Why women chatter
Discussion
After yesterday's very interesting scientific exploration as to why women and men can't be "just friends", I thought this might be the next subject for PHers' dissection.
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So true. What amazes me is that it takes a woman 30 minutes to explain what a man can say in 30 seconds. They have to cover EVERY conceivable detail. Most annoying is when I get home the last thing I want to talk about is work, I just want to be able to relax and chill. However a woman seems to want to discuss every hour of your working day, and when you refuse to oblige, they insist on telling you everything about their day. Before you know it it's time to go back to work.
p.s. Still love 'em though
p.s. Still love 'em though
Hahaha, so true:
"Women, he argues, need to explain to men that they just want to talk and do not want solutions. He adds: "When a woman wants to punish a person she will stop talking. But this tactic doesn't work on men, who actually feel the added peace and quiet to be a bonus."
Ah, the old, woman says her problem, man replies with possible solutions, woman screams, "no your not listening." Aaaaarrggghhh.
"Women, he argues, need to explain to men that they just want to talk and do not want solutions. He adds: "When a woman wants to punish a person she will stop talking. But this tactic doesn't work on men, who actually feel the added peace and quiet to be a bonus."
Ah, the old, woman says her problem, man replies with possible solutions, woman screams, "no your not listening." Aaaaarrggghhh.
Think I am an odd ball where women are concerned - I have always preferred working with blokes having spent most of my career in the construction industry - can't stand the usless chatter of women. I hate shopping for anything other than food. 
In my last job I had my own office and could go all day without speaking to anyone - very productive.
In my last job I had my own office and could go all day without speaking to anyone - very productive.
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mmmm, interesting, I prefer the company of women, I hate all that blokey one of the gang, pretend simplistic macho crap. Don't get me wrong women are infuriating too but in a more complex way, when a bloke explains something he needs to get to the crux of the matter and filter out all that's not required. A woman has to set the scene, get all the information together and that can take a little time
I prefer the company of woman too. However, sitting back at looking objectively at the ones I talk to regularly, they do tend to be the pretty ones. Do I enjoy their company just because I fancy them? Are we are just complete slaves to our prehistoric instincts and hormones without even realising it?
Then there's answerphone messages... Men: "I'm in the pub, you coming?" Or Women: " Hi there, it's me, I was just wondering, I spoke to Susan and she suggested, well we both did really, that we could sort of get together you know and so... (fast forward three minutes of exposition) ... but we're in the pub now and were wondering if you wanted to come and have a drink with us. You don't have to, you might be busy... (fast forward two minutes of speculation) ... but we'd love it if you can make make it. Call me on (the next two minutes include every conceivable form of contact under the sun). AAAAARGH.
...still love 'em though!
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>> Edited by Bruce Fielding on Friday 15th November 09:16
...still love 'em though!
edited to edit to a length suitable for both sexes
>> Edited by Bruce Fielding on Friday 15th November 09:16
I heard an interesting analagy last weekend, in the dying ambers of a bonfire, in the wee small hours after many beers one of my mates was caught trance like just staring like a mong into the flames, his wife made the comment "thats his telly watching face" which kicked off the debate about how primeval man would come back to the cave after a hard days hunting and gathering, and unwind, kick back and mong out watching the fire. In summary the telly is modern mans fire 
Morning all!
Sorry I'm late to the party - I was working late last night to make up for spending the day chatting....
This is a fascinating topic! It is generally true that women talk more than men - if I ever forget this I just have a phone conversation with a man for five minutes. Men will give you the info you need - no more, no less: "see you at 7. OK bye". Women will go round the houses: "how are you, nice day, doing anything nice at the weekend?". Sometimes having phone conversations with men is infuriating because they just won't give details - they keep it short and sweet. E-mails also - if I formulate a nice, chatty mail to a friend I haven't seen in ages, I do feel a bit miffed if I get 3 lines back...
The source of many an argument! I've experienced this too. It's infuriating, because for women to put the day behind them, they just need a few minutes to say "well, guess what happened today?". Whereas men can just walk in the door and when asked will just say "my day was fine thanks". End of conversation. And any attempts to drag info out of them go nowhere.
Personally, I think it's a mental thing. Men can just give the facts, full stop. Women feel the urge to give the facts but then talk around them, introduce other (maybe less relevant) facts. It's one of the things that makes life so interesting! Life would be so dull if we were all the same.
All IMHO, of course....
>> Edited by SGirl on Friday 15th November 09:48
Sorry I'm late to the party - I was working late last night to make up for spending the day chatting....
This is a fascinating topic! It is generally true that women talk more than men - if I ever forget this I just have a phone conversation with a man for five minutes. Men will give you the info you need - no more, no less: "see you at 7. OK bye". Women will go round the houses: "how are you, nice day, doing anything nice at the weekend?". Sometimes having phone conversations with men is infuriating because they just won't give details - they keep it short and sweet. E-mails also - if I formulate a nice, chatty mail to a friend I haven't seen in ages, I do feel a bit miffed if I get 3 lines back...
Most annoying is when I get home the last thing I want to talk about is work, I just want to be able to relax and chill. However a woman seems to want to discuss every hour of your working day, and when you refuse to oblige, they insist on telling you everything about their day.
The source of many an argument! I've experienced this too. It's infuriating, because for women to put the day behind them, they just need a few minutes to say "well, guess what happened today?". Whereas men can just walk in the door and when asked will just say "my day was fine thanks". End of conversation. And any attempts to drag info out of them go nowhere.
Personally, I think it's a mental thing. Men can just give the facts, full stop. Women feel the urge to give the facts but then talk around them, introduce other (maybe less relevant) facts. It's one of the things that makes life so interesting! Life would be so dull if we were all the same.
All IMHO, of course....
>> Edited by SGirl on Friday 15th November 09:48
Women should be taught to give the facts of a discussion at the outset, then they'd be free to carry on adding useless information to thier hearts content and us blokes wouldn't have to listen to the rest if we didn't want to - and we never do.
Women also seem to need to recall discussions in complete detail and in real time and including thoughts that went on ... "I said...., then she said... then I said...., I thought.... then she said...etc etc ad infinitum.
It's also annoying when women realise they're doing something stupid and annoying everyone the smile and laugh. Like in a checkout queue when they have second thoughts about something and spend 5 minutes in discussion with the cashier as to wether or not they really need it, and then insist of paying with exact change, meanwhile a queue of 30 people has built up. Instead of realising this and saying "oops sorry". they start tittering and laughing "ooh look at the queue that's built up, ooh I am a one aren't I, Tee hee hee, Tee Hee Hee "
No it's not f'kin funny !!!!
Women also seem to need to recall discussions in complete detail and in real time and including thoughts that went on ... "I said...., then she said... then I said...., I thought.... then she said...etc etc ad infinitum.
It's also annoying when women realise they're doing something stupid and annoying everyone the smile and laugh. Like in a checkout queue when they have second thoughts about something and spend 5 minutes in discussion with the cashier as to wether or not they really need it, and then insist of paying with exact change, meanwhile a queue of 30 people has built up. Instead of realising this and saying "oops sorry". they start tittering and laughing "ooh look at the queue that's built up, ooh I am a one aren't I, Tee hee hee, Tee Hee Hee "
No it's not f'kin funny !!!!
There's a woman down the pub who does this, we call her "the regurgitator"
sparkey said:Women also seem to need to recall discussions in complete detail and in real time and including thoughts that went on ... "I said...., then she said... then I said...., I thought.... then she said...etc etc ad infinitum.
>> Edited by incorrigible on Friday 15th November 10:28
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