Getting a child to sleep all night?
Discussion
How do you do it? Ours is 7 months and goes to bed by 10pm, but he then wakes hourly from about 1am. you have to stick his dummy back in or give him a bit of juice and he goes back to sleep, but then wakes another hour or so later. Rinse and repeat.
What are we doing wrong? this has been going on for a few months. Before that he would sleep for 4hrs, have a bottle and then sleep for another 4hrs.
What are we doing wrong? this has been going on for a few months. Before that he would sleep for 4hrs, have a bottle and then sleep for another 4hrs.
I think its dead normal. I remember mine doing the same. It may well be a little growth spurt.
To help with the dummy business, we used to tie one to a muslin, that way if it fell out he could find it easily enough himself.
Im sure as soon as you figure out why he is waking, he'll have stopped.
To help with the dummy business, we used to tie one to a muslin, that way if it fell out he could find it easily enough himself.
Im sure as soon as you figure out why he is waking, he'll have stopped.
Do they cry or are you going in when you hear them? If they don't cry just let them settle without going in, if you go in it sets a routine that they will get used to. If they cry is it a whinge or a scream? If its a whinge it's just baby grumbles, if its a scream then they may be hungry. Ignoring the grumbles and whinges isn't bad parenting, just letting them learn to settle.
You might just have to wait it out. We dropped our son's 2am feed as he was waking out of habit and it took about 3 nights to get him out of that one. He then continued to have a feed about 11pm until last week when he decided he didn't want it.
He is now doing 7pm to around 6am. Why does he go to bed so late? Do you mean he has a last feed at 10pm... Seb starts his bedtime at about half 6.
He is now doing 7pm to around 6am. Why does he go to bed so late? Do you mean he has a last feed at 10pm... Seb starts his bedtime at about half 6.
Fozziebear said:
........ If they don't cry just let them settle without going in, if you go in it sets a routine that they will get used to. ................ Ignoring the grumbles and whinges isn't bad parenting, just letting them learn to settle.
totally agreeharry010 said:
You might just have to wait it out. We dropped our son's 2am feed as he was waking out of habit and it took about 3 nights to get him out of that one. He then continued to have a feed about 11pm until last week when he decided he didn't want it.
He is now doing 7pm to around 6am. Why does he go to bed so late? Do you mean he has a last feed at 10pm... Seb starts his bedtime at about half 6.
Not that I drop these two words lightly...but Gina Ford has a quickly adopted routine of bed at 7pm for small babies. We didn't do the GF (blaspheme again!) thing strictly, but I do think there is about 90% good sense in what she says. Just don't try and do 100% of what she says.He is now doing 7pm to around 6am. Why does he go to bed so late? Do you mean he has a last feed at 10pm... Seb starts his bedtime at about half 6.
William
-total expert based on one well-sleeping 21 month old
Bloody hell it seems I'm one of those lucky ones who has never had problems with little one sleeping since 8 wks old.
I started back to work as a childminder and never did a routine with sleeping. If she got tired the thumb when into mouth and she slept, only time she went down was 7pm and she would wake when I woke at 6.
She never had set sleeping times as I was working with other children and I feel that might have something to do with it. I think the kids running about kept her occupied so by the time night came she was cream crackered.
Some children I have worked with had strict sleeping times (before my little one arrived) and I found they were terrible sleepers for their parents.
I started back to work as a childminder and never did a routine with sleeping. If she got tired the thumb when into mouth and she slept, only time she went down was 7pm and she would wake when I woke at 6.
She never had set sleeping times as I was working with other children and I feel that might have something to do with it. I think the kids running about kept her occupied so by the time night came she was cream crackered.
Some children I have worked with had strict sleeping times (before my little one arrived) and I found they were terrible sleepers for their parents.
ascayman said:
Sounds like he's waking because he's lost his dummy.
I don’t understand why people use dummies they create more problems than they solve.
My advice, ditch the dummy.
Good advice.... Can I also suggest if you keep dummy you never... Ever...ever buy one of these fI don’t understand why people use dummies they create more problems than they solve.
My advice, ditch the dummy.
king things!!!!
I know of a child who used one because he kept spitting his dummy out, so my friend bought one of these things and attached 4.... YES 4 glow in the dark dummies to it to save her getting up to give him dummy back. Once he reached 2 1/2 I had to have words, as his speech and teeth were affected. My friend informed me they were ortho dummies so ok for him, not once did she think of the weight of a bloody toy with dummies attached hanging from his mouth. Poor kids teeth and gaped and pointed and I'm sure that thing has not helped!
ascayman said:
Sounds like he's waking because he's lost his dummy.
I don’t understand why people use dummies they create more problems than they solve.
My advice, ditch the dummy.
Agreed. We've avoided dummies with our 5 month old for this reason. She's learnt to comfort herself with a little thumb suck if needed.I don’t understand why people use dummies they create more problems than they solve.
My advice, ditch the dummy.
It's tough but try not to pick them up too 'willingly'. Patting them whilst in crib is much better, with gentle shushes. They'd much rather have a cuddle and soon learn that crying gets them picked up.
We had a tough time for a while but a strict routine of bath, bottle bed is starting to pay off. She's put to bed at 19:00 and wakes around 1:00 for a feed, then through to 5:30ish.
We also found baby slept a lot better once in her own room.
Firstly you need to accept that there is nothing wrong with him when he cries, he isn't ill, hungry or anything else. What he NEEDS is to sleep, but what happening is you are making yourself feel better by going to him.
Tonight, no dummies, no drinks, nothing, put him to sleep, and the first time he cries you wait fifteen minutes. If he's still
Crying go in, lie him down and stroke his tummy briefly. Don't talk to him.
If he starts crying again go to twent minutes.
By the time we got to thirty minutes of waiting out our daughter she started sleeping, the next night there was one episode, no at ten months she sleeps through from seven to seven with no problems. If she wakes up its briefly,and the goes straight to sleep, or if there's something really wrong, about once per month then well go in.
Waiting out a screaming baby is incredibly hard ESPECIALLY for mummy, so you have to agree beforehand, and set yourself a target.
There is never a need fir a dummy, it just covers up a problem that hasn't been dealt with
Tonight, no dummies, no drinks, nothing, put him to sleep, and the first time he cries you wait fifteen minutes. If he's still
Crying go in, lie him down and stroke his tummy briefly. Don't talk to him.
If he starts crying again go to twent minutes.
By the time we got to thirty minutes of waiting out our daughter she started sleeping, the next night there was one episode, no at ten months she sleeps through from seven to seven with no problems. If she wakes up its briefly,and the goes straight to sleep, or if there's something really wrong, about once per month then well go in.
Waiting out a screaming baby is incredibly hard ESPECIALLY for mummy, so you have to agree beforehand, and set yourself a target.
There is never a need fir a dummy, it just covers up a problem that hasn't been dealt with
Our two, now 4 and 20 months had the same routine.
Bath
Booby
Bed
They have both slept brilliantly from about 2-3 months old, down at 7pm up at 7am. That is a feckin result in my book!
Number 3 on the way in October, a boy this time so interesting to see if he's a tt compared to the 2 girls.
Gng in when he wakes and giving him juice seems counter productive, I'm assuming your not giving him coca cola or fruits shoots but it might be giving him a sugar hit maybe? If you have to give him anything try a bit of warm full fat cows milk?
Bath
Booby
Bed
They have both slept brilliantly from about 2-3 months old, down at 7pm up at 7am. That is a feckin result in my book!
Number 3 on the way in October, a boy this time so interesting to see if he's a t
t compared to the 2 girls.Gng in when he wakes and giving him juice seems counter productive, I'm assuming your not giving him coca cola or fruits shoots but it might be giving him a sugar hit maybe? If you have to give him anything try a bit of warm full fat cows milk?
Gassing Station | Health Matters | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff