This job is wrecking me.
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wildcat45

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8,159 posts

218 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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ikarl

4,048 posts

228 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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You're letting yourself and your wife down by the sounds of it.

Hand in your notice (whatever you have to give) and don't look back. Don't accept any offers to talk about your role, just leave

simon1987

401 posts

164 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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take me on as an apprentice for a week then leave

nadger

1,413 posts

169 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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Do you work to live or live to work? Personally I'd be saying goodbye to this job if it were making me unhappy.
Hope that's of some use?!

Stuart70

4,162 posts

212 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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Your life, your choices.
Sounds like you have the luxury of options from a financial point of view

Not sure why you are putting a contracting role ahead of your personal goals and your family?
Why MTFU for a role which is not taking you on a journey you wish to go on?
Just to prove that you can? I think you know you can do it, not sure why you ARE doing it?

Hopefully helpful...

Honk

2,005 posts

232 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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ikarl said:
You're letting yourself and your wife down by the sounds of it.

Hand in your notice (whatever you have to give) and don't look back. Don't accept any offers to talk about your role, just leave
Agree

Amused2death

2,525 posts

225 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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No brainer to me, you're only in this world once.

Get out before it takes you out.

wildcat45

Original Poster:

8,159 posts

218 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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Cheers, the sort of stuff I am looking to hear.

Sticking with things to the bitter end is one of my bad and good points. My wife, and my oldest mate both tell me my loyalty is one of my best traits. Sometimes though it is misplaced.


gwm

2,390 posts

173 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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You are working a job that you don't need to, that would fire you in a heartbeat if they wanted to; and is ruining your personal life?

You mad or just mental?!

omgus

7,305 posts

204 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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You don't love this job and you are in a position where you can go and start working for yourself in an area you sound more enthusiastic about.

You know what you need to do, MTFU and do it.

Murderlamb

1,171 posts

203 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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My take on this is that your being there is delaying the inevitable. A plaster over a gaping wound. As you sound as though you are integral to the running of the company, yet the company is still circling the drain, if you removed yourself from the equation the company would go down the stter that bit quicker. If I was you, with no debt etc and not requiring the income, I would leave. You would probably be doing everyone there a favour in the long run, they can put the company to rest and everyone can find new jobs, maybe ones which are better for them.
Your new company interests that you have on the back burner, would there be any opportunities for any of the staff of the company? If so, you could look at taking them on, that could ease your conscience if you feel bad about people losing jobs.

eldar

25,259 posts

225 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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wildcat45 said:
Cheers, the sort of stuff I am looking to hear.

Sticking with things to the bitter end is one of my bad and good points. My wife, and my oldest mate both tell me my loyalty is one of my best traits. Sometimes though it is misplaced.
It is a simple decision. Your family come first.

Sid's Dad

576 posts

170 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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Quitting this job is the easy bit. The harder bit is deciding what to do after that:

I'm interested to know why you went back in the first place? Was it possibly because the life of a non-salaried self employed entrepreneur was just a bit too unstable and insecure, even though it looked tempting from a distance?

I suspect that if being independent was as great as you'd hoped, you'd have said "thanks, but no thanks" when they called you. And that whatever it is that's keeping you there, it isn't 'loyalty'.

Or maybe the siren call of being needed and wanted was irresistible? Especially if it caught you on a day when you were feeling a bit vulnerable?

Work out the answer to that, and you'll know what to do next. Good luck!

Terminator X

20,512 posts

233 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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No brainer, leave. Life is way too short to suffer ste like that.

TX.

longshot

3,286 posts

227 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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Why are you there?
You don't want the hassle, you don't need the money.
It sounds like you are there for other people.
Leave.

Jasandjules

72,580 posts

258 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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eldar said:
It is a simple decision. Your family come first.
Bingo.

EVEN if you would have a bit of hardship i.e. money problems it would be better to leave this place.

In your position however it seems like a bit of a no-brainer - notice in. Get on with your life.

Work to live, do not live to work.

simonrockman

7,119 posts

284 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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Find someone to replace you and then move on.

Birdster

2,548 posts

172 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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How about set yourself a goal and stick to it. So either a time frame, or turning the company around. So either at a fixed period you leave, or you can't do what you'd like to do in a six month period and leave. That way you can say that you've tried and you pocket some extra cash and can get through the job knowing your leave date.

hidetheelephants

35,738 posts

222 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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Murderlamb said:
My take on this is that your being there is delaying the inevitable. A plaster over a gaping wound. As you sound as though you are integral to the running of the company, yet the company is still circling the drain, if you removed yourself from the equation the company would go down the stter that bit quicker. If I was you, with no debt etc and not requiring the income, I would leave. You would probably be doing everyone there a favour in the long run, they can put the company to rest and everyone can find new jobs, maybe ones which are better for them.
Your new company interests that you have on the back burner, would there be any opportunities for any of the staff of the company? If so, you could look at taking them on, that could ease your conscience if you feel bad about people losing jobs.
Alternatively look at it from another direction; the business is going down the tubes and you know it inside out; do you know enough about it/have enough confidence in the business case to turn it around yourself, i.e. buy it either now or after the administrator comes in? Being your own boss might be a better motivator, although the hours are likely to be even longer!

UncappedTag

2,102 posts

214 months

Saturday 5th October 2013
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What is 9-5!! I'm in the wrong job.