People who are in denial

[anonymous-user]

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[sunnygym]

Some people are just s.

But I believe what goes around comes around.

[Axionknight]

The truth hurts - tell so many lies you start believing them yourself and all of a sudden you feel better about yourself.

[Steamer]

anonymous said:

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I do think that if she has been like that for a long enough period of time then she will have mentally conditioned herself to believe she has done nothing wrong. (In the same way the bullstters believe thier own lies)

Plus - if she really is as nasty as you say, then there is good chance she more mental issues anyway.

[STW2010]

anonymous said:

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Why didn't you set her straight? It's a shame this bloke didn't name her in his resignation.

I had one line manager once who thought that she was some sort of managerial hotshot, whereas she was st. When she recruited me the job was quite technical and senior, whereas her style of managing really just needed a brainless 'yes' person (more like a gopher). I largely did what I was asked to do, but I would ask questions (trying to learn rather than being difficult) but she would normally snap back 'just do it as I've asked you'.

She was useless. Loads of things failed to get done and she would blame me, but I wasn't even aware of these things as she wouldn't pass messages down the chain. Once she asked me to meet with a member of another team and provide him with X, Y and Z. I did exactly that plus gave him further information he asked for during the meeting. Then all of a sudden I received a phone call shouting at me because I hadn't read her mind and given him some completely different information.

Most of the people in our team couldn't stand her, but for some reason her line manager loved her (I can't imagine he was shagging her though, as she was fking rough). So she had this 'protection'. Then he left, and a month or so later she followed him to the new company. That then happened again 6 months later!

I still see her posting those stupid inspirational messages on LinkedIn. If she wasn't in such denial then she might actually take those messages on herself.

[mustdash]

Had a manager once exactly like this. They can be summed up in one word - BULLY.

My ex-manager expected me to be on call 24/7 (even on annual leave / if I was off sick etc). When I stopped answering her calls on my personal mobile she queried it - I came up with some excuse about how I didn't always have my mobile on me. She then promptly arranged a works mobile phone with the instructions to have it on 24/7. She also wanted all her staff to be 'yes men' - unfortunately I am not like that, more so as I was the only person in the organisation who fully understood the workings of the department / legal issues surrounding it. She didn't like it when I wouldn't cut corners / do things that would potentially get the organisation in to a lot of trouble. I was also expected to be a mind reader, information wasn't passed to me, she started getting members of staff who I was direct line manager to, to do stuff without her telling me...... (before anyone says - "you must've been crap at your job" - when I started the dept was close to being closed down - within 18 months I had managed to turn it round and get a nationally recognised award)

I ended up having 5 weeks off work with work related stress (signed off by my GP after breaking down in the surgery and balling my eyes out for well over 20 mins) due to her actions. Upon my return she referred to my time off as my 'holiday' - not once, but several times, in meetings with me and others (team meetings, meetings with HR etc). I raised a grievance that went nowhere. Other people raised grievances against her - they also went nowhere, as HR were spineless and had no clue.

In the end the chance for voluntary redundancy came up, with a generous package, so I snapped their hand off for it. The prospect of not being able to find a new job (at the height of the recession) didn't fill me with nearly as much dread as spending any more time being treated like crap by her!

[Johnnytheboy]

I had one particularly mental boss.

She gave me a phone that I had to have on all the time on the company's phone contract, which transpired to have zero reception in my village.

[cossy400]

Sadly its all to common now days.

We have a chap at work an we call him the son the boss never had.

He knows this and thinks that he can just abuse who he likes.

Well this week whilst ive been off ive heard hes bitten off more than he can chew with someone and they ge raised a grievance , which is not bein ignored.

It ll come round eventually its just a waiting game.

Sadly thou its only certain people he ll abuse, I and others jyst tell him to get fked

[Antony Moxey]

Coincidence that these people all seem to be women?

[CharlieCrocodile]

I'm noticing that all the stories above have female managers in them. hmmmmm

[Blib]

My friends husband had a meteoric rise in his career in the late 80s. This sudden success turned him into a terribly aggressive bully who was horrible to anyone who worked for him. Unfortunately for him his fall was just as rapid as his rise and I well remember the people that he abused on his way up relished the kicking they gave him on his way back down again.

On a brighter note, the day he got his brand-new 964 for which he paid £5k over the odds to jump the waiting list, he threw me the keys and told me to take her for a spin. Nice man.

[STW2010]

Antony Moxey said:

Coincidence that these people all seem to be women?

I can give several examples from my current place, none of which are female. Mostly just people who think they are miles better than they actually are.

[andy-xr]

Antony Moxey said:

Coincidence that these people all seem to be women?

Coincidence that all seem to be workplace is probably more like it.

People rise to their level of incompetence and usually those who know deep down that they could get found out tend to spend more time behaving like aholes, putting on a front that they know what they're doing when they're completely lost and have no idea what to do, and spending more time reacting to things than anything productive.

I mentioned it on another thread, but in job interviews, after having a series of st bosses I'm now as much interviewing them and gauging what sort of person they are as they're doing to me. I think if you're going to spend 40 hours a week somewhere that's usually more time than you spend at home or with friends, family and loved ones. You make decisions on them as people you want in your life, workplace is no different to me. I'd happily knock back a job if it meant I didnt have to work with someone or more, for someone who's hellbent on pushing the mental on to everyone else.

An old boss, Kevin, really couldnt put a sentence together without some management bullst and a dig at someone. Really bad negative attitude, thought he deserved to be a high level guy because he was toughtalking a lot. Toxic to be around, complete prick to boot.

[DeuxCentCinq]

Antony Moxey said:

Coincidence that these people all seem to be women?

I was thinking that too. The only managers I've ever had a problem with in my career have been women. They seemed to have a massive chip on their shoulders when any mention that they might not be doing their job 100% correctly came up. No, it's not because you're a woman. It's because you're doing that wrong.

And yes, I recognise that "follow the leader" mentality. There was no way they would have survived under a new boss, so followed their old one to another company, time and again.

[Johnnytheboy]

I've had ineffective male bosses too, but the ineffectiveness tends to manifest itself differently.

[Neil H]

Had a horrible bully boss at a previous place. Overly aggressive, always right, unreasonable. She was a ’lifer’ – had been at the company so long she was institutionalised and completely set in her ways. Never considered leaving as she knew she’d never get the same job anywhere else. She had a massive chip on her shoulder and disliked anyone who was well educated and was only amenable to geezer types who hadn’t been to university. Managed to escape via redundancy, I heard later she also got made redundant against her wishes and was out of work for years (possibly still). Karma’s a fking bh.

[Mr Roper]

....need to watch out for decrocs.

[Baz Tench]

If it's anything like my place, the managers close ranks and look after each other in cases of resignation and grievances.

You do become a bit of a marked man if you raise your head above the parapet enough.

[matchmaker]

I had one. He was useless in his job and the only way his previous office could get rid of him was by promoting him. We then got him. He was a lazy, useless waste of space and was nicknamed FLUB - fat, lazy, useless bd.

He was my line manager and although I was based in a remote office he managed to make my life a misery. He was always telling me to do jobs which he should have being doing himself - these orders always came over the phone. If however I wanted advice from him (not that I needed to do that often, as I knew the job a lot better than him) it was always the same response - "put in writing, my son" (I was older than him). I never got backup or help if I needed it and became grossly overworked. At one point I was covering two offices 100 miles apart.

The stress eventually got to me and I had a breakdown. In the lead up to this I wasn't doing my job properly and money went missing. As I was in charge of the remote office = my fault.

Lost job, lost house, 12 months inside for embezzlement.

Many years on I'm in a job I enjoy, good bosses, little or no stress. I subsequently heard that FLUB had a breakdown, lost his job and his wife left him (mine stuck by me and was a rock). Ain't Karma a bh?

[Shaolin]

stty death matchmaker! That went downhill faster and further than I was expecting. Glad to hear you pulled it back again and good on Mrs.M.