There is stuff the doctors can do though it seems like their help has been sought, stick with it though. The one thing I read is make sure they drink plenty during the day as this helps to develop and expand the bladder to better help them go through the night. Not sure my boy really does despite being reminded to do so. He sometimes comes home from school with his water bottle still full and when asked if it has been refilled or he simply hasn't drank it he shrugs.
2 weeks into using this with our 7 year old boy.
3 alarms triggered (over different nights), waking him up, forcing him to stop the wee, come into us and then continue on the loo.
The rest of the nights he's been dry all the way through. This is from a situation of pull ups which were dripping after every single night.
This device seems to be conditioning him into waking up when he's weeing so he can stop it. I'm confident that by Xmas the problem will be 100% solved.
We didn't want to see the doctor, had read about late hormone trigger development etc so this device seemed like a nothing to lose worth a go scenario and we're so glad we did.
It's not fallen off once.
3 alarms triggered (over different nights), waking him up, forcing him to stop the wee, come into us and then continue on the loo.
The rest of the nights he's been dry all the way through. This is from a situation of pull ups which were dripping after every single night.
This device seems to be conditioning him into waking up when he's weeing so he can stop it. I'm confident that by Xmas the problem will be 100% solved.
We didn't want to see the doctor, had read about late hormone trigger development etc so this device seemed like a nothing to lose worth a go scenario and we're so glad we did.
It's not fallen off once.
R4PID said:
2 weeks into using this with our 7 year old boy.
3 alarms triggered (over different nights), waking him up, forcing him to stop the wee, come into us and then continue on the loo.
The rest of the nights he's been dry all the way through. This is from a situation of pull ups which were dripping after every single night.
This device seems to be conditioning him into waking up when he's weeing so he can stop it. I'm confident that by Xmas the problem will be 100% solved.
We didn't want to see the doctor, had read about late hormone trigger development etc so this device seemed like a nothing to lose worth a go scenario and we're so glad we did.
It's not fallen off once.
Interesting thanks. Other issue with my lad is that he's a very deep sleeper. Not sure if an alarm would wake him but then again it's worth a shot.3 alarms triggered (over different nights), waking him up, forcing him to stop the wee, come into us and then continue on the loo.
The rest of the nights he's been dry all the way through. This is from a situation of pull ups which were dripping after every single night.
This device seems to be conditioning him into waking up when he's weeing so he can stop it. I'm confident that by Xmas the problem will be 100% solved.
We didn't want to see the doctor, had read about late hormone trigger development etc so this device seemed like a nothing to lose worth a go scenario and we're so glad we did.
It's not fallen off once.
C0ffin D0dger said:
Interesting thanks. Other issue with my lad is that he's a very deep sleeper. Not sure if an alarm would wake him but then again it's worth a shot.
Our boy is exactly the same and I think that played a part in the problem.This alarm wakes them up trust me!
Show them it first though, test it so they can see/know what to expect. It is loud.
It straps on to the arm, vibrates and has 3 x different audio sounds ranging from just about bearable, ridiculous to Armageddon is here.
We set it to just about bearable and of the 3 x alarms experienced only one resulted in freaked out tears.
Oh, we also practised with him being able to stop/start weeing too. The whole pelvic floor muscle control thing I think needs to be working well.
The early alert and stopping of weeing also means the bed usually stays dry which is another plus.
Finally, it's interesting to actually know when they are going in the night. We came from a position of soaked pull ups thinking he was weeing 3 or 4 times throughout the night at all times. Turns out he wasn't. It was one big wee all happening around 5.30am - 6am.
Knowing this helped us realise he wasn't that far off getting through the whole night which came as a relief in itself. It also means that when the alarm does go off it hasn't completely ruined your nights sleep. Good luck.
So he isn't drinking any liquids after 1800, presumably he is going to the toilet before he goes to sleep, he is taking desmopressin and he is still wet most nights?
The urine production should have been slowed by the desmopressin, and bearing in mind he will have emptied his bladder before he sleeps, it seems very strange that he producing sufficient urine to then need to go in the night.
Have you seen a specialist to do an ultrasound check to ensure the bladder is correctly formed and there isn't anything else causing it to have reduced capacity?
