Learning to work with passive aggressives

[pboyd]

Change job

[oldbanger]

Not yet but thanks, it's an option

Edited by oldbanger on Saturday 13th April 00:25

[elanfan]

Time for another word with the boss and the suggestion that you be promoted above this person. Then you can call a performance management meeting and deal with the issue.

if you suggest to the boss that you will sort their issue with the person out too surely its a win win!

[anonymous-user]

If they are constantly blocking things without justification, then just send out an email saying I wil be doing x by y unless I receive any objections, this will either force them to move out of their passive state and produce valid reasons to delay you, or more likely allow you to get on with your job.

[SkyUK]

I'd suggest confirm in writing to them what they need to do and by when; touch base regularly to track how it is progressing, and escalate any delivery concerns to your manager. The trouble person cannot argue they didn't know, your manager cannot argue you didn't raise it, you are in the clear. I do it every day, its called project management, its a bit more complicated than that but the essence is there

[mondeoman]

SkyUK said:

I'd suggest confirm in writing to them what they need to do and by when; touch base regularly to track how it is progressing, and escalate any delivery concerns to your manager. The trouble person cannot argue they didn't know, your manager cannot argue you didn't raise it, you are in the clear. I do it every day, its called project management, its a bit more complicated than that but the essence is there

^^^^ This - take their power away.
Document EVERY communication you have with them that requires them to do something. Copy your boss in on EVERY email where they are required to do something. Not BCC, straight CC. Give them no-where to hide.

[Sir Fergie]

Well old banger - i really wish you the very best of luck in getting this sorted.

Would have thought that for your manager - this would be a performance issue as its affecting the performance of the team and hindering work potentially.

Start keeping records of all communication and all noteable and relevent incidents as they occour - that way you can clearly outline what youve done and said - and what action youve taken.

The emailing is handy for this as you have an electronic record of what you said in the email - and any replies you get from the other manager. Copying in the boss into emails you send - means the boss has a record as well as to whats happening - thus meaning he has evidence to take matters further should it be deemed a performance issue with the other manager

Should help you defend your corner should things go pearshaped.

Best of luck

Sir Fergie

[mph1977]

Bluequay said:

If they are constantly blocking things without justification, then just send out an email saying I wil be doing x by y unless I receive any objections, this will either force them to move out of their passive state and produce valid reasons to delay you, or more likely allow you to get on with your job.

Quite an effective way of bringing things to a head ... sometimes it;s the only way to move that impasse

[oldbanger]

Thanks for the replies. Plenty of food for thought.