Friends Reunited?? Why would you want to???
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I don't get it.. I was browsing the list of my old school, as Mrs Zee had been looking at hers on my PC..
Fact is, all the people who I went to school with who I might *ever* want to talk to are still close friends.. they number all of 1.
I hated all those visionless, small minded, mouthy gimps I went to school with.. with few exceptions, I can go back to where I grew up and point and laugh at their sad lives.. born, educated, married, spawned and no doubt will also die, all in the same town.. arrrrghh!!!
I just don't understand .. get a life.. the past is gone and it mostly sucked. I hated school. What is this nostalgia about the supposed 'best days of our lives' which were really for most peoplem they no such thing? For one thing, I never owned any sports cars or had any decent money, freedom or drugs when I was at school.. Oh how I get dewey eyed at the thought of it.... not
Fact is, all the people who I went to school with who I might *ever* want to talk to are still close friends.. they number all of 1.
I hated all those visionless, small minded, mouthy gimps I went to school with.. with few exceptions, I can go back to where I grew up and point and laugh at their sad lives.. born, educated, married, spawned and no doubt will also die, all in the same town.. arrrrghh!!!
I just don't understand .. get a life.. the past is gone and it mostly sucked. I hated school. What is this nostalgia about the supposed 'best days of our lives' which were really for most peoplem they no such thing? For one thing, I never owned any sports cars or had any decent money, freedom or drugs when I was at school.. Oh how I get dewey eyed at the thought of it.... not
I hated all those visionless, small minded, mouthy gimps I went to school with.. with few exceptions, I can go back to where I grew up and point and laugh at their sad lives.. born, educated, married, spawned and no doubt will also die, all in the same town.. arrrrghh!!!
Ah, but that's why you should get back in touch with them. Turn up to a reunion wearing designer clothes, driving a flash sports car (ideally private-plated) and waving your platinum credit card at the barman.
The Smug factor is phenomenal. Even if you do end up having to buy the drinks.
I joined - thought it'd be fun to find out what everyone was up to (not having kept in touch n all that as I've moved about a bit since then). Got in touch with a couple by email, they said it was great to hear from me and would be in touch ....... Zilch, nada, nothing in a year. Mind you I haven't bothered either 
Best to leave the past in the past - if you realy were good mates you'd stay in touch, one way or another.
Best to leave the past in the past - if you realy were good mates you'd stay in touch, one way or another.Good post Carzee - that's the kind of rant I like to read on a Monday morning! 
There is of course one really good thing about friendsreunited, and that is that you can chuckle at the blatantly exagerrated or arrogant 'what I'm doing now' people put up there. Check out these from some people in my year:
One guy is apparently a 'senior advertising executive' - I wonder what that actually means?...
Another guy wrote (love this one): "Architect in London... currently exhibited in a major retrospective at the Tate Modern... which is nice." Arrogant?! Nah!
One girl was at least slightly creative: "Am currently doing time for stalking old school friends."
There must be some classics out there - anyone care to submit some?
roadsweeper.
There is of course one really good thing about friendsreunited, and that is that you can chuckle at the blatantly exagerrated or arrogant 'what I'm doing now' people put up there. Check out these from some people in my year:
One guy is apparently a 'senior advertising executive' - I wonder what that actually means?...
Another guy wrote (love this one): "Architect in London... currently exhibited in a major retrospective at the Tate Modern... which is nice." Arrogant?! Nah!
One girl was at least slightly creative: "Am currently doing time for stalking old school friends."
There must be some classics out there - anyone care to submit some?
roadsweeper.
Carzee......it finally happened 
We agree on something
I joined this damn thing a year ago and over the last few months it has turned from funny to annoying. All the people that emailed me were people I bloody hated at School. It should be called bloody "enemies re-united" I ended up taking all my details off the site!!
I even had an email from a guy that I spent my entire childhood hating, a sworn enemy who had an evil older brother who bullied everyone. Waffling on about the so called "good old days" I felt like responding and saying that only "good old days" were when him and his evil shitbag brother were expelled! I didn't really want to hear how well the tosser was doing as I was rather hoping they were both in hell by now.
Needless to say I didn't reply. I'm not one for looking back and pretending everything was rosy then so bollocks to it, they should ban the site altogether!!
We agree on something
I joined this damn thing a year ago and over the last few months it has turned from funny to annoying. All the people that emailed me were people I bloody hated at School. It should be called bloody "enemies re-united" I ended up taking all my details off the site!!
I even had an email from a guy that I spent my entire childhood hating, a sworn enemy who had an evil older brother who bullied everyone. Waffling on about the so called "good old days" I felt like responding and saying that only "good old days" were when him and his evil shitbag brother were expelled! I didn't really want to hear how well the tosser was doing as I was rather hoping they were both in hell by now.
Needless to say I didn't reply. I'm not one for looking back and pretending everything was rosy then so bollocks to it, they should ban the site altogether!!
I've always thought the same, most of the people who I went to school with I wouldn't talk to if I met them in the pub so why would I want to talk to them now?
It would be like:
Chum: "Hi"
You : "Hi"
Chum: "lovely to see you again"
You : "yeah and you"
Chum: "do you rember Mr whatever?"
You : "Yeah he always smelled"
Chum: "ah school days"
You : "so what you up to now then?"
Chum: "I'm a hairdresser and you?"
You : "I work in IT."
(Que akward silence as you can't really ask them the sort of things you would ask someone you have just met and you can't really ask them stuff as if you're there best friend)
That site (from what I have seen) only attracts people whos lives are so lame they would like to live in the past (sorry if PH'ers are members )
It would be like:
Chum: "Hi"
You : "Hi"
Chum: "lovely to see you again"
You : "yeah and you"
Chum: "do you rember Mr whatever?"
You : "Yeah he always smelled"
Chum: "ah school days"
You : "so what you up to now then?"
Chum: "I'm a hairdresser and you?"
You : "I work in IT."
(Que akward silence as you can't really ask them the sort of things you would ask someone you have just met and you can't really ask them stuff as if you're there best friend)
That site (from what I have seen) only attracts people whos lives are so lame they would like to live in the past (sorry if PH'ers are members
)
gazzab said: Turning up in flash car, flash clothes and waving a credit card is the thing that annoys me the most about Friends Reunited.
Not at all. I think it shows you have the drive and ambition to get out there and make something of yourself, rather than being like huge numbers of your old school "chums" - living on benefits and spending all your time devising ways of getting more cash out of the government.
I've got no time either for the morons who feel they have to post messages that make them sound better than they are. The ones who thought it was clever to be disruptive in class and then make life interesting for those of us who wanted to go somewhere in life.
>> Edited by SGirl on Monday 21st October 12:27
Well, I have to admit I've left my details on there. If only to see what happens or who crawls out of the woodwork. People tend to send a quick e-mail which can be interesting ("you've got how many kids?!" ), swear to stay in touch for ever and then vanish. I don't care.
Last time I visited my parents I met a girl who'd made my life hell at school. (I still have a dent on my shin where she deliberately whacked me with a hockey stick!) She greeted me like a long long friend, lots of "how are you doing, how lovely to see you"! I couldn't believe her cheek.
Told her to
off and get a life.
), swear to stay in touch for ever and then vanish. I don't care.
flasher said:All the people that emailed me were people I bloody hated at School. It should be called bloody "enemies re-united" I ended up taking all my details off the site!!
Last time I visited my parents I met a girl who'd made my life hell at school. (I still have a dent on my shin where she deliberately whacked me with a hockey stick!) She greeted me like a long long friend, lots of "how are you doing, how lovely to see you"! I couldn't believe her cheek. Told her to
off and get a life. 
For me, the point of the site is to find out what everyone's been up to. Admittedly there are a few look-at-mes, and anyone I truly cared about from school I am still in touch with, but there are a few people who were acquaintances at school, or best mates from Junior school that it's quite nice to read about.
I'm not interested enough to contact them, mind.
Dan
I'm not interested enough to contact them, mind.
Dan
When I left school and went to uni, by Christmas of the first term I knew who my 'old' friends were. I'd stayed in touch with them over those 10 weeks. I'm still in touch with them 10 years later now we are scattered across the globe, (went to one's wedding in Bulgaria over the summer - terrible roads out there!).
In short, if they really are friends, you stay in touch no matter what. If they're not then why pretend?
In short, if they really are friends, you stay in touch no matter what. If they're not then why pretend?
We organised an informal reunion in June down the local pub. 16 years since we left school.
It worked very well, surprisingly. The knobs at school didnt turn up, but the nice ones did.
It started as me and 3 other mates down the pub for a drink, then what about so and so we havnt seen for 16 year and it kept going. So most of the important people we were friends with at school anyway got emails, we then put a general reunion notice out and a few more turned up from that and word of mouth.
The best was a girl who is in the army and turned up with her butch army girl friend. They introduced themselves as 'clapp nurses'... VD stuff !! one of the guys commented that they know more about bloke bits then blokes do. We killed out selves with laughter.
So all in all it went well. We are doing another one in Dec. sad or what. But treat it a group of mates and even if only 3 or 4 turn up they are old mates and it is fun to talk with them.
It worked very well, surprisingly. The knobs at school didnt turn up, but the nice ones did.
It started as me and 3 other mates down the pub for a drink, then what about so and so we havnt seen for 16 year and it kept going. So most of the important people we were friends with at school anyway got emails, we then put a general reunion notice out and a few more turned up from that and word of mouth.
The best was a girl who is in the army and turned up with her butch army girl friend. They introduced themselves as 'clapp nurses'... VD stuff !! one of the guys commented that they know more about bloke bits then blokes do. We killed out selves with laughter.
So all in all it went well. We are doing another one in Dec. sad or what. But treat it a group of mates and even if only 3 or 4 turn up they are old mates and it is fun to talk with them.
I moved from Oxford to Essex when I was 16 and lost touch will all of my school mates from the Oxford area. I have found several of them through Friends Reunited and reguarly meet up with one of my mates who is now living in Romford. Bearing in mind we used to play truant, smoke pot and drank in pubs from the age of 15 - it was a bit of a shock to discover she joined the police. Meeting up after 26 years was great.
When I look at where my old mates are now living - hardly any have remained in the Oxford area.
When I look at where my old mates are now living - hardly any have remained in the Oxford area.
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