Lending Money to Friends
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A friend was in a tight spot back in August so I lent her £100 which would be paid back "two weeks tops".
After waiting 3 weeks I asked for it back, "I'm going to have to get back to you tomorrow or something as there is some stuff waiting to be cleared out of my account and waiting for some to go in too.", another 3 weeks passed - "oh sorry I forgot".
All of this is going on when I can see she's been off clubbing, going to dismaland and out for nice meals with her new fella.
Sent one a couple of weeks back before she went to Ibiza. No reply.
Messaged tonight for the coup de grace. After saying how it takes the piss to f
k off to Ibiza and spent hundreds of pounds on drugs and partying when you owe a mate I get this.
"I didn't exactly have a choice in the matter seeing as if booked it ages ago. To ask for it back right before you knew I was going away to Ibiza is also pretty stty"
Yup, I'm now being stty for asking for my money.
/rant
Sorry needed to get that off my chest.
Will be getting it Monday supposedly. Why is it people only respond when you start getting arsey?
Lesson learned. Again.
After waiting 3 weeks I asked for it back, "I'm going to have to get back to you tomorrow or something as there is some stuff waiting to be cleared out of my account and waiting for some to go in too.", another 3 weeks passed - "oh sorry I forgot".
All of this is going on when I can see she's been off clubbing, going to dismaland and out for nice meals with her new fella.
Sent one a couple of weeks back before she went to Ibiza. No reply.
Messaged tonight for the coup de grace. After saying how it takes the piss to f
k off to Ibiza and spent hundreds of pounds on drugs and partying when you owe a mate I get this."I didn't exactly have a choice in the matter seeing as if booked it ages ago. To ask for it back right before you knew I was going away to Ibiza is also pretty s
tty"Yup, I'm now being s
tty for asking for my money. /rant
Sorry needed to get that off my chest.
Will be getting it Monday supposedly. Why is it people only respond when you start getting arsey?
Lesson learned. Again.
Zoobeef said:
I hate asking for money back with a passion so well done for even asking!
I'd ask once then write it off along with the mate.
Being English I hate even talking about money let alone chasing it for months. Hugely uncomfortable.I'd ask once then write it off along with the mate.
Can't understand the mentality of people who wouldn't be trying to pay it back as soon as they could.
Very old friend so won't bin but moving further away from that group as having a good time seems to purely involve getting wasted, going clubbing and being feckless. Understandable in your twenties but they are still at it in their mid 30's
Jasandjules said:
Did she ask you to borrow it or did you volunteer it?
I don't quite understand the "lend to a friend don't expect it back" - to me a friend is the one person who you should expect will get your money back to you as soon as they can.
She asked, had several thousand pounds in cash on the table in front of me at the time so made it hard to refuse I don't quite understand the "lend to a friend don't expect it back" - to me a friend is the one person who you should expect will get your money back to you as soon as they can.
Didn't mind her being a few weeks late but it's taking the piss after 3 months.
Edited by CountZero23 on Wednesday 14th October 22:42
I've stopped lending money to friends purely because I've experienced the same as you. Can't afford to repay my £200, but happy to buy a new phone, upgrade Sky, go to the pub to watch every football match, etc etc. In the end I wrote the money off, never saw the guy again, and when he asked me for a favour (a lift since he'd seen I was going where he wanted), I told him to either repay my £200 or walk. He walked. I haven't spoken to him since, nor do I want to.
Years ago I lent a few hundred quid to a work colleague with the promise of ill pay you back at the end of the month, well that time came and went and i asked for it back, of course he didn't have it as he was skint.When i was next in work he was off, over in New york,i bloody was mad. I gave him so much abuse over it when he got back,the following day i was summonsed to the managers office where the guys mum was waiting for me, she had the money which she gave me them had a go as her son had taken an overdose and it was somehow my fault, all my fault 
she wouldn't listen to what i had too say as he had told her i had given him the cash and not borrowed it to him. Felt quite st over that. Never lent money since and never will.
she wouldn't listen to what i had too say as he had told her i had given him the cash and not borrowed it to him. Felt quite st over that. Never lent money since and never will.I test the waters with values of no more than £5
I will never ask for this money back.. but if it doesn't come back as i gave it to them ( i.e no BS like, i got you that drink, or I gave you petrol money that time etc etc ), then they can foxtrot oscar if they think they can ever ask me for money again.
I'd rather not write off friends over money.. but its easy to never lend to them again if they have a £5 debt outstanding for the past 10 years
I will never ask for this money back.. but if it doesn't come back as i gave it to them ( i.e no BS like, i got you that drink, or I gave you petrol money that time etc etc ), then they can foxtrot oscar if they think they can ever ask me for money again.
I'd rather not write off friends over money.. but its easy to never lend to them again if they have a £5 debt outstanding for the past 10 years
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