Child suffering anxiety attacks and missing school
Child suffering anxiety attacks and missing school
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philv

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5,374 posts

243 months

Thursday 21st November 2019
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Hi,

my teenage daughter was doing very well at school last year, getting good results in test and seemingly enjoying school.

No bullying or anything like that.
No problems with teachers,

In the last 9 months she has been having anxiety attacks about going to school.

She has missed quite a few days.

It seems that she worries not to do well.

She is seeing a psycologist, but it doesn't seem to be helping,

Has anyone experienced something like this?

My daughter lives abroad with her mother.

I feel at a loss, as if i try to encourage, it is pressure and stresses my daughter.

She is now in danger of not passing her current year and could end up repeating it.

Thanks

So

28,176 posts

251 months

Thursday 21st November 2019
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philv said:
Hi,

my teenage daughter was doing very well at school last year, getting good results in test and seemingly enjoying school.

No bullying or anything like that.
No problems with teachers,

In the last 9 months she has been having anxiety attacks about going to school.

She has missed quite a few days.

It seems that she worries not to do well.

She is seeing a psycologist, but it doesn't seem to be helping,

Has anyone experienced something like this?

My daughter lives abroad with her mother.

I feel at a loss, as if i try to encourage, it is pressure and stresses my daughter.

She is now in danger of not passing her current year and could end up repeating it.

Thanks
We had it briefly with one of ours. We took him to see an independent educational psychologist who identified that he is very bright, but with slow processing. So, he was being overwhelmed by the school environment. For example, he struggled with banter because he couldn't process the incoming jibe and respond in a timely manner.

The school was very good and provided a support network. He also had access to a quiet space or refuge if he needed it. As I type he is doing fine and is not in need of support.

So, I would suggest that you need to establish the route cause of the anxiety. Unfortunately, the NHS isn't massively helpful, it appeared to us. We had to pay privately and it was circa £1000.





philv

Original Poster:

5,374 posts

243 months

Tuesday 26th November 2019
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So said:
philv said:
Hi,

my teenage daughter was doing very well at school last year, getting good results in test and seemingly enjoying school.

No bullying or anything like that.
No problems with teachers,

In the last 9 months she has been having anxiety attacks about going to school.

She has missed quite a few days.

It seems that she worries not to do well.

She is seeing a psycologist, but it doesn't seem to be helping,

Has anyone experienced something like this?

My daughter lives abroad with her mother.

I feel at a loss, as if i try to encourage, it is pressure and stresses my daughter.

She is now in danger of not passing her current year and could end up repeating it.

Thanks
We had it briefly with one of ours. We took him to see an independent educational psychologist who identified that he is very bright, but with slow processing. So, he was being overwhelmed by the school environment. For example, he struggled with banter because he couldn't process the incoming jibe and respond in a timely manner.

The school was very good and provided a support network. He also had access to a quiet space or refuge if he needed it. As I type he is doing fine and is not in need of support.

So, I would suggest that you need to establish the route cause of the anxiety. Unfortunately, the NHS isn't massively helpful, it appeared to us. We had to pay privately and it was circa £1000.
Thanks for the reply.

I am feeling a little desperate as this has been going on for about 9 months.
She goes to school a day or two a week, and doesn't want to talk about it.

I don't get a great amount of feedback.
She has seen a psychologist off and on but no imorovement.

Living in the uk, i feel out of the loop.

in 9 months, she has gone near top of class to barely atrending.

in 18 months she could leave school with no future.


philv

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5,374 posts

243 months

Tuesday 26th November 2019
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How frequently did your child see a psycologist?
was it once a week?

So

28,176 posts

251 months

Tuesday 26th November 2019
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philv said:
How frequently did your child see a psycologist?
was it once a week?
No just once, for a day. Lots of testing and a diagnosis at the end.

The school was very good, It wasn't the first time they'd seen something similar.

ShyTallKnight

2,333 posts

242 months

Monday 2nd December 2019
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Yes, had it with my 14 yo daughter for over 6 months. Tried all sorts; counselling, CAMHS, educational welfare officer, many many meetings with the school etc etc. We could never get to the root cause.

Nothing really worked and then one day she just decided that she now wanted re-engage at school and apart from a couple of minor blips she's back to normal. She's now in yr 11 and although a little bit behind in a couple of subjects should get a good spread of GCSE's.

My advice although its hard and stressful is try to be supportive and all being well she'll snap out of it.