Am I right to be annoyed?

[Chongwong]

A number of weeks ago I was offered a new job within my current place of employment, I accepted this. I was then told that they legally need to advertise it in house, but not to worry, the job was mine and that I'll start when all interests are in. Tonight I've been told that they've given it to another member of staff and the reason they'd offered me the job is that they didn't think he would want it. I assume there is nothing I can do about this, so I only ask, is my anger justified?

[bigunit00]

It would be more worrying if you weren't annoyed. I would be fuming and they would know all about it.

[Chongwong]

My manager is well aware, as he got a rather angry earful. He did apologise at least, but said there's nothing that can be done now that he's given the job to somebody else

[Spitfire2]

your employer must have a grievance process? why not use it?

[Chongwong]

Its a relatively small business, the grievance process is to complain to management. Or the managers father who owns the business.

[mondeoman]

Exlax in their coffee...

[JJ55]

That takes the piss. Time to look for another job me thinks.

[StuTheGrouch]

I'd be fking fuming. I am normally very calm and rational, but under those circumstances I become the sort that presses the nuclear button quite readily, so if I was in such a situation I would probably:

1. Have a heated discussion with my line manager or whoever promised the job immediately
2. Hand in notice about 10 minutes later to make a point
3. Go home and start to regret it, but ultimately talk myself into believing I did the right thing.

Depends on circumstances of course, so don't take this as advice on what you should do!

[Freakuk]

So they offered you the job and you accepted, then offered it to someone else and they accepted.... And there's nothing they can do?

Well they offer it to you again, then there's nothing the other guy can do right? Sorry to me that stinks as they're changing the rules to suit themselves.

[edc]

Of course your anger is 'justified'. Who wouldn't be peeved at the end result. However, what are you intending to do about it? What result do you want?

It may not be what you want to hear but you were unfortunately second choice for the role.

Your better bet is to be more constructive and ask them why they chose the other person over you, what attributes/skills/experience they have more of over you. Ask if you can get some additional training/experience, on the job or otherwise, to bolster you in those areas to position you better next time and for similar roles. This way you leave them with the impression of "here is a good guy that we can develop" rather than that guy "who complains bitterly, gets in a slump and doesn't aim to improve".

[Rude-boy]

edc said:

Of course your anger is 'justified'. Who wouldn't be peeved at the end result. However, what are you intending to do about it? What result do you want?

It may not be what you want to hear but you were unfortunately second choice for the role.

Your better bet is to be more constructive and ask them why they chose the other person over you, what attributes/skills/experience they have more of over you. Ask if you can get some additional training/experience, on the job or otherwise, to bolster you in those areas to position you better next time and for similar roles. This way you leave them with the impression of "here is a good guy that we can develop" rather than that guy "who complains bitterly, gets in a slump and doesn't aim to improve".

This,

Whilst looking for another job.

[cat with a hat]

I would leave ASAP

[bitchstewie]

Freakuk said:

So they offered you the job and you accepted, then offered it to someone else and they accepted.... And there's nothing they can do?

Well they offer it to you again, then there's nothing the other guy can do right? Sorry to me that stinks as they're changing the rules to suit themselves.

That of sums it up perfectly.

[Vocal Minority]

I guess it may practical to see where you can improve, I guess - but this is a really shocking way to treat an employee. I think you have every right to be cross.

[Hoofy]

Rude-boy said:

edc said:

Of course your anger is 'justified'. Who wouldn't be peeved at the end result. However, what are you intending to do about it? What result do you want?

It may not be what you want to hear but you were unfortunately second choice for the role.

Your better bet is to be more constructive and ask them why they chose the other person over you, what attributes/skills/experience they have more of over you. Ask if you can get some additional training/experience, on the job or otherwise, to bolster you in those areas to position you better next time and for similar roles. This way you leave them with the impression of "here is a good guy that we can develop" rather than that guy "who complains bitterly, gets in a slump and doesn't aim to improve".

This,

Whilst looking for another job.

Suggest they send you on a course that gives you some kind of relevant, professional, respected qualification. Then leave.

[Chongwong]

Hey guy, mostly sorted now. Can't go into detail, but cheers for your help/ opinions.

[StuTheGrouch]

Come on, some details please mate!