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hey guys/gals ive always wanted to get into motorbiking i just have one problem, my mum.
Now that im 21, and ive been reading on the crash course methods, and the fact they are
getting alot harder in October i think nows the time.
My main problem is my mum, she thinks im gonna get killed, not by my doing, but by some
jackass in a car. i can see what she means, ive had quite a few close experiences in my
car. problem is ive always wanted to ride, just not been able to.
You guys and gals must have husbands/wives/motherinlaws who are against you riding, can
anyone help me and convince my mum, or give me any tips to win her over??
ive been kept away from motorbikes so im a complete novice so im looking for a friendly training
centre in the North West, if anyone knows of one =)Im just looking at getting fully trained then getting
atleast a 300c, as i need to do motorway miles.
Cheers in advance
Rob
Now that im 21, and ive been reading on the crash course methods, and the fact they are
getting alot harder in October i think nows the time.
My main problem is my mum, she thinks im gonna get killed, not by my doing, but by some
jackass in a car. i can see what she means, ive had quite a few close experiences in my
car. problem is ive always wanted to ride, just not been able to.
You guys and gals must have husbands/wives/motherinlaws who are against you riding, can
anyone help me and convince my mum, or give me any tips to win her over??
ive been kept away from motorbikes so im a complete novice so im looking for a friendly training
centre in the North West, if anyone knows of one =)Im just looking at getting fully trained then getting
atleast a 300c, as i need to do motorway miles.
Cheers in advance
Rob
Livid said:
ive been kept away from motorbikes so im a complete novice ......... Im just looking at getting fully trained then getting
atleast a 300c, as i need to do motorway miles.
Rob
A 300cc?? You really are a novice.atleast a 300c, as i need to do motorway miles.
Rob
You will never be able to win your mum over. She will worry about you until she's 6ft under. Thats what mums do. It's their job!!
My advice would be to get a CBT booked, buy yourself a £200 scooter and get used to the road a little before you consider doing a DAS course. You will find out if you enjoy being exposed to the elements/danger before your £500+ investment in a DAS
Chilli said:
Tell her that you intend to go the advanced route and treat it as a continuing learning curve.... but only if she pays, obviously. Either that or you'll get your girlfriend pregnant and move everyone in with her.
ps - your 21 huh? how old is mum??!!
ps - your 21 huh? how old is mum??!!
Down boy.
You know you're getting on a bit when you start fancying teenagers' Mums.....
Right there with you mate!
When I was 15 my Mum said that no one in our family would ever own a motorcycle as they were too dangerous. I got a moped when I was 16 and have always owned a bike since – for … cough ….. 30 years now. My Mum still hates bikes and thinks they should all be banned.
I approached the whole thing by pointing out (nicely) that it was my life and that while I understood her feelings, I had to be allowed to be able to do my own thing (and occasionally make my own mistakes). She should be happy that I was getting into something that was not illegal and that I would get as much training as I could. (Which was actually very little back then!) I also asked my Mum if she would rather I did what I wanted with my life but was honest with her or would she rather that I lied to her. I can’t say she ever approved (she still doesn’t) but she accepted what I was doing and was fine with it.
I approached the whole thing by pointing out (nicely) that it was my life and that while I understood her feelings, I had to be allowed to be able to do my own thing (and occasionally make my own mistakes). She should be happy that I was getting into something that was not illegal and that I would get as much training as I could. (Which was actually very little back then!) I also asked my Mum if she would rather I did what I wanted with my life but was honest with her or would she rather that I lied to her. I can’t say she ever approved (she still doesn’t) but she accepted what I was doing and was fine with it.
I can sympathise mate; I'm 32 and married, but am still apprehensive about telling my folks:
http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&a...
In fact, not by design I might add, everyone knows apart from them. Just been waiting for the right time to tell them, but selling my toy car and taking my CBT etc has all gone at such speed! I don't want to tell my folks over the phone, so it's finding the right time to visit them!
My wife is supportive, so I'm sorted in the most important respect. My folks will be upset, but that's only because they care for me and worry about me (as all parents do!).
I guess what I'm saying mate, is that you need to make your own decision - your mum would worry even if you were in your 30s/40s with your own family!
Good luck.
http://www.pistonheads.com/gassing/topic.asp?h=0&a...
In fact, not by design I might add, everyone knows apart from them. Just been waiting for the right time to tell them, but selling my toy car and taking my CBT etc has all gone at such speed! I don't want to tell my folks over the phone, so it's finding the right time to visit them!
My wife is supportive, so I'm sorted in the most important respect. My folks will be upset, but that's only because they care for me and worry about me (as all parents do!).
I guess what I'm saying mate, is that you need to make your own decision - your mum would worry even if you were in your 30s/40s with your own family!
Good luck.
I didn't tell my folks I'd got a bike.
They came down to London to visit me and I hid it under a blanket.
While they were out in the hire car, I needed to drop some papers off on the other side of town, so I put my (unique)bike jacket on and headed off down the A13, safe in the knowledge that I'd be back at the house before they were.
It was at precisely the point that I overtook them at about 120mph at 15,000 rpm that I realised I had been rumbled.................
always a opportunist, or is that optimist??Winning over mothers takes time.
First off, you have to upset them by getting the bike.
You upset them more by riding like a complete
for a couple of years.
Then, you tell her how you've got it out of your system, and from now on you'll probably stick to 120mph or so. She will then feel a lot better.
Honest worked for my old dear.
First off, you have to upset them by getting the bike.
You upset them more by riding like a complete
for a couple of years.Then, you tell her how you've got it out of your system, and from now on you'll probably stick to 120mph or so. She will then feel a lot better.
Honest worked for my old dear.
If you're still living at home then you'll get the most grief!!!!! I waited until I was 24 i.e. finished uni, got a good job and was renting my own house before I did my bike test. I then went and bought a brand new ZX6R in 1997.
My Mum wasn't happy but not much that could be done by then and basically came round to the idea
over ten years later there is no problem. As I live in London my bike's primary purpose for the last 8 years has been to get me to work without having to sit on a packed tube or sit in a traffic queue the family understand this.. despite three offs (all drivers fault) all minor during this period.
Another tip: Never ever discuss how you ride your bike or what speed you might have done on it EVER with your family. LOL
My Mum wasn't happy but not much that could be done by then and basically came round to the idea
over ten years later there is no problem. As I live in London my bike's primary purpose for the last 8 years has been to get me to work without having to sit on a packed tube or sit in a traffic queue the family understand this.. despite three offs (all drivers fault) all minor during this period.Another tip: Never ever discuss how you ride your bike or what speed you might have done on it EVER with your family. LOL
You're not alone. Told mine I was getting trained last week and although she pretended not to be phased, I could hear she was none too happy in her voice. I'm a lot older than you.
As said above, they never stop worrying. If it wasn't about this, it'd be something else.
I'd say go for it, but don't make your test training the last training you do. Regular refreshers can only be a good thing and *may* placate her by giving the impression you're taking safety seriously.
As said above, they never stop worrying. If it wasn't about this, it'd be something else.
I'd say go for it, but don't make your test training the last training you do. Regular refreshers can only be a good thing and *may* placate her by giving the impression you're taking safety seriously.
My Dad always had bikes when I was growing up and I said I'd like to have one and my mother said "over my dead body" which I thought was a little harsh!!
So I waited until I was 26 and settled then informed them I had booked my cbt, my Mum really didn't accept it at first and she said it made her feel sick!!
Luckily my Dad is a IAM observer so he has taken me out on my 125 and I'm just about to book my DAS. It's taken a while but my dad has reported back that I'm nmaking good progress and I'm safe so that has helped.
I think it just takes time!!! but you're not alone.
So I waited until I was 26 and settled then informed them I had booked my cbt, my Mum really didn't accept it at first and she said it made her feel sick!!
Luckily my Dad is a IAM observer so he has taken me out on my 125 and I'm just about to book my DAS. It's taken a while but my dad has reported back that I'm nmaking good progress and I'm safe so that has helped.
I think it just takes time!!! but you're not alone.
Vesuvius 996 said:
I didn't tell my folks I'd got a bike.
They came down to London to visit me and I hid it under a blanket.
While they were out in the hire car, I needed to drop some papers off on the other side of town, so I put my (unique)bike jacket on and headed off down the A13, safe in the knowledge that I'd be back at the house before they were.
It was at precisely the point that I overtook them at about 120mph at 15,000 rpm that I realised I had been rumbled.................
Quality... I bet that made for an intetresting conversation when you got home!!They came down to London to visit me and I hid it under a blanket.
While they were out in the hire car, I needed to drop some papers off on the other side of town, so I put my (unique)bike jacket on and headed off down the A13, safe in the knowledge that I'd be back at the house before they were.
It was at precisely the point that I overtook them at about 120mph at 15,000 rpm that I realised I had been rumbled.................
Rach81 said:
There are upsides to this worry thing, my parents are chipping in for my leathers and back protector for my birhtday, "You want me to be safe don't you Daddy?" 
Ha ha, I tried that but was told no. Unfortunately I managed to convince my mum that the windstopper jacket she just bought me from Hein Gericke was 'a walking jacket'. I actually felt a bit bad!!!
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