How do you cope with anger?

[Breeks]

I'm usually a fairly placid type, but for the last few days I've started to feel a frustration build - snappy with the kids etc.....

It boiled over this evening when I was out walking the dog in a nearby field. Dog was on lead and was getting buzzed by another dog, the owner of which was talking on his phone. The metal fastening on my dogs harness broke off and for extra comedy effect it, and the metal clip on his extending lead, came flying back and hit me square in the nose. Cue blood pissing out of my nose and me flinging the lead to the ground and shouting a curse. Chap looks over his shoulder and carries on talking and walking. At this point my internal frustration boiled over and I shouted after him to "Get his fking dog under control".....there then ensued a slightly tense discussion about it being an open field etc etc....

Now I would normally have laughed all of this off but I know that the frustration that's been mounting had just boiled over and he was the recipient of that boilover. Things being as they are (lockdown etc....) I'm guessing that is leading to a sense of unease and frustration.

I'm a bit concerned that this happens again, I guess it's called anger management...so I'm just looking for any coping tips?

If anyone suggests walking the dog I'll fking kill them :-)

[Hoofy]

Breeks said:

If anyone suggests walking the dog I'll fking kill them :-)

Well, I'm glad you've got your humour back.

Have you tried mindfulness? It's probably the easiest way of managing your emotions at home.

Try this for size: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9Z4t9ZiUzM

[Chicken_Satay]

This seems to be happening with other people at the moment if the level of anger I've witnessed in the last week is anything to go by e.g. people getting agitated if I pass them too closely while running. A little tip for them: stay to the side of the path and take your earphones out. Then you might have some self awareness and make things easier for yourself.

Sometimes you have every right to be angry though. Tonight I was cycling along the Thames path, keeping to the left, and this middle aged clown was cycling with no hands on the handlebars, not looking where he was going and veered right into my path. I called him a complete and utter fking prick and carried on my merry way!

[anonymous-user]

Breeks said:

If anyone suggests walking the dog I'll fking kill them :-)

Trouble with doing this today is they might return the favour.

Seriously though, friend of mine just throws Tupperware around the kitchen instead.

[xjay1337]

Breeks said:

I'm usually a fairly placid type, but for the last few days I've started to feel a frustration build - snappy with the kids etc.....

It boiled over this evening when I was out walking the dog in a nearby field. Dog was on lead and was getting buzzed by another dog, the owner of which was talking on his phone. The metal fastening on my dogs harness broke off and for extra comedy effect it, and the metal clip on his extending lead, came flying back and hit me square in the nose. Cue blood pissing out of my nose and me flinging the lead to the ground and shouting a curse. Chap looks over his shoulder and carries on talking and walking. At this point my internal frustration boiled over and I shouted after him to "Get his fking dog under control".....there then ensued a slightly tense discussion about it being an open field etc etc....

Now I would normally have laughed all of this off but I know that the frustration that's been mounting had just boiled over and he was the recipient of that boilover. Things being as they are (lockdown etc....) I'm guessing that is leading to a sense of unease and frustration.

I'm a bit concerned that this happens again, I guess it's called anger management...so I'm just looking for any coping tips?

If anyone suggests walking the dog I'll fking kill them :-)

Can completely understand . Being cooped up like this is enough to make anyone lose their temper more.

Generally try things like stress balls and stupid mobile apps to distract you for now.

[Breeks]

I usually get out the house for a drive and take photos....I can just zone out for hours doing that stuff, but doesn't feel right just now.

[HustleRussell]

Normally just take it out on strangers TBH

[KrissKross]

Breeks said:

If anyone suggests walking the dog I'll fking kill them :-)

Getting a dog saved my life.

[ClaphamGT3]

I find laughing at the truly absurd things in life really helps. This evening for example, I was out walking the dog. I let him off his lead whilst making the last couple of work calls for the day And he was playing with another dog when the other dog’s lead broke, sprung back and hit the other guy square on the nose. Classic! Nearly pissed myself laughing! To cap it all, the guy then had a go at *me* as if it was *my* fault his poxy dog lead broke!

Seriously, I wouldn’t worry too much; everyone is a bit on edge at the moment with this wretched lock-down; just make sure you’re getting plenty of sleep and actively tell yourself “I mustn’t let this get to me” when you’re feeling your temper go

[fastraxx]

Breeks said:

I usually get out the house for a drive and take photos....I can just zone out for hours doing that stuff, but doesn't feel right just now.

Have you tried wking?

[Narcisus]

fastraxx said:

Breeks said:

I usually get out the house for a drive and take photos....I can just zone out for hours doing that stuff, but doesn't feel right just now.

Have you tried wking?

Cant you read he has tried walking just with his dog ....

[anonymous-user]

Breeks said:

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If anyone suggests walking the dog I'll fking kill them :-)

There is no doubt the current lockdown together with the associated fear to people's health and economic uncertainty will be causing many people to feel stressed.

That can cause changes in your hormones which can affect things like your concentration span as well as significantly change your emotional response to what would normally be an innocuous situation. So that might be linked to how you are feeling.

The most common way to re-balance things is via exercise - when you go for a walk, how far are you usually walking? Are you doing other forms of exercise regularly?

[xjay1337]

I really hate how everyone always suggests exercise as a way to make you feel better or less angry or less depressed. Doesn't work for all

[anonymous-user]

xjay1337 said:

I really hate how everyone always suggests exercise as a way to make you feel better or less angry or less depressed. Doesn't work for all

True, but it can for many.

My post was just trying to get a sense for the amount of exercise currently being done, as that will give an indication if other options might need to be tried.

[fastraxx]

xjay1337 said:

I really hate how everyone always suggests exercise as a way to make you feel better or less angry or less depressed. Doesn't work for all

Why do you hate a method that helps so many people?

[Hoofy]

Narcisus said:

fastraxx said:

Breeks said:

I usually get out the house for a drive and take photos....I can just zone out for hours doing that stuff, but doesn't feel right just now.

Have you tried wking?

Cant you read he has tried walking just with his dog ....

[xjay1337]

fastraxx said:

xjay1337 said:

I really hate how everyone always suggests exercise as a way to make you feel better or less angry or less depressed. Doesn't work for all

Why do you hate a method that helps so many people?

Didn't say I hate the method.

I said how I hate how it's the Go to suggestion anytime anyone has any problems.

[craig_m67]

It’s a go to method because it works (for a lot of people)

[anonymous-user]

I used to lose my rag at least once a day until I started meditating and now it's once a week max. Once a fortnight usually.

I don't really meditate that much anymore, but the 3 months or so seemed to have had a permanent impact.

Could be coincidence. Maybe I started because something made me calmer?

Dunno. Worth a try.

[colin_p]

fastraxx said:

Have you tried wking?

I was going to suggest that, go somewhere quiet and have a massive wk.

Alternatively, live life like a dog; three rules -

1, If you cannot s**g it, eat it
2, If you cannot eat it, p*ss on it
3, All else fails then do zoomies in the back garden.