How to get over a broken heart

[VTECBOY]

The initial message was deleted from this topic on 27 March 2013 at 07:37

[Dan_1981]

Not sure how this thread will go for you......


But to be contructive, move out of her house, move back with your folks or a mate or something.

Forget about her. Move on.

Plenty more fish in the sea.

You're still young go and have some fun.

[VTECBOY]

A lot of people have said that to me but it is so hard. Especially the way she did it to me just can't stop the Hurt

[didelydoo]

Sounds like it's time to cut ties with her. It's going to hurt for a long time most likely, but things work out in the end, and these things usually happen for the best.. Chin up though

[Silent1]

You're either young or this is your first proper girlfriend, basically, st happens getting back with her means shell do it over and over so just move on, life will be better that way.

[VTECBOY]

Easier said then done though isn't it. Sounds silly but feel like just popping my clogs

[Mobile Chicane]

I've been chucked more times than a dog's ball, and after a while you realise that no, the sky won't fall in, even though it doesn't seem that way at the time.

Chin up, matey.

Go out with the lads and get hammered, or borrow a dog for the afternoon and give it a really long walk.

[MitchT]

I read the first paragraph and thought you're heartbroken over how she's treated your car, right? Seriously - she sounds like a mental bh. You're probably too young to appreciate it now but you're well out of that one.

[MentalSarcasm]

MitchT said:

I read the first paragraph and thought you're heartbroken over how she's treated your car, right? Seriously - she sounds like a mental bh. You're probably too young to appreciate it now but you're well out of that one.

Beaten to it. You said she's hit you so hard that she's left bruises, and then when you try to get away from the situation she follows you, and then attacks your car because you won't get out of it.

She is absolutely batst crazy. Being bullied at school is no excuse for behaving like an unhinged, spoilt brat.

You are a million times better off without her. Get whatever of your stuff is left, and move in with friends or family this afternoon, and get on with your life.

However, if you are determined to "win her back", then the best thing you can do is stop texting her. Right now she's loving the attention, not only is this other bloke making her feel wanted but you're practically crawling on her knees begging her to get back together with you. Do yourself a favour and switch off your phone, and go do something else for the rest of the day. Switch it back on in the morning, and then if she texts you during the day, just leave it. She'll start to wonder why you've stopped texting her and then, shock horror, she'll begin to think that she's not the center of your world any more and then she'll be begging you to get back together with her.

At which point you laugh at her and tell her you've shagged three women in two days and wouldn't get back together with her even if she paid you.

[VTECBOY]

Thank you for the kind replies. It's making me feel better I suppose I just need support. It's just I had everything there and I loved at her house. Her house is in edinburgh and mine I'd in Dundee so a world of difference. So now I have realised that I should maybe get over her what's the best ways to do this? I have been texting her non stop today and she just ignores me so il stop that just now. What else to do ?

[Dan_1981]

Get a few mates together go out, get rat arsed and maybe get lucky.

[Gwagon111]

Chin up chap. She sounds like a proper mad'un, and you're better of without it. Go get a pot noodle, and a fast Internet connection, you'll be back on it before you know.

[SMGB]

Can I just pass on some advice I got from an uncle of mine when I was about your age. Never run after a bus or a woman, they'll be another along in a minute.
Yes it hurts, in a months time you will look back on this and think fk me that was a lucky escape.

[oldbanger]

MentalSarcasm has written post of the day IMHO. Please heed the very good advice. It sounds like you've had a very lucky escape!

What to do next? Whatever you like.

Was there anything she didn't like you doing? Whatever it was (and I'm sure there was something, from the mundane to the ridiculous), do it and remind yourself what you'd missed whilst with the mad bint.

Other than that, go out on the pull, find yourself somewhere nice to live (or move back with your parents if the distance is do-able - do you work?), and look to do things that improve your life and improve your confidence - new job? new qualification? new hobby/interest? voluntary work? The world's your oyster without that spoilt brat dragging you down.

[AJS-]

The ariel shouldn't be a problem. Scrappy for the door handle. Unless it's something ultra rare and exotic you'll probably have change out of £50.

The paint damage from the wheelie bin is a bit more worrying as paint work can be expensive and it never really looks the same again. Even if the casual observer wouldn't notice it, to you it will always be there sticking out like a sore thumb. Time will heal it somewhat but the pain will always be with you.

[King Herald]

This is a joke, isn't it? Is April 1st any time soon?

Nobody, NOBODY, takes this st from a female.

If you are taking it then you need to seek help, psychiatric help to get you over your Losers Syndrome.

I assume you are but 17, as you say you have a job, and car, but you sound more like a pussy-whipped 14 year old.

Seriously, grow a pair and get the fk out of there!!!!!!

PS. What is your Facebook name, so I can go and see all the crap and turgid drama that is undoubtedly posted on it?

Edited by King Herald on Sunday 28th October 15:33

[jackh707]

If a girl left bruises on me, and emptied a wheelie bin on my car, I'd turn around and never see them again.

You should be happy in a relationship, not paranoid.

Move on, delete number and forget.

[BlackVanDyke]

You can't even start healing until you're far enough away for her not to be able to hurt you any more.

So.

Step 1: get well clear. Properly, permanently.

Everything will follow from there.

[Flibble]

If you can get out of town for a week or so - go visit your parents, stay with a pal that lives a good distance away. Turn off your phone or ignore her texts/calls. You need to get some distance to get a bit of perspective on this, you're too close now.

[Happy82]

Snacking on your car and throwing wheelie bins?She sounds like Godzilla

Be thankful she has given you a way out before you made the mistake of getting her pregnant, she sounds like the dictionary definition of the mental.

It will be hard to cope with for a few weeks, but you will look back and think "thank god she left me". Looking from the outside on your former relationship, would you think it acceptable for her to act the way she did? What advice would you offer to a friend if a violent woman had left him under similar circumstances?

Move on to better things is my advice, remove her from social networking sites and get a new mobile number so he cannot fk you about keep your chin up, we've all gone through a breakup and thought it was the end of the world so you are not lone, and in years you will be offering the same advice I just did to someone coming out of a young relationship