The urine production should have been slowed by the desmopressin, and bearing in mind he will have emptied his bladder before he sleeps, it seems very strange that he producing sufficient urine to then need to go in the night.
Have you seen a specialist to do an ultrasound check to ensure the bladder is correctly formed and there isn't anything else causing it to have reduced capacity?
Really pleased I've stumbled upon this thread, my eldest daughter (nearly 6) is still in pull ups, they are sodden in the mornings, have taken her to the docs but they won't do anything till she is 7, I keep thinking we are the only parents that this has happened too.
My middle one is 4 1/2 and is nearly dry, most nights it's 1 small wee so hoping he will be dry soon.
It's a bit on an un spoken subject down the school lol
My middle one is 4 1/2 and is nearly dry, most nights it's 1 small wee so hoping he will be dry soon.
It's a bit on an un spoken subject down the school lol
I wouldn’t worry at 6.
My other half was beside herself with worry about our 7 year old still in pull ups. One night we heard her get up to go for a wee. Next night the pull ups were dry. Following night we heard her get up again. Stopped the pull ups after that.
Not had a wet bed in over 4 years since. I don’t know whether it made any difference but we did make an effort to get her to drink more water during waking hours in the months before. She often had very sudden need to go to the toilet during waking hours - whether she was holding it in or didn’t recognise the feeling until the very end we never really established, but that improved around the same time.
It’s not for no reason that companies make pull ups for older kids and they’re readily available in supermarkets who carry a decent amount of stock. They must sell plenty of them.
My other half was beside herself with worry about our 7 year old still in pull ups. One night we heard her get up to go for a wee. Next night the pull ups were dry. Following night we heard her get up again. Stopped the pull ups after that.
Not had a wet bed in over 4 years since. I don’t know whether it made any difference but we did make an effort to get her to drink more water during waking hours in the months before. She often had very sudden need to go to the toilet during waking hours - whether she was holding it in or didn’t recognise the feeling until the very end we never really established, but that improved around the same time.
It’s not for no reason that companies make pull ups for older kids and they’re readily available in supermarkets who carry a decent amount of stock. They must sell plenty of them.
Dry Easy was on my boy for 4 to 5 weeks. Target was total dryness by Xmas. He did it easily and is really pleased with himself.
He made his own decision to stop going to bed with the Dry Easy alarm just before Xmas and we haven't had a single problem since.
Can't rate this product highly enough.
He made his own decision to stop going to bed with the Dry Easy alarm just before Xmas and we haven't had a single problem since.
Can't rate this product highly enough.
Got the DryEasy and had the first trial of it at the weekend. I appreciate that perseverance is needed but it really didn't go well. We'll try again at some point but if anyone has any pointers in the meantime.
So first thing, when it's going off what's the best way to disable it quickly? The instructions say you both need to remove the sensor and press the reset button, this is a bit of a faff in the middle of the night in the dark. I'm guessing the other option is to unplug the sensor from the alarm and reset but still fiddly.
The first night my lad was keen to try it so we I explained it all to him, demonstrated it, got him wired up, and he went to sleep. Based on advice in the Amazon reviews we had him in our room on a mattress on the floor so we could get him to the loo quickly. Also put a pull up on over his pants so the bed wouldn't get soaked.
What was positive was that it didn't trigger until 4am so he is holding it for a large part of the night. When it did go off he didn't hold it and I suspect it's that one big wee that makes him wet in the mornings. Like I said the main issue was trying silence the thing, by the time I'd managed that and got him on the toilet he was well and truly awake and unfortunately didn't go back to sleep. He's not the best the next day when he hasn't slept properly (emotionally and behaviourally) and this isn't often.
We thought we'd try again the next night but as he was getting ready for bed he was getting really anxious about it, insisted on going to the toilet about 3-4 times before settling and then he must have not shook himself enough as no more the 10 minutes after getting him settled the alarm is going off due to a little bit of wee coming out. I was going to change his underwear and try to settle him again but he was getting increasingly worked up about not being woken by the alarm. At the point we both agreed to give it up for that night so he could have a proper sleep so he went back into his own bed, no alarm, and same as ever in the morning.
