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Just discovered that my girlfriend has thrown away my complete collection of EVO mags - every single edition from #1. Apparently it's my fault for being a compulsive hoarder. I know there are many people reporting far more grievous losses on these pages at the moment, and my heart goes out to you all, but I'm absolutely gutted...
Mon Ami Mate said:
Just discovered that my girlfriend has thrown away my complete collection of EVO mags - every single edition from #1. Apparently it's my fault for being a compulsive hoarder. I know there are many people reporting far more grievous losses on these pages at the moment, and my heart goes out to you all, but I'm absolutely gutted...
You've got a training problem.
Mind you, my other half used to be a complusive hoarder and I used to chuck out the odd bits and pieces every now and again without telling him and he never noticed. 
The worst thing was the cardboard boxes which were kept for every single thing he had bought and the endless dishes, cups, placemats, useless kitchen gadgets, ornaments etc. etc. that his mum used to buy us.
The worst thing was the cardboard boxes which were kept for every single thing he had bought and the endless dishes, cups, placemats, useless kitchen gadgets, ornaments etc. etc. that his mum used to buy us.
Blimey! People have died for less...
Want revenge? Tell her a complete collection was worth real money and some of your spending plans will now have to be cut back.
Then look enigmatic (its hard but so rewarding).
I suspect the look on your face will already have induced the right effect...
Want revenge? Tell her a complete collection was worth real money and some of your spending plans will now have to be cut back.
Then look enigmatic (its hard but so rewarding).
I suspect the look on your face will already have induced the right effect...
That's nothing - on returning from University some years ago I discovered that my mother had thrown out the box of 2000AD comics I had that contained every issue from 1 - 150, including most of the free gifts that had come with them.
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Mon Ami Mate said:
Just discovered that my girlfriend has thrown away my complete collection of EVO mags - every single edition from #1. Apparently it's my fault for being a compulsive hoarder. I know there are many people reporting far more grievous losses on these pages at the moment, and my heart goes out to you all, but I'm absolutely gutted...
Sounds like you have a potentially bad bird there, keep your eye on her very closely.
Mate, my ex-bird started making hints at me skinning down my book collection. I put that idea out of its misery instantly. You have to stop the rot as soon as it appears. If your bird starts looking like "preparing the nest" and that involves inroads on your stuff collection, warning bells should be sounding. It's like having mould in your greenhouse, if you dither too long, the whole lot will rot in front of you! 
Mon Ami Mate said:
Has she been watching one of those awful UK Style TV progs.
No. She has been watching lots of those awful UK Style TV progs...
Those damn programmes are like pornography to many women, and they seem to get absolutely addicted to them.
I have first hand experience of this. My missus is very bright and creative - high powered job and directs theatre. Used to watch a diverse range of programming. Now tends to just watch endless House Doctor, Changing Rooms/Garden/Loft/Lavatory....etc. And I haven't even mentioned the endless damned Rick Stein and the filthy muck he eats...
Dangerous stuff mate. Look out.
love machine said:
Mate, my ex-bird started making hints at me skinning down my book collection. I put that idea out of its misery instantly. You have to stop the rot as soon as it appears. If your bird starts looking like "preparing the nest" and that involves inroads on your stuff collection, warning bells should be sounding. It's like having mould in your greenhouse, if you dither too long, the whole lot will rot in front of you!
My boyfriend has often suggested in the past that I get rid of a load of my books. Sacrilege...!
Crikey. I thought I was fairly unique in suffering from this.
About once a month mine forces the kids to find a bin liner full of stuff to throw away. Especially if she has just been out doing some serious shopping. A clothes buying exercise ALWAYS requires a so called 'de-clutter' of the kid's wardrobes. Bags of stuff seem to hit the bin monthly yet apparently we still have too much. No idea where it all comes from.
I get threatened as well and I know some of my stuff has been thrown away without me being consulted.
We even got to the point where I gave up using the dining room as an office because, though we hardly ever used it (once a year if that) she wanted to have it to use again. That was about 2 years ago. Got rid of the furniture, redecorated and re-kitted it. Been used once in that time as I recall. What's in it is totally impractical - it was supposed to be a sitting room for the kids as well but they prefer their own rooms when they are in and in any case the eldest is now at Uni.
Only main use is as an alternative route from the hall to the kitchen and for drying clothes fresh out of the washing machine.
The program makers should be prosecuted.
But in terms of throwing away car mags - think carefully about that one. My guess is that it indicates a conflict of understanding of what is important to you personally. Or, more likely, she is telling you what aspects of you she finds unimportant. Assume therefore that reprogramming attempts will start soon with a view to converting you to whatever this week's TV/Magazine/Horoscope says a BF/husband/partner should be.
Up to you to decide whether that sort of attitude is tolerable in the long run. However don't expect things to miraculously improve over the years as all demands are satisfied (as far as you can judge at least) and odd behaviours, if or when they occur, are indulged. For some they do, but I suspect they are a small minority.
About once a month mine forces the kids to find a bin liner full of stuff to throw away. Especially if she has just been out doing some serious shopping. A clothes buying exercise ALWAYS requires a so called 'de-clutter' of the kid's wardrobes. Bags of stuff seem to hit the bin monthly yet apparently we still have too much. No idea where it all comes from.
I get threatened as well and I know some of my stuff has been thrown away without me being consulted.
We even got to the point where I gave up using the dining room as an office because, though we hardly ever used it (once a year if that) she wanted to have it to use again. That was about 2 years ago. Got rid of the furniture, redecorated and re-kitted it. Been used once in that time as I recall. What's in it is totally impractical - it was supposed to be a sitting room for the kids as well but they prefer their own rooms when they are in and in any case the eldest is now at Uni.
Only main use is as an alternative route from the hall to the kitchen and for drying clothes fresh out of the washing machine.
The program makers should be prosecuted.
But in terms of throwing away car mags - think carefully about that one. My guess is that it indicates a conflict of understanding of what is important to you personally. Or, more likely, she is telling you what aspects of you she finds unimportant. Assume therefore that reprogramming attempts will start soon with a view to converting you to whatever this week's TV/Magazine/Horoscope says a BF/husband/partner should be.
Up to you to decide whether that sort of attitude is tolerable in the long run. However don't expect things to miraculously improve over the years as all demands are satisfied (as far as you can judge at least) and odd behaviours, if or when they occur, are indulged. For some they do, but I suspect they are a small minority.
My Dad has a universal refuge from all of this. It's called... THE SHED... A place where my Mum fears to tread. My Dad does most of the gardening so pretty much has a monopoly on where everything is kept, and he never gets rid of anything, to the point where we have parts for cars I don't think you'd find on the road any more (Simca 1500 doorhandles, anyone? What about some carburettor timing shims that only fit a Morris Marina? Or perhaps you'd settle for the spare wheel from a Vauxhall Chevette.)
The hoarding is to the extent that there is, and I quote, a label on one the doors on the unit we have in there that reads 'Miscellaneous tools and things which may become useful one day', and others that simply read 'odds and ends' and 'bits and bobs'.
I live in fear that my Mum will throw away my car mags in one of her 'tidying' frenzies (the furniture in my room is never in the same place, each time I come home from uni). Perhaps I need to hide them in the shed...
The hoarding is to the extent that there is, and I quote, a label on one the doors on the unit we have in there that reads 'Miscellaneous tools and things which may become useful one day', and others that simply read 'odds and ends' and 'bits and bobs'.
I live in fear that my Mum will throw away my car mags in one of her 'tidying' frenzies (the furniture in my room is never in the same place, each time I come home from uni). Perhaps I need to hide them in the shed...
birdbrain said:
Mate, my ex-bird started making hints at me skinning down my book collection. I put that idea out of its misery instantly. You have to stop the rot as soon as it appears. If your bird starts looking like "preparing the nest" and that involves inroads on your stuff collection, warning bells should be sounding. It's like having mould in your greenhouse, if you dither too long, the whole lot will rot in front of you!
My boyfriend has often suggested in the past that I get rid of a load of my books. Sacrilege...!
That's one thing I'd never tolerate, TBH. Books should be something you amass into a whole library's-worth of info over time, a bit like collecting general knowledge and memories. I could never put up with someone who doesn't understand the value of my books.
v8thunder said:
The hoarding is to the extent that there is, and I quote, a label on one the doors on the unit we have in there that reads 'Miscellaneous tools and things which may become useful one day', and others that simply read 'odds and ends' and 'bits and bobs'.
My dad is exactly the same! What is it about blokes and the need to hoard stuff? We've got this decrepit office table at work which has cluttered up a corner of the room for years BUT has finally been dismantled and is awaiting removal. Each time the men pass it, they pause for a second to deliberate whether the wood can be of any use to them. It's quite fascinating watching this behaviour! The ladies, on the other hand, can't wait to see the back of it. NOT that I'm condoning a throw-away society but sometimes you just have to learn TO LET GO! Gassing Station | The Pie & Piston Archive | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff