3rd Fail for my daughter
3rd Fail for my daughter
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Rufus

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1,518 posts

229 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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My daughter has just failed her test for the 3rd time, do you think I should change instructors, or is it best to just leave it for a while? She is with the BSM so one would think they would be pretty good. Maybe it is just her.

NDA

24,438 posts

247 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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Has she failed for the same things each time?

V8mate

45,899 posts

211 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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Try a shorter skirt for her next test?

soad

34,279 posts

198 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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What faults did she fail on?

Not used BSM myself, but would assume they're as good any other driving instructors?

Cock Womble

29,908 posts

252 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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Is this her?


Don

28,378 posts

306 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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Rufus said:
My daughter has just failed her test for the 3rd time, do you think I should change instructors, or is it best to just leave it for a while? She is with the BSM so one would think they would be pretty good. Maybe it is just her.
Quite possibly it's her at the moment.

Some people just aren't ready to drive and, if they're left for a year or two, come back to it absolutely determined to pass.

Is she learning to drive to please you? Or perhaps peer pressure? Is there actually any need for her to drive?

When she really, really, REALLY wants to pass for herself - she'll manage it.

escort90

3,559 posts

193 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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V8mate said:
Try a shorter skirt for her next test?
and a low cut top as well obviously.

just find out what she failed on and get her driving instructor to concentrate on that

AB

19,394 posts

217 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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TTIWWP

Iain328

14,436 posts

228 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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Rufus said:
My daughter has just failed her test for the 3rd time, do you think I should change instructors, or is it best to just leave it for a while? She is with the BSM so one would think they would be pretty good. Maybe it is just her.
Not what you want to hear but I think if you can't pass a driving test after a sensible number of lessons & say 3 attempts then that should be it for at least 5 years.

The last thing we need is more barely qualified/nervous/barely competent drivers on the road thanks. Driving license should be a privelage, not a right.

However, that's not the way things are so even if its just nerves, suggest give the tests a break for a while & just practise, practise, practise.

Besides, if she's that "borderline" do you really want her out playing in the traffic on her own anyway?


Cock Womble

29,908 posts

252 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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AB said:
TTIWWP
True. Maybe she's so fit that the instructor and examiner are colluding in order to get her more lessons and tests so they can sit next to her, perving away like a good 'un.

Justayellowbadge

37,057 posts

264 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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37 months.

Have you learnt nothing?

:sigh:

soad

34,279 posts

198 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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AB said:
TTIWWP
Translated as: This Thread Is Worthless Without Pictures!

Pics, OP! What are you waiting for?


Neil H

15,407 posts

273 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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I'm in favour of a 3 strikes and out policy.

Fail 3 times, no licence, ever.

jas xjr

11,309 posts

261 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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i have a friend , who is a decent enough driver. when he took his test ,several times, he was a nervous wreck. it was just a case of nerves with him.think he took his test 10 times. drives a truck now

Gusanita

365 posts

212 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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Quite often I think its a matter of nerves and if that's the case she will eventually pass it when she's ready. If she's nervous during a test she'll be nervous in other driving situations and so is not ready.

However, if it's her driving (have you been with her when she's driving), then it may be worthwhile looking into another instructor. But, I know someone who passed on their 8th go and she (female strangely enough) is awful and I dread going anywhere with her and I think it's just because she has poor spacial awareness. Does your daughter have good hand-eye coordination? Can she catch a ball?

bigTee

5,546 posts

243 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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Go and visit the driving test examiner with a pair of pliers and a blow torch.

petrolintonoise

57 posts

193 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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Neil H said:
I'm in favour of a 3 strikes and out policy.

Fail 3 times, no licence, ever.
Driving God talking here! GOD!!! we are not worthy! bow

Dont think thats just or fair TBH.The test is difficult,if you can pass it,you can drive.
imo

GestapoWatch

1,393 posts

212 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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Iain328 said:
Rufus said:
My daughter has just failed her test for the 3rd time, do you think I should change instructors, or is it best to just leave it for a while? She is with the BSM so one would think they would be pretty good. Maybe it is just her.
Not what you want to hear but I think if you can't pass a driving test after a sensible number of lessons & say 3 attempts then that should be it for at least 5 years.

The last thing we need is more barely qualified/nervous/barely competent drivers on the road thanks. Driving license should be a privelage, not a right.

However, that's not the way things are so even if its just nerves, suggest give the tests a break for a while & just practise, practise, practise.

Besides, if she's that "borderline" do you really want her out playing in the traffic on her own anyway?
yes I am of the same mindset and believe you should be confident enough to, for example:
  • Park correctly and confidently regardless of vehicle
  • Give way correctly without the need for either hesitation or 'chancing it'
  • Travel on Motorways without hesitation including confident and appropriate lane changing, joining at a decent speed etc.
  • Be 'good enough' to select appropriate speeds for the condiditons/vehicle
Of course in no way do I think my driving and/or expectations of others are in any way a correct measure but I do believe the above would make the roads safer (quieter).

mrmr96

13,736 posts

226 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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Gusanita said:
I know someone who passed on their 8th go and she is awful
This is the kind of thing that worries me. Lets say that 90% of the time someone is awful at driving, but 10% of the time can sting together 45mins (or so) without a major cockup. They will eventually pass a driving test when they 'fluke it'.

They are still then terrible drivers 90% of the time.

On the other hand, someone who is a good driver 90% of the time has a 9/10 chance of passing first time.

I do think that having re-tests with little time in between is a recipe for disaster as it increases the chances of fluking through.

While we're ranting, I hate older people who say "I'm glad I don't have to retake my test!! ROFL LMAO...!". Seriously, it's not 'funny' it means you can't drive properly. GTFO.

Fartgalen

6,832 posts

229 months

Friday 12th February 2010
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petrolintonoise said:
Neil H said:
I'm in favour of a 3 strikes and out policy.

Fail 3 times, no licence, ever.
Driving God talking here! GOD!!! we are not worthy! bow

Dont think thats just or fair TBH.The test is difficult,if you can pass it,you can drive.
imo
Sorry. No. The test is far from difficult.