At what age did you give up?
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Late 20s.
Stop hoping to have a happy and fulfilling life. Just go to work and pay the bills.
If there is anything you are a little bit interested in, indulge it. Might only be a distraction from the tedium, but that’s ok.
I would not recommend my own advice for normal mentally healthy adults. But after trying (unsuccessfully obviously) to 'end it all' in my mid-20s, this is the strategy I have used to keep me going for 30 years.
A miserable pointless existence isn’t so bad when you adjust you’re expectations.
Stop hoping to have a happy and fulfilling life. Just go to work and pay the bills.
If there is anything you are a little bit interested in, indulge it. Might only be a distraction from the tedium, but that’s ok.
I would not recommend my own advice for normal mentally healthy adults. But after trying (unsuccessfully obviously) to 'end it all' in my mid-20s, this is the strategy I have used to keep me going for 30 years.
A miserable pointless existence isn’t so bad when you adjust you’re expectations.
Early 40s now, I think i gave up a few years ago to be honest, my job is one of my main contributers to how i am and in turn the job has made me see how society has broken down, I always believed based on how many times i was told as a young kid that i could be something, and that never turned out, I've anxiety and depression and at this point i think my cards have well and truly been dealt at this age and that this is my lot, I don't live i simply exist.
James_33 said:
Early 40s now, I think i gave up a few years ago to be honest, my job is one of my main contributers to how i am and in turn the job has made me see how society has broken down, I always believed based on how many times i was told as a young kid that i could be something, and that never turned out, I've anxiety and depression and at this point i think my cards have well and truly been dealt at this age and that this is my lot, I don't live i simply exist.
What do you do out of interest? Sounds like police or maybe some kind of public sector role where you're "customer facing"?redrabbit29 said:
James_33 said:
Early 40s now, I think i gave up a few years ago to be honest, my job is one of my main contributers to how i am and in turn the job has made me see how society has broken down, I always believed based on how many times i was told as a young kid that i could be something, and that never turned out, I've anxiety and depression and at this point i think my cards have well and truly been dealt at this age and that this is my lot, I don't live i simply exist.
What do you do out of interest? Sounds like police or maybe some kind of public sector role where you're "customer facing"?Landlubber said:
In my 70's now and starting to feel like it's all getting a bit too much trouble now. Constant joint pain and stiffness means it's difficult to do much. I've done just about everything I want to do now. Had a good life.
Chin up and keep going, you are a long time dead.I'm 73 and loving life,
redrabbit29 said:
I always look at those people that are endlessly bubbly, full of energy, joy, upbeat. I'd love to know their secret.
I know some who work at that, actually having that positive mindset and consciously being that way. But some it just seems to be their natural disposition.
People are wired differently. Don’t try and be that bubbly person if that’s not in your nature. I know some who work at that, actually having that positive mindset and consciously being that way. But some it just seems to be their natural disposition.
Recently I’ve been looking at my life with a different perspective. The years spent feeling like I should be like other people contributed to my issues with depression.
Accepting that it’s ok to not be happy most of the time has made it easier to not be miserable.
SpudLink said:
redrabbit29 said:
I always look at those people that are endlessly bubbly, full of energy, joy, upbeat. I'd love to know their secret.
I know some who work at that, actually having that positive mindset and consciously being that way. But some it just seems to be their natural disposition.
People are wired differently. Don t try and be that bubbly person if that s not in your nature. I know some who work at that, actually having that positive mindset and consciously being that way. But some it just seems to be their natural disposition.
Recently I ve been looking at my life with a different perspective. The years spent feeling like I should be like other people contributed to my issues with depression.
Accepting that it s ok to not be happy most of the time has made it easier to not be miserable.
A500leroy said:
Those of you that stalk me on here know I'm a miserable person.
Just wondering those of you with depression, what age did you realise it's not worth trying anymore and to just accept existing.
Just wondering those of you with depression, what age did you realise it's not worth trying anymore and to just accept existing.
Not a stalker but aware of your general outlook and I’d like to know if you have been to therapy - either talking or prescriptive.
If not then why?
Hoofy said:
SpudLink said:
redrabbit29 said:
I always look at those people that are endlessly bubbly, full of energy, joy, upbeat. I'd love to know their secret.
I know some who work at that, actually having that positive mindset and consciously being that way. But some it just seems to be their natural disposition.
People are wired differently. Don t try and be that bubbly person if that s not in your nature. I know some who work at that, actually having that positive mindset and consciously being that way. But some it just seems to be their natural disposition.
Recently I ve been looking at my life with a different perspective. The years spent feeling like I should be like other people contributed to my issues with depression.
Accepting that it s ok to not be happy most of the time has made it easier to not be miserable.
shirt said:
A500leroy said:
Those of you that stalk me on here know I'm a miserable person.
Just wondering those of you with depression, what age did you realise it's not worth trying anymore and to just accept existing.
Just wondering those of you with depression, what age did you realise it's not worth trying anymore and to just accept existing.
Not a stalker but aware of your general outlook and I d like to know if you have been to therapy - either talking or prescriptive.
If not then why?
biggbn said:
Hoofy said:
SpudLink said:
redrabbit29 said:
I always look at those people that are endlessly bubbly, full of energy, joy, upbeat. I'd love to know their secret.
I know some who work at that, actually having that positive mindset and consciously being that way. But some it just seems to be their natural disposition.
People are wired differently. Don t try and be that bubbly person if that s not in your nature. I know some who work at that, actually having that positive mindset and consciously being that way. But some it just seems to be their natural disposition.
Recently I ve been looking at my life with a different perspective. The years spent feeling like I should be like other people contributed to my issues with depression.
Accepting that it s ok to not be happy most of the time has made it easier to not be miserable.
t and they will never manage to achieve X or Y has also embedded that into their way of life.Never.
Have had some health issues ( at 77 hardly unusual) but all manageable and just work through them. I don’t look back as the past is done and dusted. If at some point I get some debilitating or fatal disease I will exit it quickly. Zero interest in living a half life. Till then will travel , play with cars, do a bit of photography and socialize with friends and family .
Have had some health issues ( at 77 hardly unusual) but all manageable and just work through them. I don’t look back as the past is done and dusted. If at some point I get some debilitating or fatal disease I will exit it quickly. Zero interest in living a half life. Till then will travel , play with cars, do a bit of photography and socialize with friends and family .
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