Don't know if I have 99 problems, but a women is one...
Discussion
Firstly, sorry for the awful thread title. Secondly, I never thought I'd start a thread like this, but s
t happens...
Met a girl at work earlier on in the year. Came across as a nice person. Got her number and we started texting, but it was general chitter chatter. After a while, I asked her out, but she said no. I felt a bit wounded, but it wasn't that bad. Next couple days were awkward, but everything was cool after.
Recently about a month or two ago, we were just texting and chatting crap, and I told her that I wasn't blagging about what I'd said to her, and we had a good convo, but I felt as if she was holding something back... Maybe I should have let it go then?...
Fast forward to the last few days, and I'm losing the feelings I'd had for her, cuz it felt as if it was going round in circles, so I dropped it to her that I couldn't be bothered with her anymore. Seen her at work and blanked her. I admit I acted a little immature and like a bhboy.
She texts me saying why are you being moody, and I told her I cba with her... Seen her leave later, and she was walking with a mate, and broke down....
I feel so fking awful. I thought by telling her that I don't like her anymore, it would be a relief, but fk me its made me feel like st. Seeing her breakdown, can honestly not describe how bad it made me feel.
Should I just leave it and forget her? Or is there some hope?....
Anyways, thanks for reading about my pathetic first world problem
t happens... Met a girl at work earlier on in the year. Came across as a nice person. Got her number and we started texting, but it was general chitter chatter. After a while, I asked her out, but she said no. I felt a bit wounded, but it wasn't that bad. Next couple days were awkward, but everything was cool after.
Recently about a month or two ago, we were just texting and chatting crap, and I told her that I wasn't blagging about what I'd said to her, and we had a good convo, but I felt as if she was holding something back... Maybe I should have let it go then?...
Fast forward to the last few days, and I'm losing the feelings I'd had for her, cuz it felt as if it was going round in circles, so I dropped it to her that I couldn't be bothered with her anymore. Seen her at work and blanked her. I admit I acted a little immature and like a b
hboy.She texts me saying why are you being moody, and I told her I cba with her... Seen her leave later, and she was walking with a mate, and broke down....
I feel so f
king awful. I thought by telling her that I don't like her anymore, it would be a relief, but fk me its made me feel like st. Seeing her breakdown, can honestly not describe how bad it made me feel.Should I just leave it and forget her? Or is there some hope?....
Anyways, thanks for reading about my pathetic first world problem
Amirhussain said:
Firstly, sorry for the awful thread title. Secondly, I never thought I'd start a thread like this, but st happens...
Met a girl at work earlier on in the year. Came across as a nice person. Got her number and we started texting, but it was general chitter chatter. After a while, I asked her out, but she said no. I felt a bit wounded, but it wasn't that bad. Next couple days were awkward, but everything was cool after.
Recently about a month or two ago, we were just texting and chatting crap, and I told her that I wasn't blagging about what I'd said to her, and we had a good convo, but I felt as if she was holding something back... Maybe I should have let it go then?...
Fast forward to the last few days, and I'm losing the feelings I'd had for her, cuz it felt as if it was going round in circles, so I dropped it to her that I couldn't be bothered with her anymore. Seen her at work and blanked her. I admit I acted a little immature and like a bhboy.
She texts me saying why are you being moody, and I told her I cba with her... Seen her leave later, and she was walking with a mate, and broke down....
I feel so fking awful. I thought by telling her that I don't like her anymore, it would be a relief, but fk me its made me feel like st. Seeing her breakdown, can honestly not describe how bad it made me feel.
Should I just leave it and forget her? Or is there some hope?....
Anyways, thanks for reading about my pathetic first world problem
Do you know for sure that the broke down over you? t happens... Met a girl at work earlier on in the year. Came across as a nice person. Got her number and we started texting, but it was general chitter chatter. After a while, I asked her out, but she said no. I felt a bit wounded, but it wasn't that bad. Next couple days were awkward, but everything was cool after.
Recently about a month or two ago, we were just texting and chatting crap, and I told her that I wasn't blagging about what I'd said to her, and we had a good convo, but I felt as if she was holding something back... Maybe I should have let it go then?...
Fast forward to the last few days, and I'm losing the feelings I'd had for her, cuz it felt as if it was going round in circles, so I dropped it to her that I couldn't be bothered with her anymore. Seen her at work and blanked her. I admit I acted a little immature and like a b
hboy.She texts me saying why are you being moody, and I told her I cba with her... Seen her leave later, and she was walking with a mate, and broke down....
I feel so f
king awful. I thought by telling her that I don't like her anymore, it would be a relief, but fk me its made me feel like st. Seeing her breakdown, can honestly not describe how bad it made me feel.Should I just leave it and forget her? Or is there some hope?....
Anyways, thanks for reading about my pathetic first world problem
Not a first world problem at all, in fact this is about as old as time.
I think it's a really difficult position to be in, and it seems to me that a degree of tact and responsibility for the emotional well being of the recipient is called for.
I'm not sure how you phrased it, but I'm not sure it was tactful.
I'm not sure if you want to recover a possible friend here - if so you probably need to talk to her humbly and quietly and explain that you are no longer interested in a relationship, but would value her friendship, and don't want to see her hurt and upset etc etc etc, and you were sorry if you came across as heartless it's just because you were upset etc etc.
You don't want your reputation damaged by this, as it might effect your personal relationships in the future, with both blokes and women.
If you truly CBA, move on and don't worry.
Mind you, I'm crap at this type of stuff, so make your own mind up about these comments.
Best of luck
I think it's a really difficult position to be in, and it seems to me that a degree of tact and responsibility for the emotional well being of the recipient is called for.
I'm not sure how you phrased it, but I'm not sure it was tactful.
I'm not sure if you want to recover a possible friend here - if so you probably need to talk to her humbly and quietly and explain that you are no longer interested in a relationship, but would value her friendship, and don't want to see her hurt and upset etc etc etc, and you were sorry if you came across as heartless it's just because you were upset etc etc.
You don't want your reputation damaged by this, as it might effect your personal relationships in the future, with both blokes and women.
If you truly CBA, move on and don't worry.
Mind you, I'm crap at this type of stuff, so make your own mind up about these comments.
Best of luck
bearman68 said:
Not a first world problem at all, in fact this is about as old as time.
I think it's a really difficult position to be in, and it seems to me that a degree of tact and responsibility for the emotional well being of the recipient is called for.
I'm not sure how you phrased it, but I'm not sure it was tactful.
I'm not sure if you want to recover a possible friend here - if so you probably need to talk to her humbly and quietly and explain that you are no longer interested in a relationship, but would value her friendship, and don't want to see her hurt and upset etc etc etc, and you were sorry if you came across as heartless it's just because you were upset etc etc.
You don't want your reputation damaged by this, as it might effect your personal relationships in the future, with both blokes and women.
If you truly CBA, move on and don't worry.
Mind you, I'm crap at this type of stuff, so make your own mind up about these comments.
Best of luck
Truthfully, I think I told her I cba with her due to frustration and impatience, not saying I want an answer then and there, but it can be a bit discouraging when things drag.. I think it's a really difficult position to be in, and it seems to me that a degree of tact and responsibility for the emotional well being of the recipient is called for.
I'm not sure how you phrased it, but I'm not sure it was tactful.
I'm not sure if you want to recover a possible friend here - if so you probably need to talk to her humbly and quietly and explain that you are no longer interested in a relationship, but would value her friendship, and don't want to see her hurt and upset etc etc etc, and you were sorry if you came across as heartless it's just because you were upset etc etc.
You don't want your reputation damaged by this, as it might effect your personal relationships in the future, with both blokes and women.
If you truly CBA, move on and don't worry.
Mind you, I'm crap at this type of stuff, so make your own mind up about these comments.
Best of luck
I would like to remain friends with her if the chances of a relationship are over, obviously if she feels the same way.
I do like her, and I've said my bit, I think she may be feeling a bit gutted herself?..
FreeLitres said:
Amirhussain said:
Firstly, sorry for the awful thread title. Secondly, I never thought I'd start a thread like this, but st happens...
Met a girl at work earlier on in the year. Came across as a nice person. Got her number and we started texting, but it was general chitter chatter. After a while, I asked her out, but she said no. I felt a bit wounded, but it wasn't that bad. Next couple days were awkward, but everything was cool after.
Recently about a month or two ago, we were just texting and chatting crap, and I told her that I wasn't blagging about what I'd said to her, and we had a good convo, but I felt as if she was holding something back... Maybe I should have let it go then?...
