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Sorry to hear this OP. Sounds like you’ve had a great bond with him over the past 1.5 decades.
I agree that you shouldn’t burden him with this story, it could drive a wedge between you both. Do you see him or socialise with him outside of work? Will you never see him again?
If you are comfortable financially why not close the business down and use this as an excellent opportunity to do something that you enjoy? Many people would kill for an opportunity like this; maybe travel the world for a few months? Buy a camper van and travel up to Scotland? Learn a new hobby? Golf, Chess anything. Read books. Buy an old car and restore it.
Is there anything else that you could do to occupy your time?
Regarding missing the guy, time is a great healer in this scenario. You will hurt for a few weeks and maybe months but I guarantee you will feel a little better about the situation by the end of this month. I’d stay away from alcohol completely for at least a few weeks. It’s definitely not the answer to life’s challenges and can only make things worse.
How old are you by the way and what trade do you have?
I agree that you shouldn’t burden him with this story, it could drive a wedge between you both. Do you see him or socialise with him outside of work? Will you never see him again?
If you are comfortable financially why not close the business down and use this as an excellent opportunity to do something that you enjoy? Many people would kill for an opportunity like this; maybe travel the world for a few months? Buy a camper van and travel up to Scotland? Learn a new hobby? Golf, Chess anything. Read books. Buy an old car and restore it.
Is there anything else that you could do to occupy your time?
Regarding missing the guy, time is a great healer in this scenario. You will hurt for a few weeks and maybe months but I guarantee you will feel a little better about the situation by the end of this month. I’d stay away from alcohol completely for at least a few weeks. It’s definitely not the answer to life’s challenges and can only make things worse.
How old are you by the way and what trade do you have?
Can’t really offer a solution other than booze will, eventually take hold and you will feel much worse. I can assure you!
It’s a depressant and it’s effects multiplied when you’re in this state of mind. In all honesty I’d reach out for some help before it’s too late, I wish I could turn back time and give myself this advice knowing what I know now and the effects it’s had on my health. Borderline liver failure is no joke.
It’s a depressant and it’s effects multiplied when you’re in this state of mind. In all honesty I’d reach out for some help before it’s too late, I wish I could turn back time and give myself this advice knowing what I know now and the effects it’s had on my health. Borderline liver failure is no joke.
Some people prefer working alone, personally I always found that curious- I think I’d go a bit mad if I spent my whole working day in an empty house.
Seems like you do need to buddy up with someone.
I realise that finding the right person might not be easy, and you have to be careful not to expect that person to fill the void left by your previous partner, but you’ll have companionship during your working day which will improve your working life- where you spend half your waking hours- immensely.
My main point is that your reaction is completely understandable so don’t beat yourself up.
Seems like you do need to buddy up with someone.
I realise that finding the right person might not be easy, and you have to be careful not to expect that person to fill the void left by your previous partner, but you’ll have companionship during your working day which will improve your working life- where you spend half your waking hours- immensely.
My main point is that your reaction is completely understandable so don’t beat yourself up.
I’ll be honest it does sound over the top, but I’m not in your shoes and everyone feels differently about different things - it’s what makes us human.
People lose loved ones all the time - time is a great healer. Get out and about and keep your mind busy with other things. Your “loss” is pretty small compared to losing partners and children.
People lose loved ones all the time - time is a great healer. Get out and about and keep your mind busy with other things. Your “loss” is pretty small compared to losing partners and children.
Perhaps it is time to evaluate your priorities in life.
You have some money behind you, and the work seems to be at a low ebb, why not pack everything into storage, rent the house out for a year and go and travel.
Just pick up and go, explore a bit.
Might give you some fresh perspective and make a few new friends?\
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