Think we'll have to wait until the school holidays to try again but he really doesn't cope well without a decent night's sleep.
So first thing, when it's going off what's the best way to disable it quickly? The instructions say you both need to remove the sensor and press the reset button, this is a bit of a faff in the middle of the night in the dark. I'm guessing the other option is to unplug the sensor from the alarm and reset but still fiddly.
The first night my lad was keen to try it so we I explained it all to him, demonstrated it, got him wired up, and he went to sleep. Based on advice in the Amazon reviews we had him in our room on a mattress on the floor so we could get him to the loo quickly. Also put a pull up on over his pants so the bed wouldn't get soaked.
What was positive was that it didn't trigger until 4am so he is holding it for a large part of the night. When it did go off he didn't hold it and I suspect it's that one big wee that makes him wet in the mornings. Like I said the main issue was trying silence the thing, by the time I'd managed that and got him on the toilet he was well and truly awake and unfortunately didn't go back to sleep. He's not the best the next day when he hasn't slept properly (emotionally and behaviourally) and this isn't often.
We thought we'd try again the next night but as he was getting ready for bed he was getting really anxious about it, insisted on going to the toilet about 3-4 times before settling and then he must have not shook himself enough as no more the 10 minutes after getting him settled the alarm is going off due to a little bit of wee coming out. I was going to change his underwear and try to settle him again but he was getting increasingly worked up about not being woken by the alarm. At the point we both agreed to give it up for that night so he could have a proper sleep so he went back into his own bed, no alarm, and same as ever in the morning.
Think we'll have to wait until the school holidays to try again but he really doesn't cope well without a decent night's sleep.
My lad was affected by bedwetting up to 10/11 yo.
People saying don't let the kids drink - it really isn't that that is the issue. Obviously, fluid intake needs to be restricted a little but I was told the body produces a hormone to stop the production of urine whilst sleeping and this has failed to 'kick in'. The alarm is a good system that kickstarts the hormone production. It worked after a week with him and he was totally dry after a week or two.
Sometimes we hear him wake in the night to use the toilet so maybe his body has learnt to recognise the signs.
People saying don't let the kids drink - it really isn't that that is the issue. Obviously, fluid intake needs to be restricted a little but I was told the body produces a hormone to stop the production of urine whilst sleeping and this has failed to 'kick in'. The alarm is a good system that kickstarts the hormone production. It worked after a week with him and he was totally dry after a week or two.
Sometimes we hear him wake in the night to use the toilet so maybe his body has learnt to recognise the signs.
My 10 yr sold son was absolutely fine until about three months ago, had a few incidents which suddenly became very regular. Sat down and had a chat with him and he told us he was scared to get up during the night to go to the toilet. We’d reconfigured the bedrooms so we were no longer in the room next to him, without us being in that room he didn’t like getting up in the night. We got the alarm and also some plug in night lights that are motion sensitive so the house isn’t dark if he gets up...between the two of them he’s back to being in control of his bladder. Alarm worked really well for him.
It's some time ago now but my lad was wetting the bed most nights at around 7years old.
I started to wake him every night before I went to bed for a pee. Sometimes he woke up but sometimes I'm sure he was still asleep.
I carried on until he started his own routine of waking up foe a pee on his own. As a parent you know every move of your young kids and when he was getting up I would call out asking if he was ok.
All was good and never any problems after.
I started to wake him every night before I went to bed for a pee. Sometimes he woke up but sometimes I'm sure he was still asleep.
I carried on until he started his own routine of waking up foe a pee on his own. As a parent you know every move of your young kids and when he was getting up I would call out asking if he was ok.
All was good and never any problems after.
As above, our 6 year old has never been dry throughout the night (wears pull-ups) so we saw the docs who recommended he drink more throughout the day and then for us to put him on the toilet before we go to bed (he can never remember we've done it).
We've been doing this for about 2 months now and he almost always wakes up dry in the morning and on the odd occasion we've gone straight to bed and forgotten to put him on the toilet, he's still woken up dry.
We've been doing this for about 2 months now and he almost always wakes up dry in the morning and on the odd occasion we've gone straight to bed and forgotten to put him on the toilet, he's still woken up dry.
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