I'm about to possibly ruin my life, I need a snotter car....
Discussion
Hello all- difficult to place this thread in the correct place- need some help with a what car, and general life direction!
At the moment I've just started my 2nd year in University, studying illustration. I'm 250 miles from home, family and my long term boyfriend, not enjoying the course at all. I spent the entirety of last year miserable and depressed- I have learnt absolutely nothing, have less than rock bottom motivation and lots of other people are feeling the same. I've practically lost my passion for drawing, something I used to be very good at.
I'm planning of dropping out of uni this week, as my happiness is obviously my main priority. I live in a small village at home, so work will be an issue without having a car. If I want to continue my education elsewhere nearer home, same applies.
So I need something:
less than £800 ish.
preferably nothing too high on insurance... I'm 20, female, passed aged 18, havent had my own policy for over a year due to uni (will i have lost my no claims?), but named driver on another policy since then.
MUST be interesting, or something with a bit of poke. I couldn't deal with a 1.3 Ka or cruddy corsa again! (Unless I really really had to.)
Other than that, can't think of many issues- petrol isn't a major problem, so no need for anything particularly economical. Would have another Focus in an instant, but they are a bit ropey for that money.
As for dropping out of uni, god knows what will happen, but if its not for me... well its not for me. What else can be said? I feel a sense of guilt and failure but I'm hoping it will pass.
Any guidance or info would be fabulous, thanks.
At the moment I've just started my 2nd year in University, studying illustration. I'm 250 miles from home, family and my long term boyfriend, not enjoying the course at all. I spent the entirety of last year miserable and depressed- I have learnt absolutely nothing, have less than rock bottom motivation and lots of other people are feeling the same. I've practically lost my passion for drawing, something I used to be very good at.
I'm planning of dropping out of uni this week, as my happiness is obviously my main priority. I live in a small village at home, so work will be an issue without having a car. If I want to continue my education elsewhere nearer home, same applies.
So I need something:
less than £800 ish.
preferably nothing too high on insurance... I'm 20, female, passed aged 18, havent had my own policy for over a year due to uni (will i have lost my no claims?), but named driver on another policy since then.
MUST be interesting, or something with a bit of poke. I couldn't deal with a 1.3 Ka or cruddy corsa again! (Unless I really really had to.)
Other than that, can't think of many issues- petrol isn't a major problem, so no need for anything particularly economical. Would have another Focus in an instant, but they are a bit ropey for that money.
As for dropping out of uni, god knows what will happen, but if its not for me... well its not for me. What else can be said? I feel a sense of guilt and failure but I'm hoping it will pass.
Any guidance or info would be fabulous, thanks.
Louisa911 said:
I couldn't deal with a 1.3 Ka or cruddy corsa again! (Unless I really really had to.)
You're going to have to. Sorry. Good luck with the rest of your life - Uni ain't everything, especially if you're doing a non-vocational course. It takes guts to make that choice rather than just carrying on with what everyone expects. Having said that, have you talked to tutors, Student Union, maybe your GP, etc about how you're feeling?
If it's a 3 year course then stay on. You may well hate every second but you'll get a degree under your belt. You could always do another degree after that if you're willing to pay for it and having two qualifications will look good.
Or,
screw the course and get out sharpish. You could always do some other design course at a defferent uni. You may end up making the best choice of your life.
As for the car, well why not treat yourself? If you're anything like me then my car is an important part of my everyday life. It cheers me up no end when I need it! Obvious PH answer but get a leggy MX5.
Chin up!
Or,
screw the course and get out sharpish. You could always do some other design course at a defferent uni. You may end up making the best choice of your life.
As for the car, well why not treat yourself? If you're anything like me then my car is an important part of my everyday life. It cheers me up no end when I need it! Obvious PH answer but get a leggy MX5.
Chin up!
defblade said:
Have you talked to tutors, Student Union, maybe your GP, etc about how you're feeling?
This - Speak to your (I forget the proper term) main tutor - you'll have one assigned to you.When I nearly dropped out of Uni (slight mugging incident by a guy that had served time for ABH and for some reason my landlady let him rent a room in my house before he broke in to my room and stole most of my possessions) I had the presence of mind just - not to mention some friends to support me, even though I was scared s
tless and depressed - to speak to one of my tutors who gave me some solid advice and told me to finish the term early, settle down and come back the next term - he also helped me find a cheap place to live too (it ended up being his attic room, but hey, I was never there anyway).Do whats right for your life.
I wnet to Uni and had a whale of a time but it helped not one iota in post uni life in an academic sense, only in so much that I had good life experiences to take with me.
if you are not enjoying it, do what you wish, we only have one life..
buy a Fiesta Zetac 1250 Yamaha engine design, they should be cool..
Lad who works for us has one for his mrs and swears by it
I wnet to Uni and had a whale of a time but it helped not one iota in post uni life in an academic sense, only in so much that I had good life experiences to take with me.
if you are not enjoying it, do what you wish, we only have one life..
buy a Fiesta Zetac 1250 Yamaha engine design, they should be cool..
Lad who works for us has one for his mrs and swears by it
defblade said:
Louisa911 said:
I couldn't deal with a 1.3 Ka or cruddy corsa again! (Unless I really really had to.)
You're going to have to. Sorry. Good luck with the rest of your life - Uni ain't everything, especially if you're doing a non-vocational course. It takes guts to make that choice rather than just carrying on with what everyone expects. Having said that, have you talked to tutors, Student Union, maybe your GP, etc about how you're feeling?
How much can you afford on insurance? as in up to which kind of group?
also, DONT DROP OUT!!!
you're in your second year, so if you drop out now, you gain nothing from it at all. Yes university these days is rubbish, and no, you won't learn much, but unfortunately univerities these days, you don't unless you go to one of the top ones. But a degree, whatever it may be in is a huge thing to get in life.
I would suggest you look at what makes you unhappy at uni: Boyfriend, friends, house/digs/ not having anything to do, and change that first. Try moving residence,signing up for different things, get a job in the Student Union bar or whatever.
Your degree isn't supposed to be fun and games, Think of it as a test to see if you can stick out three years of it. Because in the end, your future employers will want to know that you can do that, someone that can't even stick out uni for 3 years isn't going to be abe to stick out a tough or challenging job.
Also it isn't the work part of university people enjoy, but the socialising part.
What about other options? trasfre university, go on a 6 month transfer to a Yank University, just try something other than bottling it and dropping out!
Ditto....don't just drop out of Uni, but done with a bit of structure you could probably change to one closer, or take legit time out that won't prejudice you going back into the education system.
If done properly you could probably take a year out, and have the option to return to your current course as a back up....and then see if you can find a Uni or course closer to home, or just a different place that suits you. Your years experience will put you in better position to know what you want out of teh course.
You can go back to college at any age....it's just easier when your younger and don't have loads of other responsibilities to deal wit.
Good luck.
Re Car....do some research on insurance, there are always some oddities with much lower insurance than you expect. When I was a student, sorry 20 years ago...the cheap old cars I found with lower insurance than the mates of mine driving cheap Marina's and other hand me down family saloons surprisingly included....Daimler V82 250, Capri 3 litre...and the Triumph GT6, that I ended up buying and running.
So maybe there are some vaguely interesting/low insurance rated more modern cars out there now.
If done properly you could probably take a year out, and have the option to return to your current course as a back up....and then see if you can find a Uni or course closer to home, or just a different place that suits you. Your years experience will put you in better position to know what you want out of teh course.
You can go back to college at any age....it's just easier when your younger and don't have loads of other responsibilities to deal wit.
Good luck.
Re Car....do some research on insurance, there are always some oddities with much lower insurance than you expect. When I was a student, sorry 20 years ago...the cheap old cars I found with lower insurance than the mates of mine driving cheap Marina's and other hand me down family saloons surprisingly included....Daimler V82 250, Capri 3 litre...and the Triumph GT6, that I ended up buying and running.
So maybe there are some vaguely interesting/low insurance rated more modern cars out there now.
I'm not going to be as categorical as others saying 'do' or 'don't' drop out of the course, it's not something anyone else can decide for you. I will, however, recommend to pick up a copy of The Fry Chronicles and have a read. It might change your mind about uni, it may not but I'm struggling with similar issues and I've found it to be funny and - above all, inspirational.
Good luck!
Good luck!
Plotloss said:
Don't drop out of Uni.
That is all.
Yup, having got there, stay there.That is all.
I'm assuming you're doing a graphic design type degree, in which case, if you want to work in that field post grad, these days you will struggle to get any sort of decent job without that degree.
And sadly, yes, hand drawing skills have all but disappeared in the 'real world' now, and that's something that isn't going to change.
Don't drop out! You're over a third of the way through. Seriously, it'll be so much of a ballache going back later. You just need to find strategies to cope with it, visit home every weekend if need be. All things must pass.
On the car front? Well, it's got to be a leggy MX-5 really. Mine cost me £600 and is so much fun. Getting coilovers and a full geometry set up today, and I STILL won't have spent more than a grand on it.
On the car front? Well, it's got to be a leggy MX-5 really. Mine cost me £600 and is so much fun. Getting coilovers and a full geometry set up today, and I STILL won't have spent more than a grand on it.
rswift said:
Re Car....do some research on insurance, there are always some oddities with much lower insurance than you expect. When I was a student, sorry 20 years ago...the cheap old cars I found with lower insurance than the mates of mine driving cheap Marina's and other hand me down family saloons surprisingly included....Daimler V82 250, Capri 3 litre...and the Triumph GT6, that I ended up buying and running.
So maybe there are some vaguely interesting/low insurance rated more modern cars out there now.
Agreed with this.So maybe there are some vaguely interesting/low insurance rated more modern cars out there now.
When I was 21 with no NCB whatsoever, and as a student in a poor insurance area, whilst looking into numerous options for cars, found that a Mitsubishi FTO GPX with Admiral would cost me the same as most 1.3 sheds. At the time it was rare-as on the road, and hadn't earn't any chav image yet, infact most people seemed to think it was a jag or aston
BoRED S2upid said:
Plotloss said:
Don't drop out of Uni.
That is all.
Shes "studying" drawing. Surley its something you can either do or not, wouldn't have thought a 3 year degree would make much difference. That is all.
There is nothing to say you can't find a vocation which makes you happy and rich without one, having one however does give you somewhat wider options, especially in your early twenties.
Consider the conversion opportunities alone, PGCE, Law Society etc.
Plotloss said:
BoRED S2upid said:
Plotloss said:
Don't drop out of Uni.
That is all.
Shes "studying" drawing. Surley its something you can either do or not, wouldn't have thought a 3 year degree would make much difference. That is all.
There is nothing to say you can't find a vocation which makes you happy and rich without one, having one however does give you somewhat wider options, especially in your early twenties.
Consider the conversion opportunities alone, PGCE, Law Society etc.
Ok good point about the conversion opportunities.
All depends what she wants to do and how much she wants to earn in her life, some careers you can't get above a certain management grade without the Degree.
A degree isn't the only option in life.
Thanks for the advice guys- but I think I've pretty much made my mind up already... there is another illustration course about 30 miles from home which I could quite easily commute to should I choose to take that subject up again. I'd definately be a hell of a lot happier nearer home.
Should I retain my points for the year, and possibly be able to use them at another uni some day, or would you cash them in for the Certification of Higher Education First award? I don't think doing 1st year again on a different course would be a major big deal, especially if considering taking up another course part time.
I have an avaliable part time job waiting for me at home, I've worked there for 5 years before now, so I know the job well and am happy there. Plus there are businesses that my boyfriend has ties with in the graphic design industry, work experience could be arranged. In my eyes, I can draw, I have an ability, people are asking for comissions regularly, but this course is killing my enthusiasm and my usual bubbly self. At the end of the day, if you can draw, you can draw, if you know what I mean. My aspirations have changed since first applying for uni, my drive is for setting up a pleasant life with the boyfriend and being happy with some money coming in, he seems to be just sitting around waiting for me to finish so we can get a house etc. He's moving up the career ladder himself, which he's working very hard for, and visiting me 250 miles away is another pressure for him.
As for the car related stuff- I would LOVE an MX5, but the insurance quotes I tried last year were insane, well over the 1k mark. Will take another look, but not expecting much change!
Will have a browse through the classifieds, always fancied a Capri but can't imagine it being the most trouble free car to own, especially when I'm reliant upon it!
Thanks again
Should I retain my points for the year, and possibly be able to use them at another uni some day, or would you cash them in for the Certification of Higher Education First award? I don't think doing 1st year again on a different course would be a major big deal, especially if considering taking up another course part time.
I have an avaliable part time job waiting for me at home, I've worked there for 5 years before now, so I know the job well and am happy there. Plus there are businesses that my boyfriend has ties with in the graphic design industry, work experience could be arranged. In my eyes, I can draw, I have an ability, people are asking for comissions regularly, but this course is killing my enthusiasm and my usual bubbly self. At the end of the day, if you can draw, you can draw, if you know what I mean. My aspirations have changed since first applying for uni, my drive is for setting up a pleasant life with the boyfriend and being happy with some money coming in, he seems to be just sitting around waiting for me to finish so we can get a house etc. He's moving up the career ladder himself, which he's working very hard for, and visiting me 250 miles away is another pressure for him.
As for the car related stuff- I would LOVE an MX5, but the insurance quotes I tried last year were insane, well over the 1k mark. Will take another look, but not expecting much change!
Will have a browse through the classifieds, always fancied a Capri but can't imagine it being the most trouble free car to own, especially when I'm reliant upon it!
Thanks again
Louisa911 said:
I'm 250 miles from home, family and my long term boyfriend, not enjoying the course at all. I spent the entirety of last year miserable and depressed- I have learnt absolutely nothing, have less than rock bottom motivation and lots of other people are feeling the same. I've practically lost my passion for drawing, something I used to be very good at.
Any guidance or info would be fabulous, thanks.
Cheat on your boyfriend. How close are you? Any guidance or info would be fabulous, thanks.
Seriously, it depends what you want to do with your life. Stick with it or maybe take a year out but don't drop out. While my first degree was psychology and as useful as a Ducati as an MPV, it was useful later on to say I had a degree and do a law degree so I was still able to live a dull and depressing existence albeit a well-qualified one.
I think something like a Puma might fit the bill but I've had many boring cars I've enjoyed immensely - as disparate as a 48hp Austin A40 to a Toyota Corolla. i think the longer you drive a acr and the more you depend on it, the more you bond with it.
The old Corsa on the other hand was the worst car I've ever driven.
You're from a small village 250 miles away and you have a long term boyfriend.
No doubt you travel home a lot and so rarely get into the social part of Uni.
You need to involve yourself in the whole Uni experience and not wish away the week until you see the family/boyfriend again
So dump the boyfriend and go out and enjoy yourself, get drunk, have casual sex etc...
No doubt you travel home a lot and so rarely get into the social part of Uni.
You need to involve yourself in the whole Uni experience and not wish away the week until you see the family/boyfriend again
So dump the boyfriend and go out and enjoy yourself, get drunk, have casual sex etc...
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