Does it get better?
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I find myself in a difficult situation and im hoping that maybe some fellow Phers have gone through something similar. I really hope not to many as it's pretty awful.
I write sometimes about my difficulties with my eldest son's disabilities and the strain that puts on my wife and Is' life. Often just to make myself feel better more than anything else.
Over the past year his violence has escalated to the point that around Xmas my wife started to become quite depressed, which is kind of normal we both go through periods where our situation gets us down. Unfortunately this has continued to the point that she woke and declared that despite us having done everything we could including building a new house to keep him at home, she would like to put him into residential care. Please note that is care not give him up, we are both adamant about that.
This was a massive shift for my wife who has dedicated the last 10 years trying to create a bubble around us where he is happy and we could be happy. I unfortunately think this has recently shattered with the arrival of our second son who is so far typical, allowing my wife to experience being a normal mother.
The period of depression escalated 6 months ago where she started having manic episodes mixed with extreme lows. Resulting in multiple attempts to take her own life. Not because she wanted to die but because the intrusive thoughts she has always had have got louder and more persuasive. This became complexity unmanageable with her having to be admitted to a mental hospital for just over month.
Now she is diagnosed with PTSD, OCD and Bipolar. She is back home we are managing ok but she is just off never really happy or sad just kind of there going through the motions. Says she doesn't want to be here anymore but doesn't want to leave our youngest.
Im just kind of worried is this it now? Am I going to have to watch her like a hawk for the rest of my life? Will she actually recover or did she actually just snap forever to be in a slightly broken state?
it lost with what it all means.
I write sometimes about my difficulties with my eldest son's disabilities and the strain that puts on my wife and Is' life. Often just to make myself feel better more than anything else.
Over the past year his violence has escalated to the point that around Xmas my wife started to become quite depressed, which is kind of normal we both go through periods where our situation gets us down. Unfortunately this has continued to the point that she woke and declared that despite us having done everything we could including building a new house to keep him at home, she would like to put him into residential care. Please note that is care not give him up, we are both adamant about that.
This was a massive shift for my wife who has dedicated the last 10 years trying to create a bubble around us where he is happy and we could be happy. I unfortunately think this has recently shattered with the arrival of our second son who is so far typical, allowing my wife to experience being a normal mother.
The period of depression escalated 6 months ago where she started having manic episodes mixed with extreme lows. Resulting in multiple attempts to take her own life. Not because she wanted to die but because the intrusive thoughts she has always had have got louder and more persuasive. This became complexity unmanageable with her having to be admitted to a mental hospital for just over month.
Now she is diagnosed with PTSD, OCD and Bipolar. She is back home we are managing ok but she is just off never really happy or sad just kind of there going through the motions. Says she doesn't want to be here anymore but doesn't want to leave our youngest.
Im just kind of worried is this it now? Am I going to have to watch her like a hawk for the rest of my life? Will she actually recover or did she actually just snap forever to be in a slightly broken state?
it lost with what it all means.
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