Help with school please.

[AndStilliRise]

Things were all going ok as well.

DS was suspended today from school. Him and his friend had thought it would be wise to phone up the receptionist at the school coach company and talk about sex toys.

It is a state grammar school, one of the best in the country and very difficult to get into. A school which seems to pride itself on the achievements of the students, so now i am worried sick - fearing the worst that they will be expelled leaving us to find a new school for him.

Would anyone know anything about this stuff? I have the policies for the school however from reading it seems they are literally free to impose whatever punishment they choose.

Really could do with some help, thank you in advance.

[anonymous-user]

Whats DS ?

[Monkeylegend]

DS. Is this a mumsnetism?

[Moonhawk]

DS = Dear/Darling Son?

I think I may have spotted part of the problem........

Kick his arse and get him to make a sincere grovelling apology to both the school and the receptionist then apply a suitable punishment.....and stick to it!

Edited by Moonhawk on Monday 14th December 22:41

[Deerfoot]

MDMA . said:

Whats DS ?

dhead son by the sounds of it.

OP, a sincere apology from your son might be a starting point.

[davepoth]

Monkeylegend said:

DS. Is this a mumsnetism?

Maybe he owns a Citroen. that might be more appropriate.

Talk to the school in a sensible and rational fashion, understand what they want to do, make sure that they know that you appreciate the gravity of the situation. I would go and apologise to the lady yourself, and ask her if she would like a personal apology from your son. The utter agony of that will be more than enough shame for him I should imagine. Also consider (if you haven't already) taking away his phone, or restricting it to emergency calls only.

Kids do all kinds of stupid st. At least it wasn't criminal.

[size]

Daytime son? At least you'll still have the Night-time son to be proud of.

[dudleybloke]

Get a copy of the school rules.
If it doesn't specifically state they can't chat dildos with receptionists then I see no reason to suspend him.

Failing that, trial by combat.

[anonymous-user]

1. Hows he got caught ? Recognised his voice ?
2. Did he use own phone or give own name ?
3. If any of the above, hes not clever enough for grammar school.

Get him in the local comp and you can then join the council thread.

[Funkycoldribena]

Hmmm...I have my doubts..

[essayer]

Say it was the other kid's idea

[AndStilliRise]

Funkycoldribena said:

Hmmm...I have my doubts..

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[Monkeylegend]

Stick a dildo up DS's asre and tell him not to do it again, oh and grovel.

[anonymous-user]

dudleybloke said:

Get a copy of the school rules.
If it doesn't specifically state they can't chat dildos with receptionists then I see no reason to suspend him.

Failing that, trial by combat.

If it's a grammar school, it's likely that they will have much stricter rules than "normal" non-selective schools.

Having said that I have just asked my son (who is at a fee-paying grammar school) what the punishment at his place would be and he reckons short exclusion and major league bking. On watch for a while, and if you are borderline academically it is a bit harder and will count against at review times.


I hope he is OK - sounds quite amusing, in a childish way.

[Fittster]

Not a chance he'll be expelled. The hassle to exclude a child is so huge it's not going to happen.

[AndStilliRise]

Fittster said:

Not a chance he'll be expelled. The hassle to exclude a child is so huge it's not going to happen.

I hope you are right. I know it was a stupid mistake, but i guess we were all kids at one stage.

Thank you for all the replies, even the amusing ones.

[Leptons]

Mumsnet Trolling.




AICMFP

[Gareth79]

davepoth said:

I would go and apologise to the lady yourself, and ask her if she would like a personal apology from your son. The utter agony of that will be more than enough shame for him I should imagine. Also consider (if you haven't already) taking away his phone, or restricting it to emergency calls only.

Kids do all kinds of stupid st. At least it wasn't criminal.

I'd think it would be essential to get the school to ask on their behalf first - turning up at the coach company (or even calling) could be seen as interfering.

Regarding criminal - depending on the content of the call it may very well cross the threshold - Communications Act 2003 or Malicious Communications Act 1988, but I imagine few people want to criminalise school/6th form kids.

[davepoth]

Gareth79 said:

I'd think it would be essential to get the school to ask on their behalf first - turning up at the coach company (or even calling) could be seen as interfering.

Regarding criminal - depending on the content of the call it may very well cross the threshold - Communications Act 2003 or Malicious Communications Act 1988, but I imagine few people want to criminalise school/6th form kids.

Is it an absolute offence? If the kid had a legitimate reason to ask the lady about sex toys I can't see how there could be mens rea there.

[dudleybloke]

The important question is what's in the receptionist's toy box.

We need answers.