Women – sociable?
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I thought women were supposed to be the more sociable sex? That they had better social interaction skills than men and bonded with people more easily?
Not the ones in my new apartment block aren’t. I’ve just moved into a block of ten flats. I’ve met most of the neighbours now. They are all couples – I’m single. Most of them don’t seem to be my kind of people at first glance – different age group background etc but I always make an effort to be polite and have a chat when we bump into each other in the hallway. All the blokes seem to be fine – “Hi Gary, How’s it going? Settling in OK?” etc. The women on the other hand are the most miserable bunch of cows I’ve come across (no puns please
). I’m lucky to get a grunt of acknowledgement from them let alone them stopping for long enough to exchange one or two sentences. Sheesh… don ‘t know why I bother 
Not the ones in my new apartment block aren’t. I’ve just moved into a block of ten flats. I’ve met most of the neighbours now. They are all couples – I’m single. Most of them don’t seem to be my kind of people at first glance – different age group background etc but I always make an effort to be polite and have a chat when we bump into each other in the hallway. All the blokes seem to be fine – “Hi Gary, How’s it going? Settling in OK?” etc. The women on the other hand are the most miserable bunch of cows I’ve come across (no puns please
). I’m lucky to get a grunt of acknowledgement from them let alone them stopping for long enough to exchange one or two sentences. Sheesh… don ‘t know why I bother KingRichard said:
Most of the girls just grunt!
not after showering? really ben, you must find some new friends...
Well after this weekend I am suprised they even grunt. It's more a case of "gimme ure drink, am gonna put my tongue down ure throat, here's my room, cya later."
shirepro said:
They'll be keeping you at arms length in case you want to run off with their partner. Try looking a bit more nerdy and less cool and attractive. Worked for me...but then I am nerdy and unattractive.
Eh?
I'm a fella, the other fellas are friendly enough it's the women that are being miserable. Unless the women are afraid I'm going to run off with their partners – which I’m not. I hope I don't look that camp!t1grm said:
They'll be keeping you at arms length in case you want to run off with their partner. Try looking a bit more nerdy and less cool and attractive. Worked for me...but then I am nerdy and unattractive.
Eh?
Yeah, seconded... thought it didn't read right first time round...
I don't buy into any gender-stereotypes, but one thing I find is that the women take one look at me and assume immediately that all I'm interested in is getting my leg over. If I just be myself, ie sociable and friendly, they assume I'm being creepy and slimy.
Thing is, the girls who've actually given me a chance have gone on to become some of my closest friends, but IMO I've missed out on some other potential friendships - and even relationships - because I've had assumptions made about me and people have perceived me as untrustworthy when any friend will tell you I'm one of the most trustworthy, honest, 'clean' people you could know.
'Women's intuition'. Sorry, don't buy it.
Thing is, the girls who've actually given me a chance have gone on to become some of my closest friends, but IMO I've missed out on some other potential friendships - and even relationships - because I've had assumptions made about me and people have perceived me as untrustworthy when any friend will tell you I'm one of the most trustworthy, honest, 'clean' people you could know.
'Women's intuition'. Sorry, don't buy it.
v8thunder said:
I don't buy into any gender-stereotypes, but one thing I find is that the women take one look at me and assume immediately that all I'm interested in is getting my leg over. If I just be myself, ie sociable and friendly, they assume I'm being creepy and slimy.
Thing is, the girls who've actually given me a chance have gone on to become some of my closest friends, but IMO I've missed out on some other potential friendships - and even relationships - because I've had assumptions made about me and people have perceived me as untrustworthy when any friend will tell you I'm one of the most trustworthy, honest, 'clean' people you could know.
'Women's intuition'. Sorry, don't buy it.
Have to agree, get the same thing when I tell women what I do for a living... maybe they expect me to rob their granny or slip her some arsenic so I can sell her house?
Who knows, and I can only guess what the reaction will be when I tell them I'm a Property developer... they'll suspect all of the above and accuse me of buying granny's bungalow for peanuts and building a car park on it
And as for the F360 parked outside the Pub... I won't stand a chance!
maybe
v8thunder said:
one thing I find is that the women take one look at me and assume immediately that all I'm interested in is getting my leg over. If I just be myself, ie sociable and friendly, they assume I'm being creepy and slimy.
It did occur to me that maybe they think I’m coming onto them when I try to start a conversation because they know I’m single and younger than them. But I’m not, and it’s a pretty sad reflection of their attitude IMHO if that is the case. It’s not like I even get far as striking up a conversation so there’s no possibility of anything I say getting misconstrued.
Sounds like you may have a serious personal hygiene or appearance problem. That's why the guys are being friendly, they see you as no threat whatsoever.
However, in general, women tend to be more concerned with appearance than men and this could perhaps explain their reaction.
At this stage, this is merely conjecture.
What you need to do is take a long hard look in the mirror, then ask yourself this simple question
" Am I whiffy"
>> Edited by sparkythecat on Monday 24th January 23:53
However, in general, women tend to be more concerned with appearance than men and this could perhaps explain their reaction.
At this stage, this is merely conjecture.
What you need to do is take a long hard look in the mirror, then ask yourself this simple question
" Am I whiffy"
>> Edited by sparkythecat on Monday 24th January 23:53
Hey ended up not too far from there a couple months ago... got err, lost after hitting the stella tent in Alton Towers
Ended up in Nottingham but couldn't get in anywhere...
I wouldn't have let us in, if I were the doorstaff watching my mate puke on his shoes
Binge Drinking? I'll miss it
Ended up in Nottingham but couldn't get in anywhere...
I wouldn't have let us in, if I were the doorstaff watching my mate puke on his shoes
Binge Drinking? I'll miss it
t1grm said:
one thing I find is that the women take one look at me and assume immediately that all I'm interested in is getting my leg over. If I just be myself, ie sociable and friendly, they assume I'm being creepy and slimy.
It did occur to me that maybe they think I’m coming onto them when I try to start a conversation because they know I’m single and younger than them. But I’m not, and it’s a pretty sad reflection of their attitude IMHO if that is the case. It’s not like I even get far as striking up a conversation so there’s no possibility of anything I say getting misconstrued.
just look at them askance and say don't even flatter yourself darling
then run. fast 
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