My Mate!

[gsfrontera]

There are a few of us that go biking on a regular basis. We went and did a 10 day tour of Europe last year and were out most weekends.

The problem starts here... One of my mates seems as though he has given up motorcycling. He still has his bike and I know he uses it now and again to take his bird out, but we just cant get him to play out with us. This has been going on since we got back from our Europe trip. Now none of us think we have said or done anything to offend him, we dont race off and leave him for dead, Why wont he come out?

An example. Today one of my other mates sent him a text to see if he was out sunday, and he replied no, as he was doing the house. A couple of weeks ago his dog had a cough, the week before Mavis next door had pidgeons in her attic. They are all just crap excuses.

Can anyone give me some idea what the problem might be. I dont believe he has just lost interest, as I find this impossible to believe as there is no way I could ever give my bike up.

Any ideas???

[dern]

Without wishing to appear rude... how the fk should we know? Why don't you ask him?

[IsMad]

She says no... and he is too embarrassed to tell his mates?? Ask him

[Pulse]

Touch his penis. See what he says.

Otherwise, I agree with Dern.

[gsfrontera]

dern said:

Without wishing to appear rude... how the fk should we know? Why don't you ask him?

We already have, he just says his house needs doing or comes up with an excuse. Just thought as a fellow motorcyclist you may know of some reason. Thanks for your help anyway.

[dern]

gsfrontera said:

dern said:

Without wishing to appear rude... how the fk should we know? Why don't you ask him?

We already have, he just says his house needs doing or comes up with an excuse. Just thought as a fellow motorcyclist you may know of some reason. Thanks for your help anyway.

Maybe his gran is ill and it's playing on his mind, maybe he has piles... etc. He might just not like you any more. Dunno. Hope this has helped.

[Pulse]

I suppose we could be nice, and suggest something that might entice him out on to his bike... But then, this is PH

[f13ldy]

IsMad said:

She says no... and he is too embarrassed to tell his mates?? Ask him

Is going to be the most likely reason.

Bird says no you're not going out with them as you'll ride like an idiot and hurt yourself...

The man, he say ok to her and passes you off for fear of reprisals.

Being a man he has swinging sack in between his legs filled with some mini eggs (or creme eggs if he's lucky). I suggest he feels these then executes a well aimed kicked to the rat of his Mrs, dons his leathers and heads out.

Unless she is like my Mrs, when he is just better staying at home and taking her out on the bike when she feels like it.

[dern]

Pulse said:

I suppose we could be nice, and suggest something that might entice him out on to his bike... But then, this is PH

Lol, so now as well as guessing what might be wrong we now have to guess what he likes and therefore what might entice him out without knowing anything about him. Ok my guesses would be pies, beer, chips and fruit pastels. If that doesn't work then I'm genuinely stumped

[lawrence567]

Theres one way to tell....
Go and see him and if he has a thumb print on his forehead you'll know the reason.

Is it just on the bikes or other times he never comes out?

[gsfrontera]

lawrence567 said:

Theres one way to tell....
Go and see him and if he has a thumb print on his forehead you'll know the reason.

Is it just on the bikes or other times he never comes out?

its all the time. his missus doesnt really appear to be like that though. its definately him making the decission not to come out.

[lawrence567]

It doesnt matter what his missus seems like.
She maybe nice to ur faces then tell him he's not allowed out.
He could always perform a swift backhand to her head that may sort the problem, but it may involve him losing his testicles.
He either doesnt like you guys anymore or he's not allowed out!

[black-k1]

Perhaps his misses has an “insatiable appetite” and he just doesn’t have the energy to come out to play!!!

[sprinter885]

Agony Aunt Denise Down says:

Hellooo Pet. What your "mate" could be suffering from may be one of many things:-
1)He might have changed his bike secretly to a Burgman & be too embarrassed to join you & your other pals on your sporty racy bikes.

2)He might have moved up-market after your little European tour to a Honda Gold Wing, joined the Wing Dings & be saving money to add more lights/chrome/stereo/intercom/extra padding for his seat. He will, of course, now look down on you (quite literally!)

3)Worse still he might have bought a Harley (ANY ONE-it doesn't matter which!) & suffer from same as in 1) above.

4) He might have caught a nasty disease while over on t'Continong in a quiet few minutes with a little European tartyoung lady & G/friend therefore prohibits him from joining you "bad influence chaps" & insists that he takes her out on his bike as her compensation for the embarrassment it causes.
5)..and finally, he might not just stand the sight of you for a number of reasons after Europe. Did one of you, for example, try playing Hide The Sausage while he was asleep, always scrounge fags off him or the final afront nick his Beer.?

As always with such delicate matters the answer Pet, is to talk things through.
Best Wishes Auntie Denise

p.s. be prepared for him to tell you he thinks you might be a kno8 for writing to me but I'll speak for you

Edited by sprinter885 on Thursday 17th July 14:50

[lawrence567]

Or even worse he might have bought a BMW bike!

[DR B]

I reckon her in doors has probably told him... "you've just had 10 ruddy days out on your bike with yer mates, so you can spend some time at home doing stuff with me!"

Suggest a nice early sunday morning ride, nothing major, just to the local biker haunt for some breakfast. Can be back home by 10am to do the DIY or whatever. If he says "no", then it's the missus!

Maybe she's preggers? It all changes when that happens!

Edited by DR B on Thursday 17th July 15:52

[Chilli]

Someone's P!ssed him off, and he doesn't wanna talk about it. He's gone into hiding. Forget him, move on to new mates who enjoy living on the edge....not wrapped in cotton wool.

Actually, I don't really know.

[dern]

Chilli said:

Someone's P!ssed him off, and he doesn't wanna talk about it. He's gone into hiding. Forget him, move on to new mates who enjoy living on the edge....not wrapped in cotton wool.

Actually, I don't really know.

[shot2bits]

Confidence, doesn't enjoy riding because he cannot ride as well as you guys so his heart is in his mouth all of the time. That's it for sure, most people pass their test and then - if you ride to tour then chances are you'll stay happy. If you ride to hoon then the first few months are all new and fun.. but then you want to go faster and cannot get the bike to corner any faster than your diesel saloon car. You run wide or you just run slow - either way the fun isn't there.

I have a mate who is similar - used to ride swiftly and has now lost his confidence for one reason or another. He had a slow off the other month which made him realise the bike "can" loose traction. So the texts have slowed from "lets get out as much as possible" to "lets ride a few times each month".

I followed him the other week through a set of twisty corners - he wasn't sure of himself at all. If I'd asked him how much fun he'd just had he'd say it wasn't for sure..

Your mate will probably stop (sounds like he already has) if he doesn't start having fun.

[IainT]

gsfrontera said:

lawrence567 said:

Theres one way to tell....
Go and see him and if he has a thumb print on his forehead you'll know the reason.

Is it just on the bikes or other times he never comes out?

its all the time. his missus doesnt really appear to be like that though. its definately him making the decission not to come out.

He's probably off round to your house as soon as you're off out...