Fast forward to the last few days, and I'm losing the feelings I'd had for her, cuz it felt as if it was going round in circles, so I dropped it to her that I couldn't be bothered with her anymore. Seen her at work and blanked her. I admit I acted a little immature and like a bhboy.
She texts me saying why are you being moody, and I told her I cba with her... Seen her leave later, and she was walking with a mate, and broke down....
I feel so fking awful. I thought by telling her that I don't like her anymore, it would be a relief, but fk me its made me feel like st. Seeing her breakdown, can honestly not describe how bad it made me feel.
Should I just leave it and forget her? Or is there some hope?....
Anyways, thanks for reading about my pathetic first world problem
Do you know for sure that the broke down over you? t happens... Met a girl at work earlier on in the year. Came across as a nice person. Got her number and we started texting, but it was general chitter chatter. After a while, I asked her out, but she said no. I felt a bit wounded, but it wasn't that bad. Next couple days were awkward, but everything was cool after.
Recently about a month or two ago, we were just texting and chatting crap, and I told her that I wasn't blagging about what I'd said to her, and we had a good convo, but I felt as if she was holding something back... Maybe I should have let it go then?...
Fast forward to the last few days, and I'm losing the feelings I'd had for her, cuz it felt as if it was going round in circles, so I dropped it to her that I couldn't be bothered with her anymore. Seen her at work and blanked her. I admit I acted a little immature and like a b
hboy.She texts me saying why are you being moody, and I told her I cba with her... Seen her leave later, and she was walking with a mate, and broke down....
I feel so f
king awful. I thought by telling her that I don't like her anymore, it would be a relief, but fk me its made me feel like st. Seeing her breakdown, can honestly not describe how bad it made me feel.Should I just leave it and forget her? Or is there some hope?....
Anyways, thanks for reading about my pathetic first world problem
The way you described the situation in the OP, is sounds like she has no interest in you at all so I can't see why she would be upset if you declare that you dont want a relationship. It just doesnt seem to make sense.
Were your text conversations leading to a relationship or were they simply chit chat as you said?
Were your text conversations leading to a relationship or were they simply chit chat as you said?
so you got friendly with her
She didn't want a relationship in the physical sense and was upfront and thought she had a new friend.
You seeing only as a piece of meat decide that friendship isn't worth the hassle, so tell her to leave you alone.
Then you blank her and stuff.
She breaks down as she doesnt know what she has done to ruin the friendship
One of her friends decides to find out and you blank her too.
Seriously did I read it that wrong?
She told you no, but friends was ok... you say yes then change your find and don't have the guts to say...
'Sorry I don't think it will work us being friends, as I feel like I would like more, but know that won't happen, so if Im not being too rude I think the texts should stop... It doesnt mean I won't say hello, etc when I see you, but I don't want to mess around with my head at the moment, I hope you understand?'
what are you like 12?
She didn't want a relationship in the physical sense and was upfront and thought she had a new friend.
You seeing only as a piece of meat decide that friendship isn't worth the hassle, so tell her to leave you alone.
Then you blank her and stuff.
She breaks down as she doesnt know what she has done to ruin the friendship
One of her friends decides to find out and you blank her too.
Seriously did I read it that wrong?
She told you no, but friends was ok... you say yes then change your find and don't have the guts to say...
'Sorry I don't think it will work us being friends, as I feel like I would like more, but know that won't happen, so if Im not being too rude I think the texts should stop... It doesnt mean I won't say hello, etc when I see you, but I don't want to mess around with my head at the moment, I hope you understand?'
what are you like 12?
So there's a girl you fancied and asked out. She said no but we can be friends. You say OK, Let's be friends! You were then friends and remained so.
Now that you don't want to sleep with her anymore you no longer want to be friends. You blank her. Then you tell here that you Can't Be Arsed with her.
She is upset.
Have I read that right? I know women sometimes have a reputation for behaving mysteriously, but I really don't think this is one of those times.
Now that you don't want to sleep with her anymore you no longer want to be friends. You blank her. Then you tell here that you Can't Be Arsed with her.
She is upset.
Have I read that right? I know women sometimes have a reputation for behaving mysteriously, but I really don't think this is one of those times.
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