Does your wife/ girlfriend/ partner......
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.....drive your car?
We have two cars, we drive both. My missus just cannot look after them. Issues:
Wheels - kerbed at any given opportunity. Especially likes to kerb large expensive diamond cut ones. Her favourite.
Interior - debris always left, tissues, food wrappers, child paraphernalia. Very heavy handed with controls, fingernails scratch trim, makeup on visor etc.
Paintwork - scratches all over the place, fingernails under the door handles, seems to miss the filler with the fuel pump nozzle and t
t the car, handbag dragged down the side, items seemingly lobbed in the boot from a great distance resulting in deep gouges in whatever that flat bit is called below where the boot shuts.
Am I alone? I guess my saving grace is she is actually a good driver, keeps a distance, drives to the conditions etc. and she doesn't physically crash into things.
I am massively precious with cars.... If I raise it I'm in the bad books. How do you guys deal with it? Whoever thought "1 lady owner" was a positive thing to say about a car for sale!
We have two cars, we drive both. My missus just cannot look after them. Issues:
Wheels - kerbed at any given opportunity. Especially likes to kerb large expensive diamond cut ones. Her favourite.
Interior - debris always left, tissues, food wrappers, child paraphernalia. Very heavy handed with controls, fingernails scratch trim, makeup on visor etc.
Paintwork - scratches all over the place, fingernails under the door handles, seems to miss the filler with the fuel pump nozzle and t
t the car, handbag dragged down the side, items seemingly lobbed in the boot from a great distance resulting in deep gouges in whatever that flat bit is called below where the boot shuts.Am I alone? I guess my saving grace is she is actually a good driver, keeps a distance, drives to the conditions etc. and she doesn't physically crash into things.
I am massively precious with cars.... If I raise it I'm in the bad books. How do you guys deal with it? Whoever thought "1 lady owner" was a positive thing to say about a car for sale!
Yes she does.
And she treats them very well.
I'm not sure what you want to hear?
Do you want an agony aunt reply about chatting about your feelings to her; or an Aussie Bloke reply about "ditch the Shelia and get a proper car loving bird".
In brief - talk to her.
Eirherxshe needs to take better care of the cars, or you need to STOL caring.
Otherwise you have a lifetime of arguing to look forward to.
And she treats them very well.
I'm not sure what you want to hear?
Do you want an agony aunt reply about chatting about your feelings to her; or an Aussie Bloke reply about "ditch the Shelia and get a proper car loving bird".
In brief - talk to her.
Eirherxshe needs to take better care of the cars, or you need to STOL caring.
Otherwise you have a lifetime of arguing to look forward to.
My wife takes very good care of our cars. They do accumulate child-associated stuff but it's nothing that doesn't tidy/clean out very easily. Nothing gets damaged.
OP either talk to your wife or start depriving her and the family of lots of money getting the cars repaired every time she damages them if you're that precious and she's got such little regard for your joint property. She'll either get the message to stop treating the cars like scrap or you'll realise you're not that precious.
OP either talk to your wife or start depriving her and the family of lots of money getting the cars repaired every time she damages them if you're that precious and she's got such little regard for your joint property. She'll either get the message to stop treating the cars like scrap or you'll realise you're not that precious.
Yep, she has driven all my cars. Very well in fact.
Since realizing I was a petrol head soon after we got together, she has thrown herself (mostly willingly) into that kind of world and now enjoys it.
Having dropped me off yesterday I got a text later on commenting on how well the car now stops and handles since I upgraded the brakes and a few suspension mods.....she didn't know about the suspension mods; that impressed me the most, that she picked up on that!
It's also quite fun seeing the look of surprise when a boy racer turns up expecting to see a bloke sitting in the seat and it turns out to be my 5ft nothing missus.....and then when she burns off too!
That's how I know I'm marrying the right girl!
Since realizing I was a petrol head soon after we got together, she has thrown herself (mostly willingly) into that kind of world and now enjoys it.
Having dropped me off yesterday I got a text later on commenting on how well the car now stops and handles since I upgraded the brakes and a few suspension mods.....she didn't know about the suspension mods; that impressed me the most, that she picked up on that!
It's also quite fun seeing the look of surprise when a boy racer turns up expecting to see a bloke sitting in the seat and it turns out to be my 5ft nothing missus.....and then when she burns off too!
That's how I know I'm marrying the right girl!
You are not alone.
I've taken on her old E90 and she uses a new F30.
A year on the E90 is slowly getting back to normal.
I've replaced the broken ashtay lid from where she let the kids stuff coins down the back.
Refurbed the wheels.
Had a couple of bits of PDR carried out
Had the various oil leaks sorted out and generally cleaned it up so it looks very nice.
The F30 on the other hand gets progressively worse.
The general response is that it is the kids doing it. Everywhere I look there is an item of clothing, crumbs and food wrappers, the boot is full of crap and it stinks of washing power because she buys 2-3 large boxes as they're on offer, takes one out and drives around with the others in the boot for a few days until i bother doing it.
I can't abide a dirty interior. I don't use her car and she is not allowed to use mine !
I've taken on her old E90 and she uses a new F30.
A year on the E90 is slowly getting back to normal.
I've replaced the broken ashtay lid from where she let the kids stuff coins down the back.
Refurbed the wheels.
Had a couple of bits of PDR carried out
Had the various oil leaks sorted out and generally cleaned it up so it looks very nice.
The F30 on the other hand gets progressively worse.
The general response is that it is the kids doing it. Everywhere I look there is an item of clothing, crumbs and food wrappers, the boot is full of crap and it stinks of washing power because she buys 2-3 large boxes as they're on offer, takes one out and drives around with the others in the boot for a few days until i bother doing it.
I can't abide a dirty interior. I don't use her car and she is not allowed to use mine !
Highway Star said:
Sounds like she doesn't give a sh*t about your family's stuff 
My other half always takes care of her car and mine if she's driving it, not because of anything I've ever said to her about it, but because she values them as she does with any other of our possessions.
This.My other half always takes care of her car and mine if she's driving it, not because of anything I've ever said to her about it, but because she values them as she does with any other of our possessions.
If neither partner cares about their cars that's one thing, but if one does care and the other trashes them anyway then they should just get divorced now because the latter partner does not respect the former and considers their particular interests/needs/characteristics unimportant. That to me sounds like the ideal basis for an overall unhappy marriage since if your spouse disregards your need to keep your cars in good order then what else does he or she regard your views as irrelevant in? That's a bad, bad place to be in IMHO.
- OR the 'precious' one really isn't that bothered afterall.
No, but that's due to lack of exprience with a manual. I'm trying to get her behind the wheel and get her revising her gear-shifting skills, but we dont have much time and its suprising how quickly car parks become full on an early sunday morning.
That being said, the way she drives her car, I'd be more than happy to trust her with my car. Hell, I'd let her ride my motorcycle if she had a lisence.
note: I dont really like anyone touching my stuff. And she is very fussy about who uses her car.
That being said, the way she drives her car, I'd be more than happy to trust her with my car. Hell, I'd let her ride my motorcycle if she had a lisence.
note: I dont really like anyone touching my stuff. And she is very fussy about who uses her car.
Wife adores her twin turbo SAAB estate as it is ideal for ferrying around our little rugrat. She has stated numerous times "if you sell my car I will leave you" LOL.
She hates driving the M3. Utterly hates it, but I think that is due to her being scared of pranging it and me flipping my lid.
I think she has driven it once in 6 months of ownership.
She hates driving the M3. Utterly hates it, but I think that is due to her being scared of pranging it and me flipping my lid.
I think she has driven it once in 6 months of ownership.
Totally with you OP.
While my wife was not working and bringing up the kids i bought her an Edition 30 to ferry them about in. Of course the plan was that I had it at the weekends as it was a car I had always wanted. Lovely car but I was too precious about it and of course it went from being totally mint to 4 wheels kerbed, dings, scratches, stains etc.
Lesson learned so I sold that ( that was tough ) and bought her the car she wanted, a mini which she loves. Now she cleans it and looks after it and 1 year in it still looks mint.
She is never going to be a petrol head but now she has a car she wants, she is happy and I can relax and carry on being anal about just 1 car, mine.
While my wife was not working and bringing up the kids i bought her an Edition 30 to ferry them about in. Of course the plan was that I had it at the weekends as it was a car I had always wanted. Lovely car but I was too precious about it and of course it went from being totally mint to 4 wheels kerbed, dings, scratches, stains etc.
Lesson learned so I sold that ( that was tough ) and bought her the car she wanted, a mini which she loves. Now she cleans it and looks after it and 1 year in it still looks mint.
She is never going to be a petrol head but now she has a car she wants, she is happy and I can relax and carry on being anal about just 1 car, mine.
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