Self Control. Anger VS Rationale

[1Steve68]

We all deal with situations everyday that test our patience level whether that be online or in real life but what is your modus operandi in these type of scenarios? Is your first response to kick-off and get nasty/physical or do you try to talk-down/calm disputes first? How has your attitude/approach to conflict helped you in your life?

[Spare tyre]

I have a stressful job where people seem to throw you under the bus from time to time. Never react, walk away, bite tongue and try to sleep on it

Edited by Spare tyre on Saturday 15th November 18:47

[slopes]

I just act stupid and make like i didn't understand what they were saying/hinting at.

[M22s]

The George Forman is currently in multiple bits in the garden having been launched out the back door this evening, because the toasty stuck to it

Not the first time either - a non-stick frying pan, with fried egg welded to it out the window, whole meals in the cooking vessel and all the utensils or kids toys after being stepped on for the umpteenth time going directly into the wheelie bin.

Generally speaking though, I am pretty unemotional and unflappable but everyone has a flash point aye

Edited by M22s on Saturday 15th November 19:39

[iamAlegend]

Quite rational, but explosive when I want to be.

Example, I can act calm being mistreated at work, or in a situation where I need the other person to be on my side.

In a situation where I don’t know the other person, or care what they think about me….the toys well and truly get thrown out of the pram and I enjoy it.

[Monkeylegend]

1Steve68 said:

We all deal with situations everyday that test our patience level whether that be online or in real life but what is your modus operandi in these type of scenarios? Is your first response to kick-off and get nasty/physical or do you try to talk-down/calm disputes first? How has your attitude/approach to conflict helped you in your life?

How do you deal with these situations ?

[Sheets Tabuer]

I'm usually calm and people back down when they know who I am.

R Pickering.

[sanguinary]

Sheets Tabuer said:

I'm usually calm and people back down when they know who I am.

R Pickering.

Who?

I used to be bad tempered, but realised I was emulating my Dad. I m pretty chilled since. Frustrated, but chilled.

[Doofus]

Spare tyre said:

Never react, walk away, bite tongue and try to sleep on it

So what do you do?

[1Steve68]

M22s said:

The George Forman is currently in multiple bits in the garden having been launched out the back door this evening, because the toasty stuck to it

Not the first time either - a non-stick frying pan, with fried egg welded to it out the window, whole meals in the cooking vessel and all the utensils or kids toys after being stepped on for the umpteenth time going directly into the wheelie bin.

Generally speaking though, I am pretty unemotional and unflappable but everyone has a flash point aye

Edited by M22s on Saturday 15th November 19:39

Sounds like you need therapy or anger management classes LOL

[1Steve68]

Monkeylegend said:

How do you deal with these situations ?

I'm an introvert so my first response to problems is always to shy away and avoid conflict to begin with. If that doesn't work I go proper bonkers/mental/bananas....

[1Steve68]

iamAlegend said:

Quite rational, but explosive when I want to be.

Example, I can act calm being mistreated at work, or in a situation where I need the other person to be on my side.

In a situation where I don t know the other person, or care what they think about me .the toys well and truly get thrown out of the pram and I enjoy it.

You sound just like me...

[Tisy]

Monkeylegend said:

1Steve68 said:

We all deal with situations everyday that test our patience level whether that be online or in real life but what is your modus operandi in these type of scenarios? Is your first response to kick-off and get nasty/physical or do you try to talk-down/calm disputes first? How has your attitude/approach to conflict helped you in your life?

How do you deal with these situations ?

It's an AI bot account. Check the post history and topics. Same format, same vernacular.

[1Steve68]

Sheets Tabuer said:

I'm usually calm and people back down when they know who I am.

R Pickering.

Same here, but it takes time for people to know/understand who you are and what you will/won't do...

[Rich Boy Spanner]

I have very low expectations of people so I just sigh and try and ignore them and the situation, and if I can't then I deal with as I would if dealing with a child, as in overly calmly so that I can be done with it and get back to where I want to be.

[Sheets Tabuer]

Are you Sarah Connor.

[ucb]

Get their address, go round, rape the dog & kill the wife
Gets a bit time consuming after a while

[NaePasaran]

1Steve68 said:

We all deal with situations everyday that test our patience level whether that be online or in real life but what is your modus operandi in these type of scenarios? Is your first response to kick-off and get nasty/physical or do you try to talk-down/calm disputes first? How has your attitude/approach to conflict helped you in your life?

Online disputes simply walk away. No one has ever changed their mind or viewpoint from an arguement on social media, infact most people probably just dig further in.

I can be (guess still am) quite an angry person, but was reading a book on emotions and it was very thought provoking that the author said that we create anger to justify our outburst. We want to react in that way, so we get angry to justify acting that way. We use anger as an excuse for acting like a prick saying we can't control it, but almost all of us can, as none of us have killed someone when anger, we can also reign it in.

I guess anger is also highly linked to how one feels in life. Had someone write of my car due to their absolute stupidity "no biggy stuff like that happens". Had someone skip me in the que at Decathlon and threatened to rip his fking throat out. I guess the former occasion, was probably content and happy with life. With the latter occasion absolutely wasn't happy/content in life, so something so menial could enrage me.

However reading that anger is something we create to justify being aholes is has done wonders on being calmer in life for me.

[Huzzah]

NaePasaran said:

However reading that anger is something we create to justify being aholes is has done wonders on being calmer in life for me.

Knowing this now helps me with how to react to angry people.

[Gary29]

NaePasaran said:

I guess anger is also highly linked to how one feels in life. Had someone write of my car due to their absolute stupidity "no biggy stuff like that happens". Had someone skip me in the que at Decathlon and threatened to rip his fking throat out. I guess the former occasion, was probably content and happy with life. With the latter occasion absolutely wasn't happy/content in life, so something so menial could enrage me.

100% a big factor. I'm going through a prolonged period of unease in my life at present, and I'm very irritable. My patience used to be saint like, but I boil up (internally) at the slightest thing now.

I'm an introvert, so try to avoid confrontation as much as possible, if I snapped, I'd end up on a murder charge most probably, after keeping everything bottled in for so long.

I remember someone saying something about two types of people in the world; people with short fuses and therefore frequent trivial explosions, and then people with really long fuses, but nuclear scale explosions when they do finally detonate.

I'm the latter.

I did nearly smash up my kitchen yesterday though as someone had 'organised' the saucepans in a style whereby everything was intertwined and to get at the one thing I wanted, everything else was avalanching out of the head height cupboard.

I've always been one to consider the consequences before acting, unlike a lot